The School of Greatness - The Neuroscience of Identity: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns | Emily McDonald

Episode Date: June 1, 2026

Your brain is making choices for you before you even realize it. Neuroscientist Emily McDonald, known as M on the Brain, studies how your identity, nervous system, and subconscious programming quietly run the show. Most people think they're choosing. Research shows the neural pattern of a decision lights up in a brain scan before you're consciously aware you've made it. That's the gap Emily spent years learning to close. She grew up with clinical depression, ADHD, anxiety, and a victim mindset baked in by illness and circumstance. She wasn't looking for a life philosophy. She switched her major to neuroscience because it sounded cool and got a 100 on her first exam. What she found changed everything. The science she uncovered is this: your brain holds a model of who you are in the default mode network. It uses that model to predict your thoughts, behaviors, and choices on autopilot. If the model says you're someone who struggles with money, or fails at relationships, or can't focus, your nervous system quietly steers you toward confirming that story. The identity is the destiny. Shifting it means more than positive thinking. It means identity anchors, environment, the people around you, the habits encoded in your body. Emily calls it identity shifting, and she coaches people through it by asking a deceptively simple question: do you have a to-do list or a to-be list? Most people have never sat down to ask who they're becoming, only what they're accomplishing. This conversation will rewire the way you think about why you keep falling back into old patterns, how affirmations can actually work against you, and what neuroscience actually says about the law of attraction. Emily's Website Emily's Instagram Mindcraft Coaching Program In this episode you will: Understand how the default mode network stores your identity and drives your choices below conscious awareness Learn the identity shifting process Emily uses with coaching clients to break subconscious patterns holding them back Discover why affirmations backfire and how to use forward motion and dopamine to make them actually work Explore the neuroscience behind the law of attraction and why you attract what your nervous system is wired for, not what you want Understand how ADHD medication, dopamine dependency, and addiction cycles form in the brain and what it takes to rewire them For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1935 For more Greatness text PODCAST to [phone] Follow The Daily Motivation for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Dr Joe Dispenza Dr. K Dr. Sue Morter TOPICS Emily McDonald, neuroscience, identity shifting, default mode network, neuroplasticity, law of attraction, subconscious reprogramming, ADHD, dopamine, limiting beliefs, nervous system alignment, victim mindset Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How important is it to make sure your nervous system is in alignment with what you think and believe in order to manifest what you want in life? You wouldn't really be able to trust somebody that was always saying one thing and doing another. You'd probably have your head on a swivel around those people. When you're always saying you're going to do one thing and you're not doing it, your brain is on a swivel with you. And that's dysregulating. And then when your nervous system is dysregulated, well, then that's the energy flowing through you and that's the energy. you're putting out. She's a neuroscientist and mindset expert who's been featured in the New York Times and

has reached millions of people across social media. Today she's going to break down the neuroscience-backed methods to help you rewire your brain. Emily McDonnell in the house. Your brain is always filtering your reality to confirm the beliefs you already have. You actually get dopamine too when your brain confirms the belief you hold. Even if it's negative. Even if it's negative. So if we are constantly doubting ourselves and having this negative mindset, then our amygdala is

to hijack our perception and we're not even going to be able to notice the opportunities or the things that we want. What is the thing then that keeps people falling back into their familiar patterns and way of being rather than fully shifting into the newer greater identity? So I think there are kind of two components to this, which is... We were just talking about right beforehand you were mentioned that you really got into manifestation or you started to learn more about it from the school of greatness. So I'm grateful for this full circle moment. Yeah. That you you have gone on and crushed it and went to get, you know, study neuroscience and really have built your own thing. And it's been really cool to watch what you've done. So congrats on everything.

