The School of Greatness - The 3 Worst Financial Habits That Keep You Poor! | Dean Graziosi
Episode Date: May 27, 2024Today, Lewis is joined by the extraordinary Dean Graziosi, a renowned entrepreneur, best-selling author, and transformative speaker. Dean, known for his book Millionaire Success Habits and his work al...ongside icons like Tony Robbins, shares his strategies for bridging the gap between current realities and aspirational goals using courage and precise tools. He explains how to turn disadvantages into superpowers, revealing the mindset shifts and non-negotiable habits that can help anyone dramatically enhance their personal and professional life.Sign up for Dean's life-changing event!In this episode you will learnHow to go from being broke to a millionaire, breaking down the first three crucial steps to shift from scarcity to abundance.The three non-negotiable habits of millionaires and the mindset issues that prevent people from making money easily.The importance of "money therapy" and how understanding past money traumas can lead to greater financial freedom.How successful people live by a unique set of rules and habits that avoid mediocrity, and how these can be applied to your own life.The pivotal role of the stories we tell ourselves, and how shifting these narratives can help uncover one's true purpose.For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1620For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:Tony Robbins – https://link.chtbl.com/1218-podBill Perkins – https://link.chtbl.com/1530-podMatthew McConaughey – https://link.chtbl.com/1422-pod
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It all boils down to money. I don't care what anybody says. You have the money, you're in
control of your decisions, you're in control of your calendar. But I want to tell you for me,
the biggest game changer is the day the hand came off my throat of money.
Real estate guru, king of the infomercial. A best-selling author. A peak performance expert.
Today we're here with the wonderful Dean Graziosi. Dean Graziosi. Dean Graziosi in the house,
my man. Good to been here, man.
If you have a deep belief
that people with money are greedy,
you will be so conflicted it'll never work.
It'll be a self-fulfilling prophecy
because every time you see a glimpse of success,
you'll self-sabotage because if you get money,
then you're a greedy capitalist bastard.
How would you feel knowing
that you're not leaving entitled children,
but no matter where the world goes,
your children are gonna be safe?
Yeah.
What is that?
On a scale of one to 10, what is that?
It's a 200, right?
And we lived in a trailer park for three years
and we got evicted from that trailer park.
And she tried, I could get emotional.
That's why I love interviewing with you.
You make me, cause I care about you so much.
I wanna go back to feelings.
I feel like the stuff you shared today,
I've never heard you share.
I haven't.
This is not on any other place anywhere.
I know.
What would you say are the three biggest money lessons you've learned from Tony Robbins in being
his business partner, one of his close friends? What are the three lessons you've learned from
him? I've never been asked this question before. I've never shared this answer. I would say.
Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have my dear
friend, Dean Graziosi in the house. Good to see you.
Good to see you, man.
Welcome back.
Oh, man.
I'm so glad you're here because you have been leading in the entrepreneurial money mindset
space for probably two, two and a half decades.
You've been in multiple different industries from real estate to online education to coaching
and a lot of different things that you've done.
And you coach a lot of different things that you've done. And you coach a lot
of top leaders. A lot of people don't notice about you that you are the one texting me and
other people in the industry who are trying to figure out how to get their business or brand
to the next level in an authentic, organic, and aligned way what's true and authentic to them.
So I'm excited that you're here. And one of the things that I think a lot of people are struggling with lately is money trauma and money wounds. And I wanted to ask you about this
because you're the guy who wrote the book about the mindset of millionaires, the success habits
of millionaires. And I'm curious, did you ever have any money wounds or memories that caused
you to be anxious or avoidant or scarce around money in maybe your
early 20s from childhood? And if so, what were those kind of money wounds that made you
driven to succeed financially? And were you ever able to overcome the money wounds or traumas
around money, the ideas around money that maybe made you feel anxious or feel like I'm not
enough.
If I don't have more money,
did you ever have any of that happen for you?
Yeah.
You know,
great,
great question.
First off,
it's always great to be back with you,
man.
I appreciate it.
I love watching what you're doing.
I love the impact you're making.
We don't get a chance to see each other as much as I'd like,
but I'm always cheering you on.
Thank you.
Cause I'm watching your innovation.
I'm watching your growth as a man.
I'm watching the impact that you're making.
And by you working on you so much,
you might not realize how it transcends to the people watching.
Like, I feel different watching you this year than last year.
And I loved last year, and I loved five years ago.
I just told my daughter.
The first one I did was with my daughter.
She's going to be 18.
I remember, I remember.
She's going to be 18.
She was this big.
She was like 12 or 13 when she came in. Yeah, yeah, she's going to be 18. I remember. She was like 12 or 13.
She's going to be 18. So money wounds. You know what I'd love because I really want to specify this and I want to, I want to answer this question, right? Um, you get the opportunity to
see so many comments that come back, especially around money. When you say a money wound,
maybe an example of one you've had or you think some of your followers some
of your tribe might have I have my own I'm gonna share but I'd love even more
detail on that I guess you know when people when I think about money wounds
it's kind of like how did you grow up I remember growing up not not knowing what
money meant and feel like we didn't have enough at certain
stages. And so I felt like, okay, I'm confused about money.
I don't understand money. I don't know where it comes from.
I don't have the skillsets to make money.
How do I even manage it when I have it? How do I not blow it?
All these different things.
And I used to have kind of an anxiety around money.
Yeah. I didn't feel like I had enough.
Well, I, I, I agree totally totally like there was a time I said imagine if you and money like you were at a therapist and I
said this on stage just randomly once so it just triggered saying you're on you're
at a therapist your therapist is in the middle money is on one couch and you're
on the other uh-huh and your conversation is I don't want to need you
I don't want to be obsessed with you I don't want to need you. I don't want to be obsessed with you. I don't want to be
greedy by having you. I don't want to feel like I'm being a big shot by having you. But I want
to live into my full potential. I want to be a better parent. I want to contribute more to this
cause that I have. You know, I heard somebody say once, people who say money doesn't solve
problems means they haven't given enough away.
Right?
Or they have money's not happiness.
It's like you haven't given enough away.
So you have this, this, yeah.
Could you imagine a therapist say, wait a minute, let me see.
You're saying you don't want it.
You want to break up.
You don't want to be connected.
You don't want to have an association, but you want all the things that the money's by
products bring.
Because what is it that people really want when they say they want, they don't want the money, but they want all the things that the money's byproducts bring. Because what is it that people really want when they say they want?
They don't want the money, but they want what?
The byproduct, right?
I mean, you asked me my money wounds.
All I know is my wounds were probably a little different.
I was driven to want to make more money,
and I had one sole purpose, to take care of my mother.
That was my whole sole purpose.
My parents split when I was three.
My mother had made a string of bad marriages.
My mother was married five times.
She is the sweetest woman you will ever meet in your life.
Just made bad decision with men.
And every time it was horrific.
And every time she'd work three jobs.
She'd cut hair, paint houses, clean houses,
do whatever it took to just,
she'd come home at nine o'clock at night
with her hands tired.
My sister and I, when we were eight and 12, we're doing the laundry, making dinner, not
poor us.
Like we couldn't wait to do it for her because she'd come home and we lived in a trailer
park for three years and we got evicted from that trailer park.
And she tried.
I could get emotional.
I haven't, that's why I love interviewing with you.
You make me, cause I care about you so much.
I want to go back to feelings.
But I remember this poor woman.
I remember she had a 1972, that's how old i am chevy impala
and the back window got knocked out and she couldn't replace it for like a year
you know and you know it's like you grew up in ohio grew up in upstate new york going to school
it was freezing yeah right there's a piece of plastic that was flopping right but my whole
point is my whole emotion around money was i need to make it to retire that woman. Like if I think back,
my earliest thing, I didn't understand where money came from. I didn't understand how to make it. I
didn't understand the value. I just knew I had to do something different. My father struggled
financially. My mother was struggling financially. And I did become obsessed with generating more
money, but there was a deeper purpose. I retired my mom when I was 24
years old. I've been giving her a check. She's going to be 80 this year. I've been giving her
a check every week since I was 24 years old. My dad since I was 27. And so what I'd say around
money is we are in this weird time in history. I think we can agree. It doesn't matter what side of the
political arena, life arena you're on. It's like if in today's world, it's hard for people to have
conversations that don't agree, right? And money sometimes gets tossed in the middle, right?
Capitalism is bad. Making money is bad. When simultaneously, it's the thing that cures hunger.
It cures illness. It cures disease. It helps religions. It helps you retire
your parents. It helps you put money away for your children. So someday, I don't know where
the world's going to go. I hope you have children someday. It's a goal of mine. The day you have a
child, I hope I'm one of the first people you call if you decide to do it because you are going to
be the most amazing father. I mean that with all of my heart. I'm on four. If it's up to my wife, we'll probably have another, right? But how would you feel, no matter what money meant to
you at one point in your life, how would you feel knowing that you're not leaving entitled children,
but no matter where the world goes, your children are going to be safe?
Yeah. What is that? On a scale of one to 10, what is that?
