The School of Greatness - How Generational Trauma Is Secretly Running Your Life | Dr. Mariel Buqué

Episode Date: March 20, 2026

Dr. Mariel Buqué opens with a revelation that stops you in your tracks: trauma isn't just something that happened to you, it is something that was passed down to you at the genetic level, beginning at conception. Most people move through life in a low-grade survival state, reacting to triggers they cannot explain, carrying the emotional weight of ancestors who never got the chance to heal. This is why depression, anxiety, and a persistent sense of not being enough feel so impossible to shake, they were wired in long before you had any say. Dr. Buqué walks you through how to regulate your nervous system daily, how to challenge the limiting beliefs that run your life, and why healing your body first unlocks your ability to think, create, and finally thrive. The work is hard and it bends you into uncomfortable shapes, but today is always a good day to start breaking the cycle. Dr. Buqué’s book Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma Dr. Buqué's website and newsletter Dr. Buqué's course BTC™ Generational Trauma Therapy Training Dr. Buqué on TikTok Dr. Buqué on Instagram In this episode you will: Understand how generational trauma is passed down biologically and why you may be carrying wounds that were never yours to begin with Learn three accessible nervous system regulation practices you can use anywhere to interrupt stress responses in real time Recognize the difference between managing mental health symptoms and actually healing the trauma underneath them Discover how to challenge limiting beliefs about yourself by tracing them back to their root and doing the body-centered work alongside the mental work Shift from survival mode into a state where creativity, abundance, and meaningful connection become genuinely possible For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1904 For more Greatness text PODCAST to [phone] Follow The Daily Motivation for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Gabor Maté Jerry Wise Dr. Daniel Amen Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

A lot of people are afraid to go back into the stories of their past. They're afraid to face the pain, the traumas that they're aware of, and also to face the things they're unaware of, the generational traumas. Why is it so hard for us to face these past traumas and pains? It's hard for a number of reasons. I mean, I think that a lot of what makes it hard is that people start feeling really unsafe in their own bodies whenever they're talking about trauma. Trauma is like that, that area of mental health

that we're still a little bit tentative about touching in conversation. And so it makes it so that people, you know, don't necessarily want to get into the nitty-gritty of not only trauma and understanding what trauma is, but also like how trauma impacts their own lives, how trauma transcends down their lineage, how trauma has been a part of their lives,

because people will exist in trauma, but then have a tough time even acknowledging that it even is a thing. So what would you say is the percentage of people that exist in trauma in the U.S.? Oh, goodness. Well, I mean, I saw not too long ago, like this statistic. I think it can't be variable

because we got to acknowledge the fact that some people won't actually acknowledge that they're in trauma or know that they're in trauma, right? But the statistics said somewhere around, like, 65 or so percent in a lifetime. So we, like, someone will, 65% of the population in the U.S. will experience trauma in their lifetime, some element of trauma. Now you layer in a pandemic.

All right. How many people actually face their trauma of the 65%, you know? Now we're talking like really, really tall, tiny numbers. Little mountain. Because we have to acknowledge that people are also not in the know that they're existing in trauma. People believe that the way that they're experiencing their emotions is status quo. This is the way it's supposed to be. It's the way I am.

That's all they know. They've never been taught otherwise. What they've seen in their families has been a representation of trauma responses. And it's never been anything unlike what they experience in their day to day. So for them to actually even get to the point of saying, I have trauma in my life. Oh, I have something to work on. Or I can, like, commit to actually working on this. I don't have to exist in trauma is really unheard of for a lot of people.

What are the levels of trauma? You know, is it like low level trauma versus a high level trauma? What are the differences? And how can we identify? Oh, I think I'm experiencing trauma in my body right now. Well, you know, I think we have to like define trauma, right? So trauma is basically an acute emotional response to a life event that is extremely stressful. Sometimes that life event is threatening to your physical safety.

sometimes it's threatening to your psychological safety, sometimes both. And so we can understand, okay, this is what trauma is. It's an emotional response. It's an emotional response to an event that is extremely stressful. So it's like, so it's a trigger. You know, it's like if someone says something in your space and you're like, ooh, that triggered me, I don't like that feeling. I don't like what they said.

I don't like what they did or their actions. There's an event happening in the world. your response to it is emotionally charged. Is that what I'm hearing you say? Correct. It's emotionally charged and it's correct. It's also directly connected to your nervous system. So when people say I'm triggered,

what they're saying is some aspect of my experience is in fight, flight, freezer phone. That's what they're saying. And if I'm in a trauma response, it's your behavioral response to being in fight, flight, freezer, phone. Yeah, you could be reactive or screaming and you'd be like,

avoiding, exactly, distance. The freeze is like dissociating, disconnecting from your environment and really being in that protective mental space and then collapsing completely is the fun response. Or numbing, right?

It's like people do a lot of numbing which drugs, alcohol, or addictions of any sight. All of it. Over the last few years, I've really said to myself I would love to be able to be in the world and look at every event as a neutral event as there are things happening, I may not like it or agree with it, or I may like it

or agree with it. I'm kind of looking at as a neutral event and seeing how can I consciously communicate something about the event to get a result. My goal has been in the last few years is to figure out how can I look at the world as events are happening but not letting them affect me emotionally. Yes, I'm going to be affected by things. not letting me hold me back, let's say, from taking action in my life, from being a good partner, my relationships, from taking care of my health. That's been kind of my goal. It's a great goal.

Because I used to grow up feeling very triggered by so many things. And then I would be, you know, stuck in bed or I wouldn't take action on the things I wanted. Events would consume me. Events would hurt me. Events would trigger me. Or people would do those things. If someone would cut me off, I would scream in the car, right? I would be someone. so triggered, right? It was like, I have to beat this person or something. And I tell you what, by practicing this, and it's been doing a lot of self-reflecting, a lot of therapy and a lot of work on myself, by practicing this, the world is neutral mindset. You know it's not. There's a lot of bad things that are happening. It's allowing me to look at and say, I don't like this. I don't

want this to happen in the world, but I'm not going to let it consume me and hold me back from living a peaceful, harmonious life. And that's been kind of my goal. It's been very challenging. But I've never felt this much peace in my life. I love that for you. And I wonder, is that something we should be thinking about? Or is that ignorant of me? And I should be triggered more by all the life's events and all the people that are around me and just be so emotionally charged and reactive as opposed to, okay, I see this for what it is. How can I respond from a conscious way? Yeah. I mean, I think that it's a goal that we should all aim to strive for. Like I think it's a goal that I definitely share with you. Really? Yeah, absolutely. You know, the only thing that

the caveat there, right, is that because we're human, because we're designed. Of course. A certain way. It's not very feasible. Exactly. Yeah. So, you know, and the thing about that design is that Anything that actually looks like a potential threat or even catapults you back into time, like actually reminds you of something that has actually already, like, threatened your existence in some way, your safety in some way, that that's already going to be something that's going to revamp that emotional energy. And so you're not necessarily going to be in that neutral place. We're not meant to be neutral. We're just not designed that way.