Thank you. It's been amazing. And thanks for your podcast because I don't, I mean, it was a huge player in my journey and developing, learning about manifestation and developing it in my spirituality and getting to this point where now I'm getting invited on your podcast. That's great. It's great. One of the things I wanted to start with is about nervous system and the brain. How important is it to make sure your nervous system is in alignment with what you think and believe within your brain in order to manifest what you want in life? I think it is the most important thing. I truly think it's the most important thing. I mean, when I think of your nervous system being in alignment with what you want, I think of your thoughts, your beliefs, but not only that, but also your habits and the way that you show up in the world because your brain doesn't just listen to your thoughts, it also listen. to who you're being, right? And that's such a key player and something that I love talking about is identity because, you know, your identity is your destiny in this life. And I love talking

about that. And it's so huge. I mean, every single time I shift my identity, my reality shifts, like, pretty quickly. And so that's because your brain holds a model of who you are, right? And the default mode network is a key component in that. But your brain holds a model of who you are. And then it uses that model to predict your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and choices without your conscious awareness. So a lot of the time we think we're choosing, but really it's our identity and our nervous system that's choosing for us. And they've shown that in studies that a lot of time the neural representation of the choice that you've made shows up in a brain scan before you're even consciously aware of the choice that you're making. And so that really is the importance of

making sure your nervous system is in alignment with where you're trying to go. Because if it's not, then you're going to have, you know, those moments where you're like, why did I not do the thing I know I should be doing. Why did I make that choice? Or maybe you don't even know what to choose or you're confused or you're feeling stuck. You're lacking motivation. And getting your nervous system into alignment really is the first step. Interesting. So would you say that our nervous system is actually making decisions for us rather than what we truly want or desire? That happens a lot of the time without our awareness. Our brain is making choices for us. And when I think of the brain, I mean, that's a part of the nervous system. So they all kind of work hand in hand,

Right. Like the brain is a part of the central nervous system. We've got the peripheral nervous system as well. So these two work hand in hand. But I think that, you know, through processes like meditation and practicing mindfulness meditation, we can start to become aware of these patterns and build the awareness of them and actually begin to heal these things so that we maybe have more agency over these choices. And in those moments where you're waking up or maybe, for example, you have this habit of eating unhealthy foods. and you're always doing that. If you're opening up the fridge and you're really hungry and you're really stressed, so your impulse control is not as strong when you're stressed or tired, and you're opening the fridge and there's a dessert or there's a salad. It's like your nervous system, if that's a part of your identity to always be eating unhealthy foods, then your nervous system probably would subconsciously motivate you to go and eat that dessert or the unhealthy snack or whatever it is.

But when you kind of practice mindfulness and you kind of expand that gap where you feel the desire and the motivation, but you can actually kind of override it, that's when you can start to choose differently. And I always say you're always doing one of two things, reinforcing your current reality or creating a new one. And just from the kind of neuroplasticity perspective, right, like you're always either strengthening the pathways you've always strengthened in your brain or lighting up new ones and strengthening new pathways in your brain that can then help you build a new reality. So yeah, I think that we are always kind of being subconsciously motivated and we're always moving in the direction of our focus. We're always moving in the direction of our

identity because our identity is our destiny. But so, yeah, I think to answer your question, yes, but we do have agency to kind of change what those subconscious motivations and desires are. Why is it so much harder to create decisions based on a future reality than a current reality? I think it's only harder if you don't have a super clear vision of the future reality. And this is where I think practicing the art of, I call it identity shifting, but sort of constructing that version of you that has it all, I think is the most important thing. Like, everybody has a to-do list, but how many people have a to-be list? Like, do you know who you're being called to become? And I always think, you know, in every great movie or book, there's this hero's journey.

It's like they don't achieve the goal as a version of them who started. they achieved the goal as a version of them they had to become to achieve it. And that was, I mean, in my own journey, in my own life, like I knew if I had this big dream, I was going to have to become a better version of myself. And so knowing that if I want to live in a better, quote unquote, better reality, different reality, then I'm going to have to become a different version of myself. And I think that can be confusing if you don't know who that version of yourself is. But I like to sit down. I mean, I always take my people that I coach through and even myself through a practice where I visualize that version of me who has it all. Like, who is that

version of you who has it all? What are their habits? What's their energy like? What's their mindset like? How do they carry themselves? What do they do every day? What are their beliefs, you know? And I think once you get clear on that, it becomes a lot easier to act as that version of So yeah, I think it's only harder if you don't have that super clear picture. What is the thing then that keeps people falling back into their familiar patterns and way of being rather than fully shifting into the newer, greater identity that has the direction of the version they want to be? When you've lived for 20 plus years or 30 years with an old identity.