10. It's a 200, right?
Yeah, yeah. Right? Helping out family members.
So I think I hope I was clear to say, don't look at money for money's sake, that it's just capitalism.
It's just greed. I just want the extra car, the $200,000 watch your audience.
You watching if you watch Lewis Howes, that's not who you are.
you watch Lewis Howes, that's not who you are, but money's byproduct. Oh my God. And I want to,
I want to share something that I did not see coming. Money did something different for me than anything I've ever imagined. Yes. I retired my parents. Yes. I feel like my kids are going
to be safe no matter what. Yes. I get to do things. I provide about 25 million meals so far
through Feeding America. We've saved children from slavery.
We've built churches and schools in Africa.
We do stuff all the time.
We just did something amazing last week out of the blue, right?
We get to do those cool things.
I get to employ hundreds of people, right, who have kids and families and all that stuff.
So all of those things have a positive impact on the world. But I'll tell you the one
thing, when you don't have money, you don't realize, like think about right now, if someone
grabbed your throat and squeezed it, what would you think about? The only thing in the world
is oxygen, right? How do I get more in? Getting free.
Right? But you're not thinking about it right now because it's abundant. It's not on your mind.
But what you don't realize is when money is lacking in your life it
focuses all the time I would do that for my kids but I can't I'd love to take
that vacation but I can't I'd love to do my own thing I'm sick of this unfulfilled
job but I can't I'd love to be at every baseball game I can't it all boils down
to money I don't care what anybody says you have the money you're in control of your decisions you're in control of your
calendar so I didn't realize I spent so much of my life with the throat being
choked but it was money and I watched that's how my parents lived I can't go
to the baseball game I can't put the window in the back of the car we got to
get evicted from this trailer cuz we don't have what we don't have money
right I'd love to say that we live in this perfect world that you don't need
money to make have choices in your life but most cases you don't have money. I'd love to say that we live in this perfect world that you don't need money to have choices in your life.
But in most cases, you don't.
But I want to tell you, for me, the biggest game changer is the day the hand came off my throat of money.
How old were you?
I probably was early 40s because I always worried about it, even though I was doing good in my 30s.
Even though you were making it, you had money.
But I still was the leftover broke kid that somebody was going to realize I wasn't that smart and take it all away from me.
Right.
Felt that way my entire, like, what are they going to figure out that I shouldn't belong
in this room?
Right.
Right.
I probably still feel like that a little bit.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Just so you know.
Yeah, yeah.
But probably my early 40s, late 30s, probably early 40s, the hand was off.
I retired my parents.
I had money away.
I was living a comfortable life.
My companies were growing.
off I retired my parents I had money away I was living a comfortable life my companies were growing and when I stopped when I didn't have to worry when
I could travel where I want to pay where I want donate what I want eat the whale
like nothing was like oh I can't because something crazy happened I realized that
I had spent my whole life chasing money so hard to do all those things That I had avoided all the craziness that went on in my childhood
Married my parents married nine times my dad extremely violent all the things that I was like well screw them
I there was you know some crazy things you're running away from running away from but you know
I was running so hard that it was like I took this way
I described would describe this I took all the things the trauma that we all, you had it, you and I know your history very well, right?
All that trauma, I just tucked it in a box and I put a lock on it and said, got to make money, got to make money, got to make money.
All of a sudden my brain's like, hey, we're okay.
And I feel like the freaking box, the lock popped off.
And the only person in the mirror was me.
I couldn't say, no, no, no, I'm too busy to deal with you, Dean.
I got to go make money. It's like, no, you got the money, I'm too busy to deal with you, Dean. I got to go make money.
It's like, no, you got the money, dude.
Shut up.
Wow.
You got me.
We got to work on this.
That was the biggest byproduct of my life is I went through a divorce in my 40s.
I became a better human in my 40s.
I met the love of my life in my late 40s.
All of that happened.
I got goosebumps telling you that because it's the truth.
I couldn't use that as an excuse.
Like, shut up.
You don't need that anymore
and
I wish that for everyone because there are a lot of people watching right now when I did shared the throat like holding the throat
Is you don't realize that the lack of is not allowing you to live into the dad the mom the husband the sister brother
The employee the friend the the donator the charitable person you want to be
Imagine if that was gone,
who would you be?
Do you think someone can feel emotionally free in life if they are not some level of
financial freedom?
Of course.
Some of the happiest people in the world have found that, right?
And if that is your path, then amazing, right?
But I also live in the real world.
There's about 3% of people that could probably,
5% that could meditate and love it,
and I admire those people.
I learn from those people.
I love reading their books.
I love listening to their podcasts.
They make me a better version of me.
But then I get to the real world with four kids and a wife,
and I want to travel, and I want to do things,
and I want to impact others, and I want to leave a legacy.
I want to change the world.
I want to make this place better than I found it., than I found it. All those things in most cases, Lewis require money. I don't care
what anybody says. If you think that's conflicting to your values, I'm sorry, but in most cases,
that's a fact. Yeah. Wow. So what would you say was the thing that unlocked for you to feel more
emotionally free, even though you were already financially free and still feeling a little bit
trapped yeah what was the thing that allowed you to unlock the peace along with the financial
freedom because you had the money you had the financial freedom you could you know charter
private jets probably in your 30s you had millions in the bank you you know had big businesses you
were on tv every day you had all these things, but you still
felt like there was a clinch in your throat, even though you were financially free.
So what allowed you to switch into emotional peace with the financial freedom?
Such a great question, Louis.
I think time, wisdom, maybe it wasn't even wisdom yet, it was on its way to wisdom.
We're in this space, we're in the personal development space.
You've interviewed more people than anyone on the planet that i know how much have you learned from all of
these interviews where you go wow that's still in there like i was still that broke kid running away
from being small running away from being broke running away from lots of marriages but i ran
it's like i could have run 10 miles i was i was on my 15th marathon i look up i'm 40 years old
it's like hey is it time to slow down a little bit?
And I think personal development, staying engaged.
I listened to a podcast or a book on personal growth at least 20 days of every month.
Still to this day, I have to stay plugged in.
I have to stay engaged.
For me, that old version of me is still in there.
And if I don't work on this version, it's like-
It'll take you back like if it'll take
you back it'll take me back yeah right maybe not at the level it once was so i would say just time
and then there was a there was a point in my history where i remember thinking hey if i have
the gift uh true story i i had the opportunity to spend a couple hours with richard branson on his
sailboat.
I helped raise a million dollars for Virgin Unite.
He invited us to go to his island.
I thought he wasn't going to be there.
He was actually there.
Wow.
I get up super early.
You and I have run super early in the morning.
Yeah, of course.
Every 5 o'clock, he's the only other one up.
So he saw me one day and he goes, hey, you want to sail tomorrow?
I'm like, hell yeah, what time?
So we sail around the island and he said something to me.
I asked him about this question.
This was probably 15 years ago.
It was,
I was 40,
41.
Um,
he said to me,
uh, I asked him about money.
I probably asked him a similar question that you asked me.
Maybe it's a time in life when you ask those things,
right?
I'm 41 right now.
Okay.
Yeah.
Look at that.
So here's what he said to me.
He said,
and,
and I,
we're doing an event and he's going to be on the event.
So it's good.
I'm glad I'm going to see him again.
I haven't talked to him in ages.
But I asked him a similar question.
He said, you know, thank God for the people that could, let's use an example of, and I'm
going to paraphrase.
It's 15 years ago.
But he said, thank God for the people that can go to a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter
and serve food and make beds and give love.
I love those people.
Thank God for them.
He said, but we're all put on this earth. If you have the opportunity to make money like you do, then you can do your part.
He goes, somebody needs to help. But how cool would it be if you could walk into that homeless
shelter and hand them a hundred thousand bucks? He goes, so if you have a God given talent to make
the money, go get the best in the world at that. Give it away. Change the world. We still need the
person that's pouring the soup. And if you still want to do that, you can, but if you can cut the check,
do it. And I shifted how much money I give away and things I do in private from that day.
Sure, sure, sure.
Because I'm like, if I can make it, I can help even more. So I think some of those things all
stack together, personal development every day day realizing the association with money that then money is a byproduct in my life it has to be a byproduct that is ethically
earned right if you're doing something unethical you're selling drugs it's like you're gonna be
out of alignment you're out of alignment but if you're doing something ethical like what you do
here i'm like i hope you make a gazillion dollars doing what you do because you transform so many lives if if you're doing something impacts live and you can ethically
earn by doing that and then you do good with the money you earn yeah then then you should feel
guilty not getting after it not held back right and maybe i'm a little jaded and i've been doing
this a long time but that's the way i feel. That's your thoughts. I'm curious, if you were, you mentioned kind of money therapy, which I really liked that.
Let's say you're the therapist, the money therapist, and people watching are sitting
on their couch or listening wherever they're listening in the world, and they're in the
hot seat for money therapy.