Right, right. It's not being neutral. It's, here's the thing, I tell my girlfriend this, I say, I'm always aware. She's like, how did you know this was happening or this was happening? I'm like, because I'm looking and I'm scanning the world for threats, right? Like, it's my natural state to look for threats, but it's trying to not react from a fearful place. That's it. So I want to be aware and present of like, not just walk around the street and get hit by a car.

I want to look around and be aware and reactive, but then come back to a centered place of peace is the goal. Yeah. And I think a lot of what you're talking about is having, there is like this space between when your nervous system says there's a potential. Yes. Right. And then there's this space where there's mindful thought and conscious thought and then conscious action that happens thereafter.

And I think that's where you're talking about. That's what I'm looking to create. That's very doable, very feasible for anybody, even individuals that have undergone trauma and especially generational trauma. But it's more of like the psychological threats and the nervous sense. system threats is what I'm hearing you say is what are challenging for a lot of people is like something happens, an event happens and it triggers our memory, right? A memory from a traumatic experience.

Yes. But what if we remove the memory, what would happen then? Would we be reactive and triggered? Well, you know, I think you're talking a bit about how we can reconfigure even like our cellular memory to actually respond less to what could have been triggering in the past. Because we have so many different variations of memory. We have olfactory memory, like the scent memory, right? There's so many ways in which our senses can produce triggers for us.

Isn't that interesting? Right, so we have to... Sound memory. Sound memory. Music. Yeah, there's a familiar taste and just like brings you right back into childhood and you're like, wait, something's up. Something's like bringing me back into a place that isn't now, right?

And so we have to talk about the ways in which, you know, you reprogram your mind. you reprogram your nervous system to be steady, to feel like it's in a safe place, even if a memory gets re-triggered by way of any of your senses. I think a lot of people can relate to this with friends, family members, relatives, you know, where like something from childhood

triggers them as an adult. And they haven't figured out how to either heal the memory of the trauma or just be in the environment with people that trigger them so much as a kid growing up, if someone has a relative or someone that's in their environment, in their space, that triggers them so much, how do they not kick them out of their life completely, but also create a boundary so that it doesn't affect them? With the words they say, with the actions they have, things like that.

There are different variations of how people do that. And that's why I love this work so much, because you can be really creative with a client as to what will work for you, right? Where can you create some elements of a boundary that can also keep you at close proximity to the people that you love because you still want to be in that space? Yeah, you want to be in their life. Right.

And you want to be able to still be unified in some way, but still preserve your energy, right? In the psychological world, especially in like dialectical behavioral therapy, we call environments that still embodies some of the trauma responses or the chaos, a strong environment. So you're going back into that strong environment

that's immobile, it's inflexible. The trauma responses are embedded in that environment and have been for generations. People just operate that way at home. Right. So the biggest thing that we have to do is not only to train the nervous system to be able to be well in the strong environment, right?

But to train people to hold on to that because eventually, even if it's microscopic changes, the environment will shift. Because you'll be showing up differently in your environment, so the environment is going to shift accordingly. What are a few strategies someone can do to, I guess, work with their nervous system around people that trigger them? Oh, you're talking about jam.

This is my stuff I love. You know what I mean? How can they shift so that the environment shifts? And I'll preface it this way. This has to be a daily practice. People have to get into the practice of nervous system regulation on a daily basis, especially if they come from a lineage of trauma

or if they've experienced trauma just in their lifetime. And the three practices that I like the most, I like them because they're accessible, because you can do them anywhere, and because they actually work. And the three are like breath work. I think people, like, the saying take a breath has been so widely popularized.

Look at you taking a breath, I love that. I do it all the time in the way to do too. That's one of my favorite things that I've been able to acquire as, you know, I've kind of like undergone my own journey, that now by default I do that too. And I think it's so awesome. Yeah, you know, because,

it's almost like your body is taking care of you now, right? Like you've done all the work to like, I got to take care of this body, I got to take care of this mind, and now it's by default. And that is building mastery. It's like you have mastery over the task of actually doing deep breaths whenever your body needs it. And now it's automatic. Yeah, or short breaths or holding it in.

It's interesting. Okay, so number one is breath work. Yeah, and breath work that is at least for five minutes. So the nervous system needs at least that amount of time. to actually catch up. And it's important to value breathwork, even though we have so many, like, ways in which it's been, I think, overdone or people just like discounted

because it's, you know, it's been talked about so much. But the thing about breath work is that eventually your nervous system can't operate in the stress response and in the breathing response simultaneously. It has to relax. It's going to have to. And so you keep it going until you feel that. For trauma survivors, it can take a little bit longer because there's a lot of undoing, a lot of decades, right?

And so the birth stories is going to be key. One of my other favorites are like humming. Humming also is. So powerful. Breathing and humming at the same time. This is what they teach in yoga and, you know, deep meditation practices. A lot of chanting practices utilize. Yeah.

And the oom sound, right? Like really bringing that out actually triggers the parasympathetic nervous response, which is the part of the nervous system that initiates, it's also called like a ventral vagal response, which initiates a relaxation process, a rest and recovery for the nervous system. So it's really essential for people to actually do humming. And the same role applies.

Do it until you feel like, okay, I'm in a steady place. One client, one time, like, did so much of the humming after I prescribed it that they're a horse. Yeah, right, right, right. But, you know, like I think, you know, And that also is a testament to commitment, right? Like, if you can commit to it, like, do it and do what works. And the third one that I like is rocking.

Rocking? Back and forth? Yeah, because if you think about the rhythmic element of rocking, it actually, like, it's almost like, you know. Soothing, yeah. It's soothing. It's like a baby in the womb, you know? You're like rocking back and forth.