Yeah. So I think there are kind of two components to this, which is literally just identifying as someone different, like adopting that label. And a lot of the time that can feel like a lie, right? It can feel. It is a lie until it's not. Right, exactly. And I had someone, a client that I coached and he struggled with this habit for his

entire life. And I told him, I was like, he's like, I don't know why I keep falling back to this. And I was like, well, that's it right there. You have this story that you always fall back to this. And so your brain is just confirming the story and the belief that you already have. And so I said, just tell a different story. And he came back two weeks. later and he had this whole transformation already. And he's like, yeah, I just went up to my friend.

And I was like, I'm just not that type of person anymore. And he's like, my friend laughed at me, but this, but it's true. And so I think that kind of is one component to it. But then there's the other component, which there are things that are identity anchors. So things like habits, your environment, the people around you, even the foods that you eat. I mean, the brain is an association machine. So it always is making associations or connections with everything, especially in an environment, which is why I mean, like, moving is such a crazy way to level up in life because you're taking your brain out of an environment, putting it into a brand new one where there are no prior associations. There's no old identity. So you kind of, your brain kind of just has to, like,

build this new construction of who you are in this new space. And, you know, environment is huge for that and the people around you are huge for that. But also your habits and your behavior. your behaviors are identity anchors as well. And so, you know, if you're trying to shift your identity to someone that is, you know, likes to go to the gym and exercise frequently, you also need to be acting like that, right? You got to, you also have to follow through on your word, which is huge. And I always say, you know, what do you trust? Like if someone came to you every single day and was like, oh, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do this. And they never do it. Like, what would you believe their actions or their words. Yeah. Like we trust people's actions. And it's like you don't feel,

you know, yeah, you wouldn't be able to trust them. And your brain is no different. You know, like when you're constantly doing the affirmations or the visualizations and you can do that all day long, but if you're not acting on it, then what do you think your brain is going to believe? You're going to feel like you're a fraud probably also. It's going to hurt your identity, right? If you're saying, I am doing this, but then you're actually physically not following through, what happens to your brain or your nervous system when you constantly break your own word? You lose self-trust and self-confidence. And also, that's very dysregulating to your nervous system.

Very. I always say, like, discipline is nervous system regulation. And that's because, you know, going back to this example of you wouldn't really be able to trust somebody that was always saying one thing and doing another. In fact, you'd probably have your head on a swivel around those people. Like, you're not... Possibly. Right.

Checking your back constantly, yeah. And so when you're always saying you're going to do one thing and you're not doing it, your brain is on a swivel with you. And that's dysregulating. That's, you know, if you feel unsafe in your own body because you can't trust yourself. Wow. And then when your nervous system is dysregulated, well, then that's the energy flowing through you and that's the energy you're putting out.

And other people can feel the state of your nervous system. The environment can feel that. Everything around you can feel that. That's energy put out. And then, you know, you're not manifesting the life that you want from that. not. Well, you're draining your energy and you're exhausting yourself. Your nervous system is weakening, your health is weakening. You're not vibrating and emitting the energy at the highest level that you could. And I think it's important to, and listen, we're all going to make mistakes and we're

never going to be a perfect 100% in integrity with our word 100% of the time. Like, we're going to make mistakes. But it's, if you can, the more consistent you can be, the more empowered you will be as well. Something you talked about a number of times is identity so far. What is an identity mismatch? And how does someone know that's the real reason their goals, the relationship or success keeps falling apart no matter what they try? I think the way you can maybe discover if you have one is by asking that question of whatever it is that you want, whether it be the relationship, the job, who is the version of me that has that? And getting really clear on that. And then asking yourself, okay, am I in alignment with that or am I out of alignment with that?