And let's just say they come in your office for the first moment and they're in the metaphorical
office right now. And you get to ask them one, two, or three questions to see and assess where
they're at in their money relationship, their relationship to money, and if it's healthy or
if it's not healthy. Not saying you have the answers on what they need to do afterwards,
but for them to assess where their money relationship is, what would be a couple of questions you would ask them so people could take a self-assessment
and see, oh, maybe this isn't serving me, this type of energy, this relationship I have to
money. And maybe I need to take different actions and heal some of these money wounds that we're
talking about. What would be a couple of questions that you might ask on the spot here? I didn't
prep Dean for the money therapy. Oh, this is great and and i know i'm in a phase in my life where i'm going to share the answers that i
feel even if they might not be perfectly politically correct because it's not my job to be politically
correct it's my job to help serve if i'm going to spend an hour with you i want people to be
impacted yes i can only go back to my mom who is one of the sweetest women in the world, worked really hard.
But my mom, in the situation she was in, I can remember growing up.
And if we saw a business owner or we saw a woman in a Mercedes, my mom probably on her third job with her window knocked out with two kids, with an ex-husband, my dad, who didn't give her any money.
She didn't work on personal development. She didn't work on herself development she didn't work on herself how she had the tools but we'd pass a woman in a Mercedes and she'd stop and my mother
would look over go must be nice right must be nice or they use the words lucky
or see a business owner and go, that bastard.
And I'm talking about the sweetest woman, but when it came around that, and I remember
feeling awkward around that.
It was like a resentment energy.
There was a resentment energy.
And I think that could build.
If you're someone struggling financially and you see someone that seems easier, if you're
in a job and your boss or the owner is a you know someone who's not ethical
and not a good person i was going to use another word but i won't swear today right those things
can slowly build there's another thing i want to share and and i'm going to digress i've never been
asked this question before i've never shared this answer without realizing it sometimes people fall
into a career mindset i'm not knocking a career mindset but as a career mindset. I'm not knocking a career mindset, but as a career mindset,
you try to get good grades. You try to get the right school. You get a job. And you go,
I would assume, especially your clients, you go into this career with ideas and I want to change
the world and I want to get raises and promotions and I want to impact others. And in that work
environment, so many people, it's toxic. Meaning you have an idea, it's squashed. You try
something new, you can't. You might have a boss that's got his thumb on your head or her thumb
on your head. So every time you bring something up, they either steal it or they don't share it
because they don't want you to shine the light on you. And what happens to people over time,
they lose that innovation, that ambition and go, well, that's the way it is here. I'll just do my
job. I'll keep my head down. I'll get my raises and i'll go through it and all of a sudden you you slowly lose touch
with those dreams you have the desire to do your own thing to travel more to see the world to be
at every baseball game to to be a stay-at-home dad a stay-at-home mom you start losing those
well simultaneously people got are not listening to your things and your creativity gets shrunk.
And all of a sudden I believe there's an adversity to money because money, someone else has the
freedom, someone else has the joy.
And maybe they had a different path or maybe it didn't work or maybe they got lucky or
maybe, you know, must be nice as my mom said.
And I would just, this is not the perfect answer because I've never been asked this,
but I would just really explore if somebody with money or thinking of money makes you feel a little off, I would get a journal like is in both in front of us right now and say, why does money make me feel off?
Well, is it because people with money are greedy?
Are people with money bad?
You know, is capitalism bad?
Right.
I mean, I employ between our couple of companies, there's over 400 people we employ.
We have a get-together, and they bring their families and kids, and we get to see all this
impact that we get to make.
All these people are out, and they're spending, and they're buying, and they're doing things,
and then we take and we donate some to charity.
Like, sometimes when you write it down and you look at it you might go am i misjudging money or am i misjudging the people that
I see with money and am i portraying them is there a different type of person
all things come from belief you know this better than anyone you write on it
you understand it it's like your belief about money is gonna drive you because
the other thing is this is the last part.
I really want to, I hope this is landing today, is if you have a deep belief that money's
bad, if you have a deep belief that money, people with money are greedy, if you have
a deep belief that they're horrible capitalists or whatever the number, the term in your head
deeply, and maybe it was your parents that put it there or your professor and it's living
in there.
And simultaneously, you're dying to start your project project your art project or start your own business you will be so
conflicted it'll never work it'll be a self-fulfilling prophecy because every
time you see a glimpse of success you'll self sabotage because if you get money
then you're a greedy capitalist bastard and you're gonna self sabotage you go I
tried it three times it doesn't work because everybody's greedy and nobody gives you a break and it takes money to make money. And even the
banks only loan people that have money, screw that. And you go back to the job where someone's
thumb is on your head and it's self-fulfilling and you go, money sucks. And so do the people
that have it. I'll just do my job. Wow. Right. That's a good question to ask people. Yeah.
Right. So I would just say, what is, go back to what is go back how does someone get out of that if someone has that mindset how do they break okay so i would say i would put a piece of paper
i'd cut the paper in half and i'd put your belief about money uh-huh okay it's people could be
greedy or people don't use it right or it's abusive or some people just chase money and
they forget happiness and all that stuff and then on the right side i would just say
is it true is it true?
Is it true that everybody has money, is just greedy and doesn't care about others?
Is it true that people must be nice or whatever your feelings are?
They're lucky.
They're lucky.
And then the third thing I would write down is if you had money, what would you do?
That's interesting.
Right?
Because I guarantee it's not going to be, especially this audience, it's not going to be new car, Lamborghinis, watch, travel all over. Yeah. It's going to be
take care of my mom. I'd make sure my kids are okay. I wouldn't work that the extra shift so
I can be home at dinnertime. Take vacations. Take vacations with my family, make memories
that last a lifetime. And you're going to look at this list of what you would do with money.
I'd give more to my church. I'd help people out in foreign countries that are going through wars. You'll look, I guarantee there won't be one thing on there
that is like a negative. Everything on that will be an impact to the world. So then can you, the
fourth column would be, can I create new beliefs around money that I want to serve more? I want to
give more away. I want to be a better human. I want to work on myself. Finally, I want to get in
better shape. I don't have time to get in shape. I want to go back into therapy. I want to work on myself finally i want to get in better shape i don't have time to get in shape i want to go back into therapy i want to finally stop drinking i want to finally stop
smoking then all of a sudden you look like those old beliefs are stupid i mean the only thing that
changes could you imagine and it's the last thing i'll say on this part imagine getting to the end
of your life uh-huh and you get the chance to meet your maker yeah and say why didn't you live a
fulfilled life why didn't you live yeah why didn't you live a fulfilled life?
Why didn't you live? Yeah. Why didn't you live a fulfilled life? It's like, no, it was okay.
No, seriously. You didn't live into your full potential, Lewis. You did. Why didn't you go after that dream that you had to be an artist, to start your own business, to speak up, to create
your own podcast, to write your own books, to, to create courses, masterminds, workshops, or,
or those were the restaurant you wanted to the gardening company. Why didn't you do it? It's like, well, you know, people with money
or money. Could you imagine God just like shaking his head and going, really? Let me show you a video
of the woman you could have been if you shifted those beliefs. You would have given away this
to charity. You would have helped change the world. You would have fed the people in your town. You would have made sure your mom was okay. She didn't have to worry about social beliefs. You would have given away this to charity. You would have helped change the world. You would have fed the people in your town.
You would have made sure your mom was okay.
She didn't have to worry about social security.
You would have left your kids in a better place
so they had a foundation
in case something goes crazy with the world.
That's where you could have been
if you just shifted that thought around something so silly.
Are there abusive people with money?
Yes, that's a fact.
Are there abusive people?
There's alcohol out there. Do some people not drink it and some people abuse it? that's a fact other abusive people there's alcohol out there do some people not drink it and some people abuse it
that's a fact right we have the decision we get to decide how we can earn it
ethically and distribute it with love and if that's what we do if we craft a
new meaning around all of it like when Richard Branson said hey you could go
serve and that's great we need that or you could go give a hundred grand to
that thing I'm like I want to be the guy to bring the $100,000 check.
I'm in.
How do I get bigger, faster, stronger, hungrier?
And it fueled me to go even faster.
Wow.
Speaking of donating and giving money to charities, organizations, or people you feel that you
want to be of service to, How old were you when you actually really
were intentional about giving on a yearly basis? I'm assuming you like gave a little bit in church,
you gave like, you donated a little here and there, but when, what year or year was it where
you're like, I'm going to start trying to give more. And why did you say you wanted to give
more financially to the causes that you cared about and And what unlocked on the other side of that?
I'd love to say it was consistent
before my 40s, but it wasn't.
I was just so hungry to...
And so,
there's one more thing I want to share.
There's two...
Sometimes, you know the saying,
when you're on a plane,
put your oxygen mask on first
and then put it on the person next to you.
Right?
I want to give everybody permission to give themselves grace and put their oxygen mask on first.
Because if you spend the time, effort, and energy digging in and you get that, like, all focus on that. You don't have to feel greedy and say,
well, I'm making some money right now.
I didn't give enough away this year.
It's like, no, no, no.
I'm going to go so in on this business
by the time I'm 45 or 52,
I'm going to give away 25% of my income
or 20% of my income,
but I got to get my oxygen mask on first.