It's so funny. I naturally rock, you know, pretty much my whole life, especially when I'm standing. I've never been good at sitting still. or standing still. So I naturally just kind of like rock your forth when I'm standing because otherwise I'll just,

it's hard for you to just stand still. Yeah, yeah. So breathing at least five minutes a day, but I think just trying to remind yourself throughout the day to take deep, slow, intentional breaths, humming and then rocking your body. This could be sitting down

and can be standing, it can be laying down as well. Yeah. And I think for the busy minds and busy, I'm a busy mind. So I think it works for me to do all three. Yeah, of course.

Yeah, I just integrated. I do my own thing, you know? I rock, I breathe, I hum. And it's, you know, it allows me to really integrate the practices, to get the full effect, and to also, you know, just like, my mind is so preoccupied also with making sure that I'm on the technique, that it adds a bit of mindfulness in there because I'm very present-centered. Yeah, that's good. What's the difference between the traumas that happened to us and the generational trauma that

happened to our ancestors. So the major difference is placed in biology. So there's a genetic component to intergenerational trauma. And so intergenerational trauma has this way in which there is a genetic transmission that happens from parent to child. Really? And so it creates a predisposition to vulnerability to stress. Give me an example.

What's a common example you see in your practice that is a generational story? Well, I mean, you know, there are people that will come in and say, you know, ever since I was a child that was like difficult to soothe and I was, you know, I had like this hyperactivity. There's a lot of trauma survivors that also like believe that their symptoms are coincide with ADHD because there's a lot of overlap in the experience in the symptomatology. So there's a there's a lot of that. There's like people that, you know, reflect back to their childhood and they say like, I. I've always had like this experience that felt like I was always anxious. When we dig into the layers and we dig deep, we start noticing, okay, especially because I do a lot of like family tree work and like really going down the lineage to know,

like, well, what are some of the trauma responses or what are some of the responses around also like inflammatory responses, like depression or anxiety or other kind of like mental illness, you know, kind of experiences that were held in the family. And when we start going down the family line and we start exploring not only their childhood and how they responded in their childhood, what their attachment patterns were in their childhood, but also how perhaps like their mother had an inner child wound. And the mother's mother had an inner child wound. And they never healed it. Never healed it. Express it as a trauma response.

Yeldon screamed in the home, you know, had like emotional outbursts. What did that do? That actually created a disruption in the attachment that you could have had like in your childhood. it created an insecure attachment. You then went out into the world and experienced bullying, a pandemic, like all kinds of things. And then that trauma, that trauma,

you know, propensity or vulnerability got triggered out. And so now you are continuing the cycle of intergenerational trauma because it was modeled to you. Genetically, it was passed down and then, you know. Now, is it genetic or is it,

let's say the mother breaks a cycle? before she heals her trauma, the generational trauma, before she has her child. She can. And she creates an environment of peace, you know? Yeah. Is it the environment or is it the biology,

the genetic code that is passed down? Because it's like these environments are kind of passed down. You witness your parents doing it, you just follow the pattern, and you follow the environment pattern. Yeah. Is that genetic? Is that environment?

What is both? It's both. It's like, you know, for as long as psychology has existed, we've had, like, theories on nature, nurture. Darwinism also kind of just started that, right, like, way back when. So nature being, like, the biological aspects of our experiences and then nurture being, like, the social aspects of our experiences. An intergenerational trauma is really the only trauma that is situated at the intersection of both.

So we have the nature side. Yeah. So, you know, on the nature side, the genetic, expression, like we're getting a lot of information from like the field of epigenetics, which helps us understand how behavior like impacts genes. And so basically what happens is that, let's say a mother, a mother has stress and depression in her life. Let's say that this mother is actually pregnant at five months gestation.

So she's pregnant. She has a baby in utero. And because she's at five months gestation, that baby also has all the precursors sex cells that they're going to have for their lifetime, regardless of whether it's male or female. They already have those. So the mother, she experienced chronic trauma her entire life. And so because that became the status quo,

her genes re-expressed. So her genes said, okay, this is the way that things are. We are a stressed body. And so because her genes are now saying, we are predisposed to stress, that's being handed down to the baby in utero, actually at conception. Wow.

So the baby is conceived into genes that are predisposed to stress. And because she is already still stressed while she's having this baby, all those stress hormones, namely cortisol, those are being passed down to the baby in utero. And what's happening to the precursor cells, those are also ingesting a lot of that stress environment. So you have three generations in one body genetically being passed down the stress vulnerability, but also the social piece, the mother's stress, you know, is like, she's. She has all her things going on. She's predisposed to trauma. She's got all these things going while she's, you know, still pregnant. Her environment is still stressful, yeah.

Yeah. And so everybody in that lineage of three generations in one body is experiencing stress. Is it just three generations or is it like every generation that's had it? Well, you know, like, I mean, I'm, I think it's a little bit of a chicken and egg kind of phenomenon when it comes into generational trauma, right? It's like who started it, right? But I think I illustrate that because it's, I think, a little bit easier to see like, oh, well, maybe it started with mom. Maybe she was, you know, the person that.

Maybe she had an extreme trauma and there was a reaction response. Exactly, right? And so now we at least get to see where the genetic line started from the trauma perspective. You think about that way, you're like, man, I'm carrying the weight of, you know, multiple generations of trauma in my genes, like physical weight, actual weight. that could get a little dark and heavy if you really put the emphasis on that. So how do we actually break that cycle once and for all where none of that trauma stays with us

and we don't pass it down to our kids? It definitely has to be a very like whole system overhaul for most folks. Like it has to be an integration of holistic practices in our day-to-day lives. Every single day. Like a daily practice. Every day.

Can't waver on it. Because we have to be. to think about what we're undoing. We're not just undoing the decades of trauma that you experience, yeah. You're doing, you're undoing all the. You really need to have a rebirth. It's like a spiritual, psychological, emotional, nervous system rebirth, in my opinion. I feel like I've had a couple of them in the last decade. Ten years ago, kind of opening up about my sexual abuse trauma. And then in the last few years, just dealing with all relationships in general, like all intimate relationships. that I've had. I've never really faced them until a couple years ago.

And I feel like I had to re, I had to emotionally, spiritually die in a sense, psychologically, I guess. Absolutely, yeah. Allow it to burn and then build from the ashes kind of psychologically. And it's a process. I'm not saying I've finished it or whatever, but it's like a constant journey of going back to the different stages of childhood. healing each stage and integrating that age with my current self. So there's full integration and healing of every different memory from my life that was a traumatic response. Yeah, yeah.