And I think it's fair to notice, though, that there is always going to be a gap. But I think that that gap is beautiful because that's, you know, the work is never done. But that means that there's always more to become and there's always more to grow into. And I think that's beautiful. And I think actually having the ability to identify where that gap is, it kind of moves you from feeling like, oh, I'm stuck and I don't know what to do next to I know exactly what I need to do next. And that's empowering.

So it's not about labeling, oh, this is where I'm out of alignment with my version of me who has it all. And that's why I'm not getting it. It's like, no, it's like, okay, cool. Now I have clarity. Like, I know exactly what I need to do. So I think that's that identity mismatch. And if someone is, you know, really wanting to achieve something, do something and they find

themselves just continuing to fall back to old patterns, I mean, they can check in with themselves and be like, okay, where, you know, where am I acting out of alignment? Maybe my beliefs, my habits, my routines, maybe, you know, even my thought patterns. Or it could be as simple as just the label that I'm using to identify myself. Like, what is the label that I'm using? When I was first starting the process of writing my book, I had that, like, I mean, and I think it's such a great point to say, like, no one's 100% perfect all the time. In the beginning, I was just procrastinating writing, I would sit down and then I'd be like, oh, maybe I could go record a video. Maybe I could go record this or those dishes need cleaning. Like, I don't know. I could go do that instead. I was like,

why am I procrastinating this? I know I really want it, but I'm not, you know, doing it. And I finally like kind of sat down myself and I was like, oh, like, it's a part of my identity to be a content creator. Like, that's a part of who I am now. I've been doing it for so long. And so it's very normal and familiar to me to go and do that. It's just part of who I am. It's like maybe like being an author needs to just be a part of who I am. It's like maybe like being an author needs to just be a part of who I am and writing. And so I literally just decided I'm an author now. That's who I am. And when I decided that, I was like, okay, what does an author do? Well, they write. They write frequently, whether it be for 30 minutes or hours and shifting my identity in just that simple little way

of just literally choosing to identify myself as that and then asking myself, okay, well, what does that version of me do? Well, she writes. And I think I've, without knowing how this works, been doing this for a long time because when I was in college, I would go through kind of weeks spans where I'd just be having so much fun. Like I would be having so much fun with my friends and, you know, going out, whatever, hanging out with them. And then, you know, exam season would come around. I'd have like, week or two straight of multiple exams. I'm like, oh, it's responsible girl Emily time. Like responsible girl Emily. And literally like that was what I would do. And, and all of a sudden now responsible girl Emily, she says no to plans. She's staying in. She's

studying all night. And that's, it really worked for me. That's. what I would do. You shift into that different identity. Yeah. And then you'd step into it and you'd create boundaries to not go out and not party or not be distracted. Yeah. We'd shift into that identity. It's interesting. I've heard you say this before. You've said that we don't attract what we want. We attract what our brain is wired for. So before someone can manifest the change they want in their life, what has to change first at the identity level? At the identity level, I think, I mean, everything that the category we've kind of mentioned thus far, the labels, the habits, beliefs, thoughts, energy. So I think all of that. But I think a huge component to why I say that is

in that we don't attract, we want, we attract what our brain is wired for is deeper than just identity. I think it's also our programming because, you know, from as we grow up, when we are first born, our brain is a sponge. We're born with the most connections we will ever have in our brain. And then as we learn and grow, our brain actually starts to prune away these connections. And the pathways that are left is our programming or our conditioning. And I love this study that they did with the kittens where they took these newborn kittens and they raised them in complete darkness, except for only a couple of hours a day where they would put one group or they would put them individually

into cylinders painted with either only horizontal black and white stripes or only vertical black and white stripes. And then after the kind of critical period of development, they put these kittens into a normal environment and they like for example the kittens that were only ever raised to see the horizontal black and white stripes they would like have a vertical bar and they'd wave it in front of these kittens they wouldn't react to it and so this is I find that this is so like true for us in our lives and so many people it's like the things that we want a lot of the time are like they're around like opportunities are there but our brains are not wired to perceive them and I remember when I learned about that