Because you might be just,
you got to figure out a new business
or figure out a new thing or figure out a new job.
The economy's going up and down.
Economy's going up and crazy politics, this stuff it's like get yourself get your
footing in and then when you do you got the opportunity to shift yes and i have to tell
you that probably in my 40s it became a consistent thing and what i love we have a couple of causes
we have our two youngest kids have some really bad allergies so it's my wife's passion we help
out a local hospital that that's really amazing and we're building a ward there and we do help out a lot with
Feeding America and a bunch other but I also love I love I have a fund that I
just leave there for stuff that comes up that I didn't know was coming yeah right
Tony for example Tony Robbins my partner and dear friend on his 60th birthday
party right they threw a big party for him and he would not allow a party to For example, Tony Robbins, my partner and dear friend, on his 60th birthday party, right?
They threw a big party for him and he would not allow a party to happen.
I was there.
Oh, you were there.
He wouldn't allow a party to happen for just him.
It had to be about something, right?
I had just donated a whole bunch in other areas and we got to that event.
He was like, I needed to donate more.
Yeah, I got to that event and my heart, my heart, that's right, you were there.
I hugged you when I stood up.
My heart was so, like, because it was talking about children and slavery,
and I had no idea it was at that depth.
I don't know if you knew.
I knew.
You hear a bit.
I didn't know it was that big.
But watching what was happening, and they're like,
who's going to donate $5,000?
And I'm like, $500,000.
Like, I donated a half a million that night.
And I was able to do that.
And my wife and I went back
She was pregnant for Luca. Who's yeah, yeah for she's pregnant for Luca
We went back to the hotel and we were giddy because we were calculating how much that half a million how many?
Children would be saved beautiful, right?
And I don't know if anything was more rewarding than that and that's still a lot of money for anybody
But but to be able to do that and then a month later
I donated another hundred thousand dollars because I wanted to save some more kids right so how do you i mean
when you make a big check like that even if you you've already donated a lot before then in the
months leading up to that it sounded like and you make a big donation like that that's still got to
feel like oh the half a million dollars is leaving my bank account to go to this cause you're hoping
that they do the right things with the money.
They steward the money the right way and they take care of the money and it goes towards the cause.
Is there ever any fear when you're making a big donation?
Like a little anxiety of like, oh, but how am I going to make this money back?
Yeah, you know, I would say.
What if I don't get this money back?
I would say, hands down.
Lewis, I love this conversation with you because it's every question I would have asked at 41.
Every single one.
And then being partners with Tony especially, he donates more than anybody knows.
He drives me to push more and do more.
I think I'm going to do 100 grand.
He's like, really?
Okay.
But I have to tell you, it feels that way at first.
But I believe there's this byproduct of growth in your life that you can't
quantify or equate. You can't say, I donated a half a million here. Oh, I got back a half.
You just got to have faith that there's new doors opening up. And whether it's true or not,
it's my belief. But my belief wasn't there in my early 40s. I would bet to say mid 40s to 47,
40, it started to go. And now i'm 55 now in the last five years
it's just like oh what can we do what can we solve how can we help because i know it's going to come
back to me and then i can give you more then it's going to come back and i can give even more so
it's time before you ask i'd love to say i read this book i did this thing it's like it's time
wisdom experience right it's like it's like slumdog millionaire the movie right how did
he have all those answers because he went through all these experiences pain lessons right so i've
been through all these pain these experiences so now they just build to that's who i am at this
current time and if we do this in 10 years i'll be somebody different wow speaking of tony robbins
i was at that event and it was amazing to see that the amount of that he donates at every one
of his events for some type of charity or cause donates at every one of his events for some
type of charity or cause, Feeding America is one of his big, I think he donates all
of his proceeds to his books or something like that to Feeding America, Billion Meals
or something, whatever it is.
What would you say are the three biggest money lessons you've learned from Tony Robbins in
being his business partner, one of his close friends and just interacting with him and
seeing how he gives, but also he's an
extraordinary earner right he generates and brings in a lot of money but he's also a big donor of
causes what are three lessons you've learned from him i would say number one i just wrote down
again i love when you ask me questions i've never been asked before. Number one is his other businesses
at this phase of his life
make more than his core business.
Really?
Yeah.
Right?
Significantly more.
So he's the personal brand of his main business.
Right.
And he's running his events and books and courses.
So he told me a great story.
He's dear, dear friends of Peter Guber.
Wow.
Right?
And Peter Guber was a mentor to him. Right? And when Tony was younger, Peter Guber Wow right and Peter Guber was a mentor to
him right and and when Tony was younger Peter Guber owns part of the Golden
State Warriors and every other team yeah Academy Awards movies everything dynamic
amazing man to only know him through Tony right so at a younger age Tony's
you know Tony Robbins stories on the road 250 days a year he's doing five day
events seven day events ten day events he's story, he's on the road 250 days a year. He's doing five day events, seven day events, 10 day events. He's speaking here, speaking there on the road and lives in
a plane, lives in a hotel. Right. And he is, he is hustling and Peter Guber invites him to go
someplace, Egypt or something like that on a fancy trip. And he's on this plane and he said,
he's on this plane and, and all of them, they're on their way to being billionaires writer in that.
And he's like, man, my business doesn't have margin.
I'm just like, he started thinking about how his business was so much work and so much
effort.
And these guys had better areas.
And when he first left, then he diversified immediately.
I invested in this, invested in that.
And all of them suffered.
Really?
All of them suffered because his main business, he didn't put his oxygen mask on yet at the level he could have. He didn't probably have his 10,000 hours in yet.
Of course, he mastered at a young age, but he was mastering this on another level.
Long story short, he got some great advice from Peter and others. It's like, go back
and master the one core business. Because that core business, if it's mastered,
then when the profits start distributing,
you can, number two, you asked me three,
number two, you can give more.
Number three is you can invest in other companies
and projects that you like.
So don't do that until you master the core thing.
Right, and so 10 years, 15 years,
there was head down in his business.
All of a sudden, this thing became an incredible company that kicked out money that he could donate he does
donated a billion meals which is insane right it kicked out money for next level
donation to so his one philosophy is give more number two you know another
one would be empower the core business and when that business is empowered use
those proceeds to invest in other great
businesses. And now over time, that goes to the, we all overestimate what we can do in a year and
underestimate what we can do in five or 10. In five or 10, now he's got the funds to invest.
And now those other companies make him way more than his main business, but he still empowers
his main business. It's still his love. It's still his passion. It's still his child, right?
It's literally, you know, RRI, which is Robbins Research International, the UP unleashed power,
the end date with Destiny Business Mastery. That's his baby. But there's nothing, they don't
make anywhere near the money as other things do. Really? But he's still putting just as much time
into it? More time. Because it's his passion, it's his thing, and it was the machine. And I think we
live in a world today where we try something for a year and go, that's not it. What's next?
Oh, that's not it.
What's next?
Right?
You need the 10,000 hours.
You need the time to break the barrier and find your lane.
And so after 40 years, he's still doubling down on his main thing, even though it's not making the majority of money.
So it's a great lesson.
With our company at Tony and I own together, Mastermind, it's like, I'm all in on this
foundational company. It's growing exponentially. And that'll produce so many results as we move on.
What happens if someone gets too much money before they're emotionally or mentally ready for it?
What will happen to them if they've come into a lot of money with that lack of emotional awareness?
Yeah, we see it in the news all the time, right? I mean, I think that's self-aware.
I mean, why do the majority of people
who hit the lotto go broke, right?
They didn't have the emotional wherewithal, right?
I feel bad for them
and they probably get taken advantage of.
They don't understand money.
I mean, most people don't understand how money works.
I get that.
And everybody should get some financial literacy
to really understand it.
But I think the answer is really simple. In most cases, not saying on most cases,
you could just look at lotto winners. You can look at families. I've seen-
Inheritances, lottery winners.
I am so, I have to tell you, this sounds like people with money problems,
but I lived in a trailer. Everything I said was true.
I know your history.
My kids are growing up completely different.
I have never seen a trust fund kid to this day that was just handed money without responsibility.
Without education.
I tell my family, my kids, I'm running the first leg of the marathon.
And when I'm gone, I'm going to hand the baton off to you.
If you want to run and you want to run hard, you can continue.
If you don't want to run, if you think I'm just going to hand you the baton, you don't.
You can go work and be a teacher and I'll double your salary, but you'll never be a part of the family.
The money.
The money part, right?
So the reason I'm saying that is because I worry every day.
I do not want my children to just have money at their access whenever they want
and before they understand the value, the value creation, contribution,
all the things that took me to 40.
I'm hoping I can get it in them by they're 35.
But if I'm here, that'll happen 100%.
If I'm not, my entire will, my entire statement is they have to go through certain trainings.
They have to do things.
They don't get access to even see what's going on until they're in their 30s.
And when they do, they don't just get checks.
They have the opportunity to enhance whatever it is I've done.
They can grab the baton and go, hey, I want this division or I want that.
Because that's my biggest fear.