And it's been a beautiful journey that has allowed me to have peace and harmony on the inside, which I never had that until really 10 years ago I didn't start feeling it, but until a couple of years ago when I started feeling more and more peace on the inside. And it allows me to, again, see the world differently. I'm not saying I'm not triggered by things, but allows me to see it. And I say, okay, this sucks. How can I consciously communicate what I want to change? Not from a reactive, overwhelmed, stressed, traumatic state,

which I feel like you can't really get much done from that state. No, I mean, you can push things down and numb and still operate, you know. fairly well, but all of that, all of that will come back because you're in survival mode still, because numbing is still survival mode. Yeah, but you're not thriving. You're not creating an abundant life for yourself when you're in a traumatic response, are we? No, not at all. I mean, I think, you know, abundance comes from being able to get into the depths of your soul, right? So I love that you're talking about the more like psychospiritual angle

because that is definitely, I operate from a holistic angle. And so like a lot of the work that I do is very mind-body spirit, and the spiritual piece is really essential because it's not just your connection to higher power. It's really just also your connection to yourself. When you're like really disconnected from your true authentic self, you're not living abundantly. Yes.

And if we want generational abundance and we have to get into the depths of everything that's there, into the mud, if you may. Yeah, and I think if you're triggered or have a nervous system response to a lot of things, you're constantly in their survival mode, right? And it's hard to create an abundant, it's hard to dream from a place of survival. It's hard to create something beautiful from that place.

I mean, it makes a lot of sense even like, you know, from a biological perspective. Like when we're in a nervous system response and that's, you know, survival mode, you're in a chronic nervous system overhaul, right? So our nervous system is designed to actually make it so that whenever we are in a flight, freeze of font, any non-essential functions, any non-essential, like, organ functions, bodily functions, our brain even, like the cortical region of our brain, all of that is mildly shut down. So if you're talking about, like, alchemizing and creativity and, like, all these things, those things require a lot of cortical, you know, structure, like, manifestation of, like,

all the things that you want, like, really requires for you to get into your creative mind. And if your cortical brain is not fully functioning in the ways that it, because it's in survival mode, then you're not really going to get to that actualization. It's so interesting because I was, I was in a relationship once where it was a couple of years of stress, right? I was, it's all my responsibility. I should have gotten out, but I stayed in and I wanted to make it work and all these different things. And I remember for like a year before the relationship, I was like getting ready to create a book, write a book. And I was excited about it.

And then in the relationship, I had no energy to create because a lot of it was survival in this relationship. It was kind of like, come back home, and you gotta yell at me and what are we managing today? What's the stress level? All these different things. And I kept wanting to try to create this book, but I had zero energy or creative thinking

to make it happen. And I kept being like, shaming myself. It's like, why do I have the energy for this? But I was putting all my energy in kind of survival mode and just make this one environment work out. the moment things ended, it's like I finished the book in a few months. You know, it's like I had all this energy and creativity because I wasn't in that survival mode state.

I want to ask you a question about, you mentioned mental health for a moment. What are the main, I guess, I don't know all the terminology perfectly. So what are the main mental health challenges that people face today? Is it depression? Is it anxiety? Is it ADHD? What are the, what are the terminologies of mental health that are prominent today? Those are primary ones, but actually depression is on a worldwide scale.

It happens to be one of the leading causes of disability, one of the leading causes of just global unwellness. It's a very debilitating kind of condition because it's not just a mental health condition. It's also like a bodily condition. Physically. It's an inflammatory condition. So we know a lot of, you know, I think some of the initial studies that came out that coincided with, you know, psychotropics. Like, you know, some of the medications, you know, from like the 80s, 90s and all of that, like helped us to understand some of the ways in which the brain, you know, it operates a certain way to facilitate depression.

But we weren't necessarily talking about other studies that were happening, which we're talking about more of the immunology that's implicated, like all those, anything that's inflammatory that's implicated in depression as well. diet that's implicated in depression as well. A lot of... So many factors, yeah. Yeah, so many things. So depression is like a big one. But whenever someone comes to me with depression, I always like to look at the full picture, right? So I look at all those... Everything.

Yeah. I look at all those pieces. And depression is one of those mental health conditions that has... There are a number of them, but this one has like a weight identified and classified as either single episode or multiple episode. when a person is in a single episode, I usually look for an environmental trigger. What happened?

What happened, right? But when there's a multiple episode, I wonder a lot more. Meaning what? The relationship, foods, environment, loss of a job, yeah, divorce. The small-tie traumas, if you may, like some of the things that are like your day-to-day,

everyday traumas, but nothing that really compromises your safety in any way. Right, right. But whenever we're talking about multiple episode depression, I get very curious about a person's history, their family history, what happened to them, what happened within their family, and I really start digging. Because when you're talking about lifelong depression, you've been depressed your entire life, we have to really start wondering, is trauma implicated in your history in some way? And is that what's keeping the undercurrent of depression run? Depression is the main one you hear about.

Anxiety. There's psychosis, which we don't talk about. a lot about psychosis is you know just extreme version of dissociation there's some genetic loading there too especially with schizophrenia there's genetic loading to some extent with depression and anxiety there's trauma trauma is a whole separate category you have complex trauma you have developmental trauma you have reactive attachment disorder which is mostly for children and it's like the very first sign of like oh they're acting a certain way that is

different maybe something happened Something happy, yeah. So I'm curious, these, I just want to understand the terminology of these things. So in the term of a mental health illness, would depression, ADHD, psychosis, would these be considered illnesses? What would these be, the terminology? These, I would say illnesses because... Conditions, what is it?

I know there's, you know, there are a number of us, especially the holistic psychologists of the world. We look at illness and disorder. You know, just we like to not look at it as that. In some ways, we like to really kind of like look at the global picture. But if we're talking about the diagnostic of an individual, yeah. Yeah, and really the manual that we, as psychologists and psychiatrists, have to basically abide by when we're creating diagnostic codes, then, you know,

these are considered mental disorders. Disorders, okay. Disorders are illness. is it's actually the same. Now is this disorder, is it a symptom? I hate that word. I know. Is this, but that's what it's called.

This disorder, this challenge. Yeah, yeah. Is it a symptom or is it a disorder? Is it a symptom of trauma or unresolved healing that causes this disorder? And if we heal the trauma, will we be able to eliminate these symptoms or these disorders? I think we'll be able to get rid of a lot of stuff, a lot of it. Some of it, as I mentioned, because there is that genetic loading, and we've got to think of the genetics that we talked about already, right?