kitten study, I was like, damn, like, where am I a kitten in my own life? Like, where am I a kitten in my own life? And we're all kittens in our own lives. Where are you right now? Somewhere. Honestly, I feel like this next level for me, I feel like I've had this very full circle moment. I mean, just being here, but also, like, I finished writing my book. I've grown my platform tremendously. I have a really successful business. I'm engaged in my dream relationship. Like, try my dream car. I bought my dream house. Like, I have all the things. And then I realized kind of, okay, like, great, but what's next? Because joy, I mean, happiness, like, to me, like, one of my values is growth. And so it's not all about what I have. It's about feeling like I am growing

as a person, but just in other areas in my life. And I think my next level is, okay, it's time to write in some new beliefs. Because years ago, when I decided that this was the journey that I wanted to go on, I was a mad woman, like in my, you know, affirmations with my visualization, with just the way that I carried myself and very strict about the energy, the people that I keep around me, and all of those things. And I mean, I can confidently say now that I'm pretty sure everything I ever wrote down has come true. And so now I'm kind of like, okay, well, what do I want to write down next? Like, what is, like, okay, like, I think now I am the kitten in my programming is the life I'm currently living. And I know that I foresee even greater levels for myself. And so now

it's time to kind of wire in some new stripes to see. So that's where I'm the kitten. If you could go back, you know, three years ago to the version of Emily you were three years ago, what is one belief system that you had to completely rip out of your brain to make this life possible? I think being realistic and logical, that's probably the belief system. That's the belief system you had? That I had to rip out. Yeah. Yeah. So I grew up just very, you know, parents in finance, like very logical, mathematical structure. But then also, you know, in my own life and belief systems, like I always like math, science. And it's all very logical. And just the people around me as well, it's just very logical and rational. And so I kind of had to really on purpose train into my brain. There are things. things that could happen that are outside of what you could ever imagine and you have no idea what's going to happen today. And I think the first time I ever heard it was from Wayne Dyer,

but he says no one knows enough to be a pessimist. Like we have no idea what's going to happen. And there's even days where I'm driving to the gym in the morning and I'm like, oh, I got so much to do today. I'm doing like this, this, that, whatever. And then I pause and I remind myself, wait, like, I have no idea what's going to happen today. Why am I having this mindset that I know how today is going to go. I have no idea how today is going to go. For all I know, some unexpected blessing or opportunity could come. Like, I have no idea. And this specific day that I'm remembering, that's exactly what happened. Like a couple hours later, I'm in a meeting and I get like amazing news that makes like my month. So yeah, it was, it's little moments like that that I had to open myself up to.

And so I think for me kind of having this, honestly, I did not use to believe, I mean, I was the opposite of what I believe now. Really? I had a friend my senior year of high school, and he would always be like, you could do anything you set your mind to you. Like, shut up. I would get mad. No, I would actually get mad and be like, don't say that.

That's not true. Wow. I had just so, I had so much conditioning. I mean, I grew up with so many different, like, mental illness and physical illnesses and, you know, doctors just not knowing what's wrong with me. And so I had all of these reasons to just believe that life sucked and that you don't have agency in your life and that you can't. create the light that you want. And so that was really the mindset that I had. And so there were a lot

of beliefs that I had to rewire. Yeah. I mean, around scarcity as well and like living in abundance and like making money. I had so many limiting beliefs around money and I had to kind of wire in like, oh no, like there are an infinite number of ways that money can come and really wire. I mean, so every different area, honestly, I talked to you about the relationship that I'm in before this. And I mean, that was a big thing that I had to. to rewire as well. And so I was a kitten in a lot of different areas of my life. And when I identified, okay, these are the things that I'm wanting. I'm like, okay, well, what are my limiting beliefs that I have around that? And then, you know, I kind of have a, I kind of have a little bit of a

process for kind of overcoming limiting beliefs. And one of those is by looking for evidence of the opposite. And, you know, a lot of times we think that our beliefs are objectively true. And I always say, no, like, go look for the evidence of the opposite. You know, there are plenty of of people that opportunities just come to them, money just comes to them, they are abundant, it's not that hard for them. And I think looking for evidence of the opposite and recognizing like, okay, that might be true based on my past experience, but it's not objectively true. And it just opens you up a little bit to be like, okay, maybe I could shift a little