Because I think you're a thousand percent right.
And I also think that's where money could get a bad rap because you see somebody who
got money before they got the wisdom behind it and they abuse it.
Yeah.
Wow.
What would you say are the three biggest money, excuse me, what would you say are the three
biggest mindset issues that you see people holding them back from making money easy in
their life?
Making more money easier in their life. Making more money easier in their life.
What would be the mindset issues that hold them back?
I would say first off is getting rid of the word easier.
Because I think that could be screwing you up.
Because there is really no easy money.
You have to follow a plan.
You can get there quicker by modeling proven practices.
How do you make money easy for you so it doesn't feel like this hard thing that's an unbelievable it's too hard to
make it's exhausting oh got it i understand the question not make yeah yeah i get it now not make
easy money right money easy got it got it um the greatest thing in the world that i know the answer
is don't start from scratch don't try to figure it out on
your own model proven practices so not to not to talk about my family so much my daughter's going
to be 18 she's going into 12th grade and i gave her an option since you and and all my kids will
give the same option after school after high school they can go to college if they want or
they can go
mentor under someone for two years right if my daughter wanted to be in podcast
I say move out to LA work for Louis for free and you have to be his best
employee if Louis doesn't think you're the best employee he's got but the only
way I would do it is if if you can learn from Louis if you get time to talk to
him to watch observe take notes be an apprentice. Right.
Because the fastest way to get from where you are to where you want to be is find something that you're passionate about.
Then find someone who's good at it and learn everything they've done so you can start off on third base.
Right.
So, so many people, when they think about money, it's like, or they think about this career is unfulfilling.
I got to get out. And then they go over here and online how to make
six figures in six weeks how to do this get rich doing this kid it's like ah
I'll just stick with the thing I hate it's like you got to find someone who's
got a proven path a proven plan like every time my brain at this phase of my
life when I think how to do something my brain is converted to who's already done
it and how can I learn from them.
Yesterday, we're doing a big event in June.
Yesterday, there's a gentleman that really is great at events.
I think Tony and I do events better than anyone.
I'm willing to learn from anybody.
But we want to make this bigger and better than anything.
Yesterday, I spent a good chunk of money and hired someone for half a day to come in and just share everything He knows about live events and the truth is I knew 90% of it, but there was 10% of like damn
I didn't think about that. I knew 99% of it
I was like, oh my god, I never thought of that. So my brain is always
Who verse how because the the the Tony goes it the tyranny of how.
It's like, oh, I want to get my social media account going.
How do I do that?
But if you can hire somebody that knows social media,
it's like, oh, who can do that?
Oh, they can do that while I do this,
and then I can make money over here,
and I can pay them to do it, right?
So I would say everything's easier
when you model proven practices.
You get a blueprint.
You get the roadmap.
When people think, well, I don't know the right people
that all have the right connections.
I don't know people who have money.
How can people get out of that mindset
and start thinking about
how to find the who in different ways?
How do they enroll people
in giving them time, energy?
I love it.
I love it.
You know, I, first off,
I've been on this earth long enough
that when I was a kid,
there were no podcasts.
There were no digital books. I had dyslexia, so reading was brutal before I could listen to an
audio. We didn't have access to information, access to AI now, access to amazing books,
access to amazing podcasts. You can go back in all your years of interviewing, how many great
interviews have you had about money? Probably. A bunch.
I've had a handful.
Yeah, yeah.
A bunch of them.
Think about going through your old podcast
of finding the ones about money, about wealth.
Go find others that are respected
and have depth and breadth.
They're not just the guy that's telling you
how to get rich for five minutes
because he's actually getting rich
helping people think they can get rich, right?
Like the person who's actually done the thing
and just start absorbing it.
When there's a will, there's a way. D duh, like you've been saying that for a while.
But when you want to learn something, the teacher is there, right? And then as you start learning,
as you start developing and you're watching podcasts and you're taking notes and you get to correlate and then you maybe go to AI and go, I learned these three things. How does that all
tie together? And AI helps you bring it together. And then you might say, hey, I'm going to start reaching out to some of these people because they're going to feel my
passion, my desire, my interest. I mean, I have done interviews with people that aren't big
podcasters that didn't go anywhere where people just wrote me the nice enough message my team
sent to me and go, this kid or this woman, she's just a hustler. Would you give her 20 minutes?
I will. Right. And that only happens though
when you feel someone's passion.
So the teacher's there.
You just got to get after it.
Good attitude, passion, all these different things.
I heard you say online one time
that the only thing standing between you
and your next level is the story you tell yourself
on why you can't get there.
If someone has just had
a challenging life, you know, growing up where it just felt like everything was against them
and they have a belief system, memories, and stories that are proof and evidence of why
they're not good enough, talented enough, or capable of finding the right people, going after
what they want or whatever circumstance or situation they might have.
It's strong evidence showing that it's not possible to get to the next level.
How can someone start to tell a different story that they can actually believe it's
possible to get out of a challenging situation, personally, financially, relationship, into
a better situation?
You know, it's probably because, I don't want to answer this too simply.
This is a really great question.
It's probably because I try to absorb as much wisdom as I can from others who have done it before.
And I see the mismatch or the mishmash of personal experiences and trauma and things
that go wrong with so many successful people. You get
to see it every day, right? When you and I get the opportunity, when we've mastermind together
and really talk deep when no one's around, like you, I feel like I'm at this phase where I want
to, if I had the chance to sit down with everybody individually, I could look at him and go, no, no,
no. All of that crap happened because it needed to form the woman you are.
Yeah. That's the good stuff.
You wouldn't be the man you are if you weren't on the couch,
if you didn't think like all of those things built this guy who's Lewis Howes,
that you can be this amazing man to your partner right now,
that you can look like all of those things had to happen,
but it's so hard when you're in it.
Like, oh, really?
I had to get cheated on.
I had to lose this relationship.
My business partner had to steal my money.
Right.
Unfortunately, yes, because you can look at it any way you want I got a share I'll share this and
if I go back to personal stories just so I hope it relates 12 years old I moved
into my dad very very confrontational my dad was the youngest of 12 he was
physically abused sexually abused he he's okay with me sharing that and old
school Italian didn't get help.
New York guy, like, just scared away every wife.
My sister hasn't talked to him in 25 years.
Oof. Right?
So, didn't talk to one of his brothers and sisters.
Right? He had 12 siblings.
And he had 12. And doesn't talk to any of them.
It was just a dysfunctional family.
So he decided, I'm gonna be a better dad,
but he couldn't, he didn't get any help.
Yeah, the tools. Yeah, yeah.
He was rough. So all the women women ran everybody ran away from him at 12 years
old he terrorized my mom so much that he said i said when we leave my mother alone right he said
move into me i'll never bug her again so i moved in with this guy my mom was devastated and she's
like you can't i'm like i am i wouldn't tell. Why? Because I knew she wouldn't let me. So I move in with this guy.
You're 12?
I'm 12.
He's living alone.
He's living in a tiny little place.
The heat's barely on in the place.
We had a little electric heater that kept the place warm.
It was a nightmare.
I'm like, I left my mom.
We lived in a cul-de-sac.
I had a Mongoose BMX bike.
I had friends.
Now I move in this hole.
Excuse my language.
I move in with this guy guy and he's a mess
like i'm older now i can see just a disaster this guy is bipolar or somebody can diagnose it better
than that but some days he's super dad letting me drive at 12 years old taking me fishing and other
days i'm vomiting blood because i have a bleeding ulcer because i'm so afraid he's going to get
violent with people get arrested again and do all this stuff, right? So I got this guy that is my hero
and the guy I'm scared to death of.
But by the time I was 15,
I started understanding emotions
and I understood how he would feel.
I understood how it came from.
I started to have empathy for him.
And I could watch him come in with, like,
terrorizing, his name's Paul,
terrorizing, he'll listen to this
and he'll be totally cool
with it he's an amazing guy he's 87 now and he's in a beautiful space but i saw paul the terrorizer
the one that my mom was afraid of and everybody was afraid of come in i could spin that guy
and i could get him to be that loving dad that would take me fishing now when i was in my 20s
and probably late teens early 20s i thinking, how could I ever be successful?
Like, my dad, like, he's never made, like, all the things I went through and the divorces and the crazy dad.
But there was a time that flipped.
And if I look at my life now, and you've watched me go on stage in front of, I mean, with the Conahay, we had half a million people live at the same time.
Amazing.
And I can go and I can, I believe I can feel people's hearts.
Wow.
I can read them and I can adjust what I'm doing
and I can present with confidence.
That was all crafted by the crazy Paul
because it was the protection
so I could stop having a bleeding ulcer.
I got off the bus and threw up blood at 13 years old.
Wow.
And I had a little blood in my mouth and dad,
my father was like, what is on your lip?
And I couldn't tell him because in his head, if I had a bleeding ulcer, it was because
my mom left him when I was three.
It was all my mom's fault.
If she didn't leave me, we'd have no divorce.
You'd be a happy kid.
He didn't realize it was his craziness.