Like, we're talking about lineages of genetic loadings. So, you know, if we start doing the work now, maybe we'll see a lot less of these disorders happening within our families and our communities. So there is a lot that we can do to actually rectify the abundance of mental disorders. illness that's out there, right? Yeah. I believe that there is a lot of the mental illness that exists in the world that has an undercurrent of trauma, and we just haven't talked about that undercurrent or that possibility as much.

But I don't know if we'll be able to absolve ourselves of 100% of the mental illness in the world, but I think that we can do a really good job in this generation to break cycles. We could an individual eliminate these mental health issues on an individual level if they're willing to do the deep healing work? Because essentially, because I feel like, correct me if I'm wrong, are these are like symptoms of trauma. You didn't grow up depressed.

Certain things happened, an event happened, and an environment continued to foster the feelings of depression, the state of depression. And if we can heal the memory, the trauma, the event, and reconnect to our purest self, our whole human self. Wouldn't those things start to go away? That's precisely the goal. So, you know, where we started off with psychology and psychiatry is we started off with symptom

management. A lot of psychiatry, you know, we're still kind of there a little bit. Which is like, here's the drug to manage the symptoms. Band-Aid. But that's not healing. Yeah. That's not resolving. That's just managing it.

Precisely. But that doesn't do anything to bring back to wholeness. Yes. And integrate the person. Integrating the healing, right? Exactly. And that's the goal. That's the goal for me.

That's the goal in my practice. I want full integration of that person. I want them to really see their authentic self. Some people have never even had an opportunity to see who they could be at their true core self because it's been masked by so much of the trauma and the symptomatology that's, associated with the trauma, like the depression and anxiety and all those things. Yeah. So you believe that people can heal these mental health challenges as well if they integrate fully?

Many of them, especially the ones that, you know, because I think we have like bipolar disorder and we have, you know, schizophrenia that have a different mechanism to them, but many of them, absolutely. But many of the ones that a lot of people are facing depression, ADHD, ADHD, you know. Depression especially, yeah. Right. Yeah. How important is finding a meaningful purpose in life supports you in overcoming, feeling depressed or depression?

It's like so critical. Really? Yeah, 100%. I mean, like when we're talking about what happens after trauma, meaning making is at the center. It's like one of the biggest things because you have to see your life having some sort of value and that there's meaning associated with your life and with everything that's within your life in order to actually, like, even feel motivated to do the heavy lifting

that is the healing work to get yourself to the other side. So you have to have meaning in that journey. Meaning making, it's alchemized in that journey, it's created in that journey, right? But I think at the very least, you have to have hope that meaning making can be possible. Mm-hmm. Because what it sounds like to me

is a lot of people attach meaning, in a more negative, harmful state to events, to words, to actions that happen around them. And therefore, that meaning causes more depression, ADHD, or negative thoughts, all these different things that hurt us. Yeah. But if we created a different meaning around the event or the words or the breakup or the loss of your career,

created the new meaning around it and had a different intention, different purpose moving forward, we wouldn't have those mental challenges as much. Yeah, I mean, I think people, you know, just haven't been trained to ask themselves the right questions around meaning making, right? And so... What's the right questions?

Well, the right questions are, you know, well... Someone experiences a traumatic event or big tea or little tea. What questions should we ask? Yeah, we should be asking, you know, so questions around, well, let's talk about what was learned in that circumstance. That's a really hard question to ask

because sometimes people will be like, you really, you think that that needed to happen? No, it didn't need to happen. It did happen. It happened. It happened. Can't change it. You can't.

That's in your history now. But what can we take from that experience? And it doesn't even need to be the traumatic event itself, but your response, your reaction. What can we take from that to learn how to now create a healing protocol for you? And it's about, you know, being able to ask questions that get people thinking outside of the box, because what happens when you're in a state of trauma

is that you're frozen in many ways. Your thoughts are frozen. You start thinking a lot of the same things, right? Like it's a lot of protective functions. Your feelings are frozen in time. Like people constantly feel worry, anxiety, like a lot of things that are just them being in a protective state. And so if we can start asking questions to freeze some of that up,

that's going to be really key. But I like that question, even though, you know, I think it can veer us in different directions, but I'm open to that whenever it comes to work with a client, right? Because wherever we go, I'm with them. I'm going with you and we're following that path. If someone stays committed to their story of meaning, that it was this horrible event and it ruined my life. The divorce, the job loss, the injury, whatever it might be, what happens if they hold on to the meaning in a negative way as opposed to that was a traumatic event. I don't wish it upon anyone,

but here's what I learned from it, here's what I gain from it, here's what I'm going to do with it in a positive way. What happens to those? Well, the way that I interpret that is that that person is, one, still in a state of fear. They're not ready to really get curious about

what other definitions meaning can have in their life. They're just really stuck on the one definition. that it tarnished their lives, that they, you know, it got in the way, and they're just stuck there, right? And so if that's the case, then my role as a clinician or their role as a person that wants to get out of it, hopefully, is to work on the fear. You got to work on where is fear trapped. How is the nervous system operating around fear, right? Like, where can we free them up in a bodily sense because the nervous system requires a lot of that body-based work? And so we have to really get curious about that and go in that direction versus, you know, the questions are very mind-focused, right?

But we need the body-based practices in order to create safety in the body. To release also, right? To release the fear, the pain, the trauma, and reconnect to the safety of your body, is that right? Exactly. And so that when a person can feel that there is safety in their body, they can feel that they can actually go into the depths of their body. minds in a way that doesn't feel scary and existential. Right. Speaking of fear, I saw somewhere recently, I don't know if this is true, but I saw somewhere

recently that we are, that human beings are born with three fears, the fear of loud noises, the fear of falling and the fear of abandonment. I don't know if that's true, but if it is, we tend to build, add more fears as time go on. I don't know if that's true if those are the only three or we don't have fears at all. but it seems like we gather, we collect more fears through childhood and adulthood. Why do you think we gather so many fears and collect them?

Well, I think you're talking about, like, primary fears, right? Like, those feel like primary fears to me. Like, they're, like, what you start off with. As a baby, you're going to have that startle response. As a baby, you're going to need to feel deeply connected and attuned to a caregiver. Otherwise, you don't live, yeah. Basically, right?

And so like, it's basically a fear of losing life or a fear of losing safety. So it makes a lot of sense. But the accumulation of it also makes sense because we operate in mental representations in categories, basically. So we have specific categories in our minds that are primarily created in our childhood.

And then everything else that happens in life, we put in the different categories in the buckets of our minds. And they just start accumulating and growing. So if you have a big fear bucket, then you're going to have a lot of, fears that are going to, you know, like come into your life and stay there because your fear bucket is just, you know, so enormous. What's the biggest fear you've had to overcome?