And he'd take a baseball bat and drive to my mom's house and knock all the windows out
of her car and her house.
They'd call the cops and they'd be fighting and I'd be in the car shaking, right?
So all those things happened i only say that because that could have been and this sounds
like i'm just talking look how great i am i just want to share i was able to convert that yes from
how could that happen to a kid to thank god it happened to me now for a living i can i can use
this empathy i can use this compassion i can impact others i can get up on stage even though
i'm an introvert and be able to talk to people
and go, I'm gonna throw away the presentation I had
because this crowd needs this.
I learned all of that from that crazy guy.
All of it.
So I'm only sharing, I don't wanna make it simple.
Life happens for us, not to us.
That's Tony Robbins and I love that saying.
I don't wanna just make that a simple little throwaway,
but I really wanna share life really,
if we can life
already happened for us and if you had crappy stuff i'm so sorry but you get to make the decision
today and go i can't change any of it because that was the ingredients they got me here today
to be who i am so i have to say i'm thankful for it yeah i have to man that's powerful and it's so
hard when you're in the
sadness or suffering of course it is to be like this is all going to benefit me in the future
and you'll never feel that way like get me out of here but you but you get to a point where you go
like and that is such a great i don't ever want anybody to think i go through crap and i still
of course do and go ah thank for this easy but there is i'm at a place in my life go this sucks but i know
it's happening for a reason yeah because every bad thing and then i'm like then i'm looking like
all right when is it gonna sometimes it takes longer like yeah of course this one not and
eventually always there's a reason it always does when and when you think back at all the painful
moments you see this is how it applies and a benefit to me today yeah that had to happen as
painful as that was, like
me getting injured and you going through this, through your dad, all these different things,
it had to happen for us to be where we're at today, but we had to make meaning of it and sense
of it and alchemize it into something good. Absolutely. Absolutely.
Speaking of alchemizing to something good, you, you took all this wisdom and experience and
passion and hunger to build a business,
to make money and to kind of run away from the pain by saying, I'm going to be financially free,
so I'm never broke again. You've used that pain into financial freedom.
But did you ever have a moment where your self-worth or your identity was tied to money?
Absolutely.
And what happens when we tie our self-worth to our
net worth? And how do we not make sure that when our bank account goes up or down, our identity
and our personal belief in self doesn't go up and down as well? It might be impossible.
Okay. Tell me more. I don't want to answer honestly today. That's another thing.
Over time, it slowly fades away.
Yeah, yeah.
I'm in a phase in my life.
But I want to tell you, if you asked me that question.
10, 15 years ago.
No, five years ago.
Really?
Like if you would have lost a little bit of money one year than the year before,
and it wouldn't have been down, would it affect your self-worth?
It does.
It does.
And it will.
Why is that, though?
Why is that? Is it because money is energy and it's not probably not for everyone but for me i ran away from not having money
and retiring your parents and taking care of people and and all the things that you do
and then the thought of going here's the here's the words that i believe never said these out
loud the thought of going backwards like what if i don't have the freedom what if i had to tell my mom i can't
send you that check right what if the place we go away each summer and we spend three weeks on the
beach what if i can't take my kids there and make those memories so i i would say some of it is
self-worth but it's again going upstream what's it? I won't have, and I think this is a really big one. I won't, this is mine. So this is a little therapy
for Dan today. Mine would be, I'm not in control of my decisions. If I don't have the money,
I can't maybe take my kids out of school. I can't, I might have to work late and miss the
big baseball game. I might have to work late or I might have to work through the summer and not spend three
weeks with the kids that's been everything since they were born.
So for me, it's going backwards and not have choices.
To this day, if you said, you're going to go backwards and I got to take some of your
choices away, it would still ding my core.
But I mean, okay, I get emotionally if you lose some money, right?
Let's say 10% of your money goes away for whatever reason.
The business goes down or something happens or I don't know.
You talking broke?
Not broke, but just some of it goes away, right?
But analytically, you see your numbers and you still have tons of money to be retired for the next 30 years.
It still hits you.
Really?
It still hits you.
money to be retired for the next 30 years. It still hits you. Really? It still hits you. And,
and over time, I promise you or anybody listening right now in a decade, you'll laugh at it and go,
Hey, am I okay with that? Because I like my lifestyle is worth more, right? In 10 years from now, five years from now, you might have a three-year-old and you go, I'm used to making
this in this quality of life. Right. And so when you make less. But I would take a 25% cut in that pay because my significance of being a dad is exponential to that money.
And that's how it trades off.
Okay.
I would say pre-kids, right, when it's just you, it is a hard one. i'm not putting this on you i'm not even saying
you're answering this question for you it does because we we live in this and we do live in this
world it's like we feel like we're measured on the success that we've had right and all of a sudden
if you're going backwards a little it's like am i the man i said i am am i really good at my
interviews am i really good at marketing am I really good at doing this thing?
And all that stuff comes to the question.
All I would say is sit with it and just do the thing we talked about around money.
It's like, is that true?
Like, I see your life.
This is probably not about you.
I know you're doing amazing.
But I see you so much richer today than when I first met you.
Yeah.
So much richer.
I don't care if you
were making 10 times the money, then you are a richer man. You are in like the love you give,
the energy you give off the every conversation I have with you, the personal work that you do.
I sent you a nice audio two weeks ago about something you did. I was like,
I'm so freaking proud of you. In my eyes, not see it I'm using use the example I know those
people but you might say oh I made a little bit less this year than last year and from the outside
I'm like is that dude rich but it takes time and and I just would say when you feel that way really
question it like don't just let it sit don't just feel it or you know because you'll be in a
conversation I know what it's like when I thought i was doing well doing 10 million dollars a year and i'm like i came from nothing
i'm in a trailer park i'm doing 10 million dollars in gross revenue a year i get to keep a million
of that for me or two whatever i'm doing amazing and then i go sit with somebody who's doing a
hundred million and it feels like they got it systemized and they're going to get on their
plane and they they look like they work way less than me.
They're relaxed.
And they're going to go.
They're flying off to.
They're golfing every day.
And they're flying off to Italy to spend time on the Amalfi Coast.
And I'm like, oh, my God.
I am such a loser.
It's all perspective, right?
And how do we not compare ourselves to others when around money conversations?
Can I tell you that?
Friends, family, colleagues who might be making more. How do we not say ourselves to others when around money conversations? Can I tell you that? Friends, family, colleagues who might be making more.
How do we not say I'm worse than them or I'm...
Yeah, no, it's just real conversation, right?
I know, that's why I like this.
It's just real conversation.
And the fact of the matter is there's only really one way to do it, is you got to look
backwards.
You have to adapt the culture of progress, right?
Not a culture of comparison oh man
and that's not an easy one but it's true because if you look back at where you were if i look back
at where we are we grew like rockets yes we're not supposed to be here like if someone i barely
got out of high school didn't go to college had dyslexia graduated high school with nine cents
in my pocket and started working on cars what statistical yeah mathematical
percentage would you give that kid to be able to and i'm sitting blessed to be you yeah 0.001
percent yeah point zero this is your one percent like if someone gave you like i'm gonna retire my
mom and i'm gonna do all these things somebody be like oh that's so cute go work on your collision
you know go pound another fender.
Right?
So when I look back at that kid who was just dying to make a thousand bucks a week so I could take care of my mom and do that, man, I'm a rocket ship. But if I compare myself in two weeks when I see Richard Branson and go, wow, he's a billionaire.
Oh, right.
So culture of progress versus a culture of comparison. Yeah. There's so many more questions. It takes time. It takes time, right. So culture of progress versus a culture of comparison.
Yeah. There's so many more questions.
It takes time. It takes time, though. But just know all. Here's what I love. You're asking the right questions for everybody listening today.
Because wherever you are on this scale and the spectrum, know that when you stay engaged in personal development, when you ask the right questions, when you question your beliefs, when you go upstream and say, is that true?
Is that really, is that a factor?
Is that just a belief I have around the fact?
And where did I get that?
And how would I feel if I shifted that?
And what if I created new beliefs?
And what if I, you just, it's not something you do when you listen to a great podcast
or read a great book or go to a Tony Robbins event.
It's something you got to do all the time.
And then slowly it becomes a part of your life.
I wish, like I've done the work and be like, I feel the best in my life.
I'm ripped at 45.
I feel great.
And then I forget and I slack off.
And three years later, I wake up and go, oh, I feel like shit again.
Like you got to stay.
It's like going to the gym.
You got to go all the time.
Consistent repetition.
It's interesting because I was just with, yesterday, I was just with the number one pickleball player in the world where pickleball is 40 million people around the world play this sport.
It's like this rising sport.
And I was doing, I was playing against the number one player in the world yesterday.
Oh, that's so cool.
We were just doing a practice, but I couldn't score one point on him.
Right?
And I'm like an athlete.
Yeah.
It was so frustrating.
Two hours with this guy. Not one point? Not one point. Now, right? And I'm like an athlete. Yeah. It was so frustrating. Two hours with this guy.
Not one point?
Not one point.
I get it.