The thing that held you back the most. I think for me, you know, I grew up in poverty. And that, for me, the thing about growing up in poverty is that it's not only the fear of do we have enough. It's also that that mental expression that narrative stays with you throughout life. And it creates that, now we call it like deficit mentality, right, or other kinds of things. Scarcity.

Scarcity mindset, all those things, right? And so not having enough, not being able to survive in that way, is definitely like been an enormous fear for me, but like throughout life because that's, I was born into such poverty that I remember like, with my grandmother, like, she carried like a bucket of water to bring to her home, right? Like from like this tiny little spring, you know,

like not having outdoor plumbing, like indoor plumbing in the Dominican Republic. Wow. You grew up there? I was there until I was five. Yeah. Yeah. And then I came to the U.S.

And so like, you know, I mean, like you see that growing up, right? And there's like that much scarcity. that to ever go back to anything like that feels like it can happen at any time. It's like you don't want to go back there. I remember when I was 23, 24, 25 that range. I was living on my sister's couch. I had no money. And I was in student loan debt at the time, living off three credit cards.

It was in 2008 when kind of the economy crashed that time. And I remember thinking like, this is not fun. You know, this is not fun like eating my sister's leftovers. are not being able to pay for rent and just figuring out how we're going to get food for the next couple of days, right? Like, where's the money going to come from? Now, I had a roof over my head,

but I wasn't providing for myself. It was like my sister was, even though I'm a 20-something-year-old man, right? And I remember thinking to myself, after I started to make money for, I don't know, probably five years, I remember thinking I just never want to go back there. So it was still kind of in a survival mode,

even though I had money, like I had enough money in the bank for six months and then a year to like live off of. We're still kind of operating off of scarcity and not enough and I need more to feel safe and secure. And I never want to go back to that place. And it's challenging to break that physically, the nervous system and also mentally, psychologically and just knowing you'll be able to generate and create enough.

It's a challenge to break through. It is. And you know, like the actual logistical challenge. I mean that was there for sure right like I had I had to do a lot to be able to break away from that right and and to help my family like navigate out of you know that that position of working class poverty right like but um the the the psychological piece that takes serious work that takes serious work right because you you know like it's about money management it's about you know like things that I may desire and want to purchase but that's a always in the back of my mind, you know? And so like, it's like really kind of fighting that. You got to learn a whole new set of skills. Yeah. I learned with money, it was like, I'm still educating myself today, you know, I'm still learning and teaching myself different things about money from saving to investing to tax strategies to managing it,

all these different things. I don't think you ever stop learning. Yeah. And because I'm learning, I feel more and more confident with it. I feel more and more okay with it. But if I don't understand it, how am I going to feel okay with it. Yeah. And most of us are never taught this as kids. You know, we're never taught this. We're not taught this in schools how to manage money. So if we grew up in lower income houses, we probably weren't taught how to manage it either.

So it's like you've really got to self-educate yourself on so many areas of life if you didn't learn. Yeah. Money, healing, relationships, how to deal with failure, all these things. That's why I created the school of greatest because it was everything I wish I had when I was growing up. Yeah. There are some people that I've met who can't remember their childhood. Super common. I met this one girl, I don't know, about 10 years ago.

She's like, I don't remember anything before 17. I go, what? It just didn't make sense to me, right? I know I don't remember every year of my childhood and I don't remember everything. But if I can go back to that place or I see a photo, I'm like, yeah, I remember this. But when I met someone for the first time I said they didn't remember before 17, I go, That's interesting. I later realized there was a lot of trauma.

So if someone isn't able to recall childhood memories in general and they just have it blocked, is that because of trauma or is that something else? So trauma can be very much implicated. I mean, like, you know, humans were so variable that, you know, there can be other things. But when it comes to this type of experience that you're talking about and people saying, I don't remember a whole chunk of my life, I don't remember my childhood, it is, incredibly common for trauma survivors, especially individuals that have undergone either complex trauma or chronic trauma or just have been in that trauma response in that survival mode for

almost a lifetime. And I mean, there is a bit of a biological, psychological explanation for that. And I think we got to like really get into memory and how it operates. Like what is memory, right? So we have short-term memory, we have long-term memory. And short-term memory, and short-term really operates at this like 30-second interval. And anything that isn't encoded into long-term memory dissolves with short-term memory. You no longer remember it. Now, when we're talking about the nervous system, remember we have like a dissociative process. That dissociative process makes it so that also like you're in, you're operating only with

the essential functions that you need, which means that that memory encoding, that's compromised too. So when you're in constant survival mode, and your memory isn't shifting into long-term memory, you're not encoding that, you can't later retrieve it. So retrieval isn't going to be possible later in life. You're not going to remember what happened when you were eight years old because it was a compromising of your memory process. Is there a way to remember things if you've blocked it for so long, or is it kind of you've lost these memories? I mean, you know, especially in childhood, like some of it were supposed to lose, right, pruning away. We're not designed to remember everything.

But, you know, if memories weren't encoded into long-term memory, it's going to be hard to remember them because they're just not there. However, I mean, I think we have to, you know, further breakdown memory because we have implicit and explicit memory. What's the difference? So explicit memory is more of those, like, you know, you remember, you know, that childhood girlfriend that you had, right? And like you remember moments of it. Like it's, you remember what you had for breakfast. It's like very concrete, conscious details of your memory. Implicit memory is more like sensory memory.

So the body still remembers. Smell, the sight, the experience, the music. The touch, like we remember in a more implicit way, right? And so like people when they're talking about not remembering, they're talking about explicit memory, not implicit. Because implicit, they're remembering a lot because they're living in that body. that's constantly reminding them through triggers that there's a memory there.

Let's say someone has got out all the things, depression, all the stress, nervous system is broken down, they're just in a low state, all these things. Everything triggers them, right? If you wipe their memory off and they woke up without having the memory, cellular memory, or the mental memory, of the trauma, the little teeth,

Big T, the chronic trauma, all these different things, what would happen? This is a hypothetical scenario. But if you were able to eliminate these memories, wouldn't you essentially be more positive or have like a more, a better outlook on life? I mean, I think that you, you know, could have more of like what we talked about earlier that neutrality for sure, right? You know, I think that. Yeah, yeah.

You know, like, because everything will be new, right? And so you won't have something that actually is attached to emotion. Like an event is not attached to emotion. And, you know, a scent is not attached to emotion. So you won't have the trigger response. You'll just be looking at something with a new set of eyes. Yes. I just feel like a lot of people doubt themselves.