Now, I eventually got one point,
but it was like he made a mistake.
You know, it's like,
that was why, okay,
I got like a point or two, but.
And at the end,
we'd do a sauna,
we'd do a cold plunge
because he just finished a tournament
where he won.
He's the number one player in the world.
That's amazing.
In singles, in doubles, and in mixed doubles. He's the number one player in the world. That's amazing. In singles, in doubles, and in mixed doubles.
Number one in all three categories in the world.
25-year-olds.
His name is Ben Johns.
And I said, what is the one thing that it takes for you
to be number one in the world consistently?
And he said, consistent repetition.
He's like, most people just don't want to keep showing up every day
and doing practice for four or five hours a day,
doing the recovery, yeah the prevention stuff like it's just i've been putting
the reps for eight years in the sport and i keep putting in the reps yeah kind of going back to
what tony you know he mentioned tony's like 40s five plus years in he keeps doing the reps and he
gets better and better it's interesting there um i want to ask you a couple more questions before i
transition into where people can listen and who are watching now,
who I think if they're trying to figure out ways to generate more revenue for themselves,
if they're trying to figure out ways to use their art, their talent, their passion, and what they can do,
I want to talk about that in a minute.
But I've got a couple of questions before we address that.
And I wanted to ask you about the three habits that you think keep people broke.
A lot of people, they work really hard. They still kind of have, they're still kind of broke
or they're struggling and they stay in debt. What would you say are those three habits that keep
people stuck financially or feeling broke? I would say not identifying habits that don't serve them.
You know I wrote a book on habits.
That's my glasses.
Sometimes if you have a hammer, you always see a nail.
For me though, if I look back at people in my life,
my family, others,
they didn't realize that they had habits
that actually pulled them away.
The habit could be waking up in the morning.
And I look at everything as a habit.
It could be waking up in the morning and watching your look at everything as a habit. Could be waking up in the morning and watching your news.
No matter where you get your news from, right?
Never in my life have I ever watched the news
and felt empowered, right?
So you could have a habit of waking up and watching news.
It puts you in a reactive space,
in a defensive space, and you're never innovating.
You're never creating.
Yes. Right?
So I would look for habits.
Like in the morning, you could wake up and just say two or three sentences of gratitude
you can get out of bed drink a green drink and take a walk or you could get
up click on the news grab your phone look at your emails and text find the
bad one that puts you in a bad mood and go eat have coffee and a doughnut now I
don't I'm not knocking anyone but but they're both habits. Yes. One habit makes you feel, I believe, you're more on offense.
Like, hey, I fed my body.
I took a walk.
I'm grateful to God.
I prayed or whatever it is I do.
Another one's like, ah, that third email for the same thing.
And you believe the trials that are going on, the election that's going on.
Same morning, same thing.
Two completely different experiences.
One says, bring the day i
got it the other one says what do i have to fight today yes right that's a habit to me so that's
the first one kind of identifying them yeah number number two is and i've never shared these so i'm
just winging them yep is stop making the thought of making money a mystery.
Right?
Like, how do they do it?
How do they get rich?
Dig under the hood.
Like, find somebody in something that lights you up, right?
Don't just look for making money for the sense of money.
Find something that, if you like interior design,
if you like courses, if you like doing podcasts,
find somebody who's doing it well and making money
and learn everything they're doing. because it's not a mystery.
There are blueprints everywhere, right?
And I think sometimes we're just like, I'd like to make more money, but how would you
like to make more money doing something you hated every day, right?
Would you replace?
So I think that's the third one.
And the fourth one I would say is this crazy outside world, I believe, is a magnifying glass.
If you have uncertainty, it will 10 times it.
You'll find uncertainty.
Yes.
So in times like this, we have two options.
It's just a choice.
We could see obstacles or opportunity.
And I would try to train my brain
that every time you see an obstacle, oh, this is happening. I say, what is the opportunity in this?
What is the opportunity in this? So if I had more time, I probably would have thought more,
but I would see opportunity over obstacles. I would try to focus on what you have,
not what you lost. And those things sound like, oh yeah, but how do I, you know,
but those things are the foundational. foundational if i had to add a four
find an emerging market don't right i know it's a simple analogy but you wouldn't want to invest
in taxi cabs when there's uber right but so many people do that they they they go into something
that was second secondary like find something that's emerging meet the world where it's going
not where it was right what is wayne gretzky's great quote? Yeah, yeah. Go to where the-
The puck is going. Skate to where the puck is going. Do your research. Look at AI. Model other
people. Look where the world's going and get there before other people.
Yeah, that's cool. That's what I did with podcasting.
I know you did.
11 years ago. It's like, I feel like this maybe could be a thing. And it may not always work out
for you, but be willing to invest it and take the time in it. I like that. Um, five years
ago, you know, I've been on a lot of amazing trips in my life. I feel blessed to have like traveled
the world and just done so many different things in my life. But five years ago, I went on a trip
with you and Tony Robbins and Fiji with about 20 of us for a week. And during this time, I remember
Tony saying something, and maybe it's you and Tony at the I remember Tony saying something,
and maybe it was you and Tony at the same time,
saying like, winter is coming.
I remember hearing this five years ago.
This was right before the pandemic came in.
Maybe it was like four and a half years ago.
And he said, winter is coming.
And you backed it with,
make sure you're really innovating your gifts and talents
and not just protecting yourself,
but progressing yourself and putting yourself out there so you can feel more
abundant in your life as opposed to feeling scarce and feeling like you have
to just hunker down and wait for winter to pass.
And you and Tony have done something every year where you teach and educate
people for free and a big live experience online on how to
optimize the skills and talents and knowledge they have in order to earn some extra income,
launch their business, and many other things in this creator economy. I'm curious, can you share,
and you have this coming up as well, about a million people show up live for this around
the world. Can you share what people can learn if they're just like i don't
really know what to do with my career or the opportunities i have or how to make some extra
income great question how they what they're going to learn from this experience you have with them
this live online event that's free and what they can start doing now to prepare for that yeah so
i i would start with the first word of investigate if if you have a business
that's not as profitable as you'd like it to be yes come investigate and i'll give you the answer
in a minute here if you're in a career that is just it's served for a certain time in your life
but it's not fulfilling anymore in fact you despise it come investigate and if you're that
person that knows you're inside like your inner entrepreneur is dying to come out, but you're not sure where to start, come investigate.
And that's all I say.
In life, we have to look at these different paths.
Here's what I think.
We're calling the event The Game Has Changed.
And it's time for the new playbook, right?
But what does that mean, The Game Has Changed?
I think COVID gave us a byproduct,
gave a lot of byproducts,
but one byproduct I think it did
is made people realize,
I think people used to say,
I'm either gonna, I can get this career,
it might not serve my soul,
but it'll take care of my family, right?
Or I can be the craziest entrepreneur
and maybe it'll work out.
Right.
I think where the game has changed.
And I'll lose my health and my relationships in the place.
Right.
Where I think it's changed is
in what Tony and I love to share,
and it's the industry we're in.
He's been in 45 years.
I've been in almost 30, right?
In the industry of our life experience
is the greatest asset that we own, right?
And I'll talk more about that in a minute.
But where the game has changed high level is that you don't have to separate those two anymore. I
like the term life work integration. Yes. Right. Not balance. Not balance. It never balances. Has
it ever balanced for you? Never. Right. But when you can go home and your work is okay to bring
with you because it's a part of your soul and you love it. For me, having the opportunity
to take a life experience, a career skill, a passion you have and learn how to extract it
and package it into a product or an asset and be able to give it to somebody and you get to
shorten their distance from where they are to where they want to be. You have a business,
you have a career skill, you know how to sell better, do hair better, or you went through a
divorce and you're on the other side and you're happy, or you lost
yourself or you lost the weight or you do yoga or any other thing that you do so well.
My physical therapist, because I got a torn ACL, I'm working with him twice a week.
Oh, man.
I went skiing, tore my ACL.
That would be last year too, man.
It's so annoying.
But I'm working with him twice a week and I'm watching this guy, he's got his own business,
but he's in the time and effort community.
I said, do you have any course or training I could do when you're not with me? He's like, no. So I got him right now. He's
extracting his life experience. He's building the course. I can't wait to buy it from him, right?
Every single person on this planet has a life experience that is valuable when you know how
to extract it. So Tony and I are great at, right? And the reason we can't, we love to share it each
year is because just most people don't know how to turn that into something of value.
And that's what we share over three years.
How do you identify what it is?
Who would want it?
How do you name it?
How do you price it?
How do you deliver it with passion that you have fun with and whatever delivery system
you want?
How do you get people to say yes without feeling like a salesperson?
So we get to do that.
And it's turned into a movement.
I mean, you were a part of it day one.
You were a part of the first one we did as a friend.
And now it's this millions of people around the world have been part of it.
We're in over 120 countries.
Wow.
And people are realizing, I could do something I love.
I could impact others.
I could fall in love with it.
And there's no glass ceiling.
Right?
I'm not saying get rich overnight for doing nothing.
That's not Tony and I.