And they have a lot of self-doubt tied to previous events, right? I failed. This person made fun of me. I always laughed at. I was bullied. They broke up with me. I lost the job, whatever it is, all these events, then attach their self-worth, their identity, and they doubt themselves because of a series of events.

How do we break that so people can learn to believe in themselves more, even if they had different events happen that didn't go their way? Well, I think some of it has to be like a reconfiguration of their self-concept. Like it's very self-oriented, right? Because like now we're talking about when someone said something to them about their clothes, now they like, you know, have this like, um, perception of themselves and how they dress. It's negative, you know, or ill-fitted because of what was said. So now it's become a part of the self, right? So a lot of the work has to be central to the self. Like how do we get you to a place

where, you know, you're embodying a, uh, either more neutral or more positive sense of self and that your core self isn't, you know, an amalgamation of like all of these negative experiences and how you then translated and internalize those into how you see yourself and how you see the world. How do you teach that to someone? What's something someone can do if they're listening or watching and they don't believe in themselves, if they have a series of events that remind them,

see, there are going. And I'm not good enough for this or I don't deserve this. What can they do to start having a different view of self? I like the idea of challenging, of challenging thoughts, right? But the thing about challenging thoughts is that the first step is that we have to write down the limiting thoughts that have been there. We have to write down the emotions

that have been associated with those limiting thoughts. And then we have to challenge those thoughts, like actively challenge them. There's so many of us that are walking around this world not having challenged a lot of those initial ideas that we've created around ourselves, regardless of where they came from. They could have been from a parent

who told you, you know, you disappoint me, you're not good enough, right? And that manifested into a mental representation of themselves. is not being good enough, right? But we have to look at the root and then challenge the root and then also like work on the emotional piece. An emotional piece, I like the work around emotions to be like very body-centered because

emotions are very situated in the body. And so it's a mind practice and that we're writing all these things down, but it's also a body practice. It's an integration. It is. Always. You got to integrate it. You can't just be analytical around it.

If your body is still reactive, you've got to integrate the body. to you. Yeah, always. What do you think holds you back from your highest self right now? I definitely have had my fair share of imposter syndrome of wondering if I, you know, if I meet the mark, if I've been in spaces where I've been the only person that looks like me. And so it's, it's definitely made me wonder. Maybe it looks like you, kind, energetic. You're so kind. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I receive all of it. Thank you. Thank you. I mean, you know, like I'm a black Latina, right? I'm from the working class.

I've entered a lot of elite spaces, you know, for education. You know, I got an Ivy League education for my doctorate and I was very much, you know, not seeing myself mirrored in a lot of these spaces. So it definitely like made me wonder a lot. You were standing out as we were saying. I was, yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

And, you know, it can be very isolated that experience, you know. And so I think that it makes you. wonder like, do I belong here? Is my voice, you know, welcome, like that sort of thing? So that definitely has been, you know, it's something that has been a struggle for me. And I think it will forever be like something that I know has been there, but I work really, really hard on a daily basis. So if you're coaching someone else that's in a similar situation, they stand out in their industry, they look different, they don't fit in, I guess, right? They're not. They're not. They're mirrored as you said yeah what would you how would you coach them if they said they

they feel like I don't know if I belong or I feel like an imposter what would you how would you coach them to interpret that differently yeah I love that question I would you know I would start with the body always right so I would definitely like do some imagery exercises with them to like place them in their mind in that space and do some relaxation exercises with them around that because that's always my thing to get them relaxed first yeah start creating from that space and exactly like I want safety Yes.

Yeah, always safety. However, I do always want to ask, like, who told you you don't belong? Because that's a question that we're not explicitly asking ourselves. Like, someone said that in the STEM field, like, women aren't, you know, there isn't open spaces for women, right? Like, something happened there, right? Who said that women don't belong in STEM? And so that's, you know, like, I always want to ask that question. Of course, we know some of the answer.

But I think societally, you know, like there's been like ways in which we've created spaces that have been for specific populations. And so we have to start asking, like, who said that there isn't a space that's open for you? So I think that the reason why I ask that question is because I think that, you know, it opens up the mind to really wonder about that. And I think it also offers like a little bit of empowerment to the person that's receiving that question. Like, yeah, who told me that I don't belong, you know? and like really stepping into that. And I've done that for myself and it's been incredibly helpful.

Yeah, it's good. What else would you say after asking that question? How else would you coach that person? I would want them to, you know, like really do some, like heavy lifting around the emotional piece. I think that that's always going to be

an important aspect of doing work that's imposter syndrome centered, right? Because at the heart of it is fear, right? And so fear of, there's a fear of a lot of things, but, you know, like fear of belonging is a big one, right? Like, do I belong? Right?

And so if we're talking about fear of belonging, if we're talking about not feeling good enough, a lot of those, you know, areas are what we really need to work on. So that's the depth work, right? The other stuff is a little bit more superficial. It's like where we start, but then we got to get into the emotion part. Yeah, interesting. What has been the thing you're most proud of

that you've overcome. You know, definitely getting to this level of education, I think is something that I hold a lot of pride around because I've worked so hard. And I was able to overcome at least like the bigger pieces of imposter syndrome around that and also a lot of things. Like I wasn't taught to operate at this level, right? And so a lot of it was self-taught.

At what level? At this level. of education, you know, I'm definitely a first generation in that regard. There's a lot of bureaucracies that you've got to learn and know, like, when you're operating in, like, you know, educational spaces that are higher, higher, higher in this way. And so the fact that I, my own, like, I'm a very intuitive person, so my own intuition helped me to really scan environments in a way that helped me to learn the environment in a very concrete way and then learn to operate within it, but also just be myself, right?

Like bring myself. I say I bring my sauce because I'm like, I'm going to bring my whole Dominican self into whatever space that I'm like a part of. And, you know, everybody like who's around me, like you'll have to adjust, right? Like rather than me, like adjusting to the environment and like reconfiguring myself. So that's been something that I've been like really proud of just like stepping into spaces that where I felt like before I don't belong and just just proclaiming that I do. Yeah, that's cool. I love this stuff. You've got a, your social media is amazing.