And the second part of the game has changed.
The way we used to teach this is you had to figure it all out. Now we have the opportunity to use AI, especially AI that thinks like Tony and I do to exponentially get you off the blank page. So I heard somebody
say, AI won't take your job. Someone who understands how to use it will. Right? I thought
that was a great analogy. So we want to show people how they could shorten the distance of starting your own thing, how
they could build confidence with AI, not be scared of it, and how to do this in a time
when it's exponentially growing.
I mean, the business, when I started 30 years ago, was a tiny little niche, as you can imagine.
When Tony started 40 plus years ago, tiny.
Now it's a billion dollar a day industry, and it's being fueled by regular people.
A billion dollars a day? A day. Wow. Yeah. They predict it'll be a billion dollar a day industry and it's being fueled by regular people. A billion dollars a day?
A day.
Wow.
Yep.
They predict it'll be a trillion dollars a year.
What is this industry called?
You could call it the knowledge industry, the self-education industry.
It's someone who builds a community or creates a course or has a weekend workshop or does a monthly Zoom call or does a coaching call, or heck, writes a book, starts a podcast.
I mean, you are, your whole business, you're in the information business. You interview amazing
people. Some of my favorite guests ever, people you've had on, and we all tune into that because
of information, and sponsors pay you, and other people pay you because you're bringing information,
right? I'm going to give you one more story. If you have a business right now, if you have a business right now and you don't have
a line item on your profit and loss statement, that's an information product, you're missing out,
right? I was joking. We're at dinner. I'm going to tell this one quick story just so,
so I believe if you want to start a business, there is no better time to start it. So I'm just
going to pre-frame this.
And why not create an asset that you own already, that you don't have to warehouse, you don't
have to store, you don't have to pay for it.
It's got extreme value.
You get to impact others.
There's no glass ceiling.
That's your information.
So number one, if you're going to start something, come investigate.
Yes.
You have three days for free, about three hours a day.
Tony and I are going to hands down deliver you all the time of your life, right?
So that's number one, if you want to start something if you've been
dabbling in this if you're a coach and you don't know how to get to that next
level we'll show you how to do that yeah third though the third group that I
think is a must is if you own a business or at dinner the other night with my
wife and I was sitting with a great couple and they were saying well what
what do you mean they should every business should have this I said take my wife my wife she owns salons right she owns extension bar in in phoenix uh she
was voted the top hairstylist eight out of ten years when i met her right amazing you know my
wife yep so i said take my wife for example all the girls that work in her salon when they're done
they offer shampoo on the wall right i said babe said, babe, what is it? 15, 20 bucks? Yeah, whatever. You make a couple bucks on it? I said, yes. I said, okay, great. I said, what if my wife,
who went through Propecia and lost her hair at one time, my wife has a daily routine on what she
eats, how she eats, what she puts on her hair. Her hair is beautiful. It's shiny. It grew back. I said,
what if my wife created a course that women at home could make their hair look healthier,
younger, shinier, help with Propecia, eat better, be healthier.
I said, and at the end of every session, instead of saying, do you want a bottle of shampoo?
Say, hey, our founder, Lisa Graziosi, created a course on how to do these five things at home on how to have healthier, shinier hair.
Would you like me to add that for 37 bucks?
I said, you sell the same amount.
It costs no money.
It delivers massive value, the girls
could make more commission.
And my wife elbowed me, she's like, why didn't you tell... My wife literally wants to do
it right now, right?
But my whole point is every business, if you're a real estate investor, if you're in yoga,
if you're a physical therapist, it doesn't matter.
If you're a mortgage broker, if you don't have an information product to either enhance
who you are and your reputation or to actually sell it, you're missing out. So we're going to share that as well. Wow. It's beautiful. And so it's a free
event. It's online. It's three days. You and Tony Robbins live teaching each day. If they go to
deanandtonylive.com slash Lewis, that will send them to a landing page where they can opt in for
free and give them access to these three days. Yeah, and it's not kind of free. It's completely free.
There's no catch.
It's an amazing experience.
And a million people
register every year.
Every year.
It's crazy.
So it's amazing.
I mean, I've been there
many times and seen it
and I know the stuff
you're telling me
behind the scenes,
what's going to happen this year
is going to be bigger and better.
That's why we call it
The Game of Chains.
We're going to blow
everybody's mind.
I know we've done it
five years in a row.
If you've been to any of them,
this will be unlike anything you've ever saw because
things have shifted so much.
I mean, there's been more shifts.
Since last year?
It's been crazy.
There's been more shifts in the last 12 months than I would, Tony and I agree, we think the
last 20 years.
Wow.
Right?
Like, you know, when I started, I had to walk uphill both ways in the snow.
You know what I mean?
No, but I had to build a product.
I had to put it in a warehouse.
I had to do an infomercial because there was no internet.
Like, you know, you're in a quarter of a million bucks to see if you could sell a product.
Phone sales rooms.
You got to do the shipping, the fulfillment, all this stuff.
Crazy stuff, right?
But the last year, the way technology has advanced, the way AI has advanced.
And listen, Tony and I haven't just been doing this for 70 plus years between the two of us.
We still do the biggest events, the biggest trainings in the history of the world.
There's nobody that does million person events,
right?
When we did McConaughey,
we had two and a half million
show up on day one, right?
So we're one step ahead.
I'm just being honest.
Like if you're dabbling this,
we're one step ahead
and we want to show everybody
how to get one step ahead.
DeanAntonilive.com slash Lewis.
Make sure you guys go there,
register and sign up.
And while you're watching it live,
let me know the biggest takeaway tag me tag Dean on social media.
Let us know the biggest takeaway as you're watching it live and take action
on whatever you're learning.
That's the key investigate and then take action.
You're all over social media,
you know,
Dean graciosi.com Dean graciosi on social media.
But this is the main thing I want to send people to.
And if for whatever reason they're watching this and the event is over at that time,
hopefully that link will send them to a place where they can opt in to either see, you know,
a PDF or a replay at some point or something else in the future.
So make sure you just register for whatever you see there.
People might watch this in six months, you know.
So make sure you go there and DeanAndTonyylive.com slash Lewis to get more information.
And I'm sure there's going to be a lot of value there.
I wanted to ask you a couple of final questions, but Dean, this has been amazing.
I'm going to acknowledge you before I ask the final questions for your consistent growth.
Personally, the, the leader you are as a man, how you continue to evolve, how you have this
beautiful family.
I know it hasn't always been perfect in your life, but you keep evolving and you keep giving.
So I want to acknowledge you for, you know, you flew out here for the day to be on this. You're
going to help me and my team with some strategy stuff. So I acknowledge you for the constant
journey you're on. And also like, you know, you reach out to people you care about when you see
something in their life that matters. And so you've done that for me many times and I'm just
grateful and appreciative of you. I feel the same
way about your leadership and your friendship. So I appreciate you for, for everything and the
wisdom you've given today. I feel like the stuff you shared today, I've never heard you share.
I haven't because this is not on any other place anywhere. I know. And I love it. I love that.
I think you're doing something on money in the coming future. I can't wait. I can't wait.
I think I asked you this question before, but it it was what four or five years ago last time you're on this is called the three truths you may not remember this i don't but so it's a hypothetical
question okay imagine you get to live as long as you want okay you're 100 something years old you
know ai and science extends our lives by however many years. And you get to live the exact life you imagine
from this moment until the last day.
You get to create anything you want to create.
You see your kids grow up and be successful and happy
and great grandkids, all the different things.
But for whatever reason on this hypothetical scenario
on the last day of your life,
you have to take everything with you.
The content, the businesses, this podcast, the books, we don't have access to
it in this world anymore. Hypothetically, it goes somewhere else. But on your last day,
you get to leave behind three lessons to the world where we would get to keep these three,
I call them truths. What would be those three truths for you on your final day not remember that question um wow
great question um i think three truths are is um nothing is permanent
nothing is permanent the worst day of your life it will change the best day of your life it will fade
um i think so many times in my life when
things went sideways went wrong moved into my dad something happened at 18
lost my first business in my 20s it wasn't working out I just I felt
hopeless and down and I wish I had an earlier age I would have realized part
of it it's not permanent it's just part of the process so number one number two
I have to go back to the thing i said that
the story our lives are nothing more than the stories we tell ourselves right um you have to
check the core belief i mean i probably learned that from tony robbins 27 years ago so i don't
want to act like that's new and revolutionary but i live by that whenever something is wrong i call
it i go upstream and go,
what is the belief I have to have to feel this crappy,
feel this off, or feel this stress?
I think the last one, and this might sound too cliche,
is dream way bigger than you think.
Dream way bigger.
It is the same amount of work to do something 10 times the size to do this one time. It's the same stress. It's the same worry. It is the same amount of work to do something 10 times the size
to do this one time.
It's the same stress.
It's the same worry.
It's the same fall.
You might as well aim bigger.
That's beautiful.
Final question,
what's your definition of greatness?
Non-stop evolution.
Growing.
There you go.
Dean, appreciate you, man.
Thanks for being here.
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