You've got a lot of great resources there. Thank you. You're teaching, you're inspiring, you're entertaining, and you're connecting people to this work of healing generational trauma. You've also working on a book right now. You've got a course you're working on that's coming out soon. What is this course going to be teaching people about specifically? It's going to really get into the depths of trauma and how we,

heal from trauma through a number of holistic practices. So my hope is that for individuals that are just hoping to really enhance their knowledge of how to really integrate practices that are going to be very helpful in the trauma journey or for healer practitioners that are out there wanting to really enhance their own practice, coaches, whomever, right, like and be trauma-informed, that this can be a really good hub and center for them to be able to acquire that knowledge. And actually, Access can be through my website, which is Dr.marielbuket.com. Okay. Yeah.

And click on courses and there I am. There you are. Yeah. You have a newsletter too? We can subscribe to? I do. I do. And I actually offer one coping skill each week on my newsletter.

Yeah. So one coping skill that people can integrate into their week and then also, you know, all things my world, basically. That's cool. Very cool. So if we go to Dr. Mariobeau, bouquet.com, they can get the newsletter. They can find out about the course.

course, see you on social media as well. What, Instagram is your main thing? Instagram and TikTok. I like TikTok. It's a lot of fun. Yeah, it's true. Yeah. I like to, you know, like lighten the conversation on trauma a little bit because it is very heavy. It's heavy. It's dark. It's very dark. And I, and I, people don't want to face it. But that's the thing is that if I can open up just a little, you know, a small smidgen of like conversation in there, like people start getting really curious about. trauma and I think that on TikTok I've been able to do that where I you know I infused a little bit of humor and people are like okay it's not that scary to talk

about I can do this what do you think is going to happen in the world in the next three to five years if people don't face their traumas I think we're gonna see a lot of it's not just gonna be on the personal end that we'll see the continuation of these generational cycles of trauma I think it's gonna be that we're gonna continue to institute policies we're gonna continue to you know just operate in the world in a way that is driven by a lot of hostility and aggression, that is a representation of unhealed wounds. Yes.

It's interesting. In 2017, I wrote a book called The Mask of Masculinity, which is about how men can start to heal, can start to drop the masks that are trying to protect them from the outside world and reveal themselves, be a little more vulnerable, open up, and really just show their authentic self from a healed place, not from a hurt place or defensive place.

Because I believe that a lot of the problems that are happening in the world are caused by men who are wearing a mask or who are hurt, who are angry, who are traumatized. And there hasn't been a safe space specifically for men until I think more recently to start opening up about their traumas. I don't think it's been acceptable

for men to talk about these things. And so I'm so glad you're doing this work. I'm so glad there's a lot of people doing this work because I just feel like people need resources to start the healing journey. As my therapist says, it's a journey. It's not a one-time event where you're just, I'm healed and it's all better, you know.

It's an integration of healing process over time. But I feel like more people like you need to be doing this type of work and teaching us how to heal because I think if we can all heal, men specifically speaking from my point of view, It's like, you know, if men can learn to heal and be more loving and authentic, then I think it's just going to be a lot more harmonious environment in the world in general. I couldn't agree more.

But I also think that, you know, a lot of women need to heal too. There's a lot of traumas that women can heal too. They can create a safe space for men to be their authentic selves. It's like working together more as opposed to, you know, arguing and fighting as much. So that's my intention. That's my mission here. I love it. I love it.

It creates, you know, a lot more. more vulnerability from that place of vulnerability, we can bridge curiosity, safety. There's so much that comes from that place where the work is done. Vulnerability and courage takes root and it creates definitely more of that harmony you're speaking to. This is the challenge. I just wish people could have conversations consciously. You know, just like maybe I don't agree with a lot of things that you do or other

people do or they don't agree with me, whatever. but to be able to question, and like you said, do you say question or just say, challenge the thoughts, challenge the ideas, but not from an aggressive emotional state. I feel like if we can question and have a conversation from a place of calm, then it's going to be able to help us come together more in just a lot of different areas in life. So that's my intention. Yeah, starts with the nervous system though. It does.

If we're heavily triggered and, you know, the conversation that we're having, is triggering because it's disrupting, you know, whatever is going on in our minds. Like, or it's just, it's challenging us in a way where it's like pushing us out of our comfort zone. Yeah, it makes it feel uncomfortable. And we're like, I'm going to protect myself and want to scream and react and call you an idiot or whatever. Go straight into fight mode. Right. Yeah. But you can't solve anything that way, can you?

It's really challenging to have. You can't be creative and solution-oriented in the ways that you would be if you were in more of that neutral state. I love that. It's a question I asked everyone at the end. It's called The Three Truths. So imagine hypothetically it's your last day on earth many years away. You live as long as you want to live, but it's your last day, you know.

It's old as you want to be. And you accomplish all your wildest dreams. But for whatever reason, you've got to take all of your work with you to another place. Your books, your courses, your content. We don't have access anymore. But we have access to three things. that you would leave behind with the world, three lessons? Yeah.

Or three truths. Yeah. What would you say of those three truths for you? They would be that you are not just what happened to you. You are abundant at least so much more. I would let people know that healing is a lot of work. It sucks. It just bends you and twists you into different uncomfortable shapes,

but it is incredibly worth it. And that no matter where you are in your healing journey, today is always a good day to start to break the cycle. Yeah. I would acknowledge you, Mariel, for your journey, for stepping into this field of practice you were telling me before about how you had another career in advertising in New York City. Yeah. And then you were volunteering on the weekends. Yeah. And you found more meaning and fulfillment in being of service to helping people.

with these different challenges in their life. And you said, I'm going to take on eight more years of school and I'm going to take on this college debt and student loans to follow a mission, a purpose that was more meaningful for you. It's really hard for a lot of people to do. And so I really acknowledge you for listening to your heart, for listening to your truth, for taking that step and continually adding value to so many people in the world

by doing the individual practice one-on-one that you do, the coaching you do, by sharing this content on social media, by working on books and courses. I really acknowledge you for stepping into this season of your life, which is adding a lot of value for you and to the world. It's really meaningful to witness and to see you overcome so much to get to where you're at. Thank you. I really acknowledge you for that.

Yeah. Thank you. I really appreciate that. Of course, of course. It's been a journey I treasure, and I'm grateful. and I'm grateful that I'm here and thank you for highlighting my journey. Of course, yeah, of course.

People can follow you. We'll have everything linked up. Your website, Dr. Marielbouquet.com, social media, Dr. Maria Bouquet. Final question for you. What's your definition of greatness? Well, greatness to me, you know, it's found in everyday people,

the people that alchemize from the ashes, you know, and become cycle break. very much like you have. And I just think they're the bravest souls on this planet. And that to me is really great. Mm-hmm. Maria. Grazias.

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