bit here and just being open to it, I think is the most important thing. And then, you know, starting small with just little tweaks. And I remember I would, yeah, I would start to start very small, like, oh, like I'm going to going to see a feather today, like just little things to kind of build that belief muscle of, oh, wow, like I saw that feather. Okay, maybe this works. And then, oh, you know, money can come to me in expected and unexpected ways. And then I'm walking my dog and there's a $20 bill on the railroad tracks outside of my apartment. I'm like, whoa, that's crazy because I just wrote that down. So just little things like that were kind of the beginning steps for me to kind of

show me, okay, maybe this does work. And then that allowed me to grow into bigger things. Would you say then you lived more of a victim or scarcity mindset most of your life? Absolutely. Really? Absolutely. Yeah. Is that surprising to you? I mean, it's just like with the content you've created, it doesn't seem like it.

It seems like you've always had this mindset. But you would say that you grew up more as a victim. Maybe you didn't identify it as I'm a victim, but you lived with that language, that belief system, that now life is harder. Now, I got sick. Nah, money doesn't come to me easily. You said these things that identified as a victim, correct? A hundred percent.

I didn't know what a victim mentality was at the time, but that was absolutely the mindset that I had. So you were living in victimhood and scarcity, you would say, right? Absolutely. Why do you think your belief system was built that way to think that life was hard or life was scarce or there wasn't abundance? Why do you think your brain and your nervous system believed that? The way that I grew up and just, yeah, I mean, my own. illnesses and then also, you know, close family members growing up, like getting sick and becoming disabled from a young age, like very young. I was just a kid. And so just seeing that around me,

and then that also being my own personal experience, I was diagnosed with, like, I had clinical depression. At one point, I didn't even want to live. And so anxiety, I mean, I was diagnosed with ADHD. Also, I had kind of like hormonal imbalances and physical health issues that ran deep within me. And at one point, I was in and out of doctor's offices every two weeks getting my blood drawn because they didn't know what was wrong with me. So it was that, it was exactly that, like, what's wrong with me sort of mindset. I don't know what's wrong with me. And then I think really, I mean, I went to college as a biology major. I didn't start out like pursuing neuroscience at all. I didn't, this was before neuroscience was a popular thing. I feel like now it's very popular. But at the time,

like I didn't, when I switched my major to it, I didn't even really know what it was. And so I went as a biology major, and I kind of was going to be pre-med just because I saw doctors not be able to help the people that I loved, and I saw doctors not really be able to help me. And so I wanted to be able to help people in a way that no one could help me and the people that I loved. And that's why I initially went pre-med, and I hated it. I absolutely hated biology. I hated studying, like, photosynthesis in the Kreve cycle just wasn't my thing. And I actually went up to someone I knew in the pre-health organization that I was in, I told them my situation. And they were like, well, why don't you try neuroscience? And it sounded cool to me. Literally, it just sounded cool.

So I switched my major to it, took the first class, got a 100 on the first exam. And my professor reached out to me was like, congratulations, you couldn't have done better. And I responded back. And I said, I love this, get me in the lab. And so I started doing research super early on, working in the lab, studying learning and memory and the perception of time and scanning brains doing fMRI and learning about the brain and neuroplasticity just kind of gave me hope for change that I didn't know was even an option. You know, in my experience, it was, this is what's wrong with you. This is your diagnosis. You're sucks to suck. You're just going to have to deal with this for the rest of your life. Yeah. And I had no one had ever told me, your brain is changeable.

You can change the wiring. And, you know, I still have ADHD for sure. But I don't, struggle with all of the things that I used to struggle with. And now I'm able to, you know, direct my focus and sustain that. And I understand how my brain and nervous system works so that I can actually use that knowledge to my advantage. And so, yeah, I think just learning about the brain, it made me so passionate. But that's, you know, when you say, I could never tell by your content, I think that's why I am so passionate about sharing all of this on social media and just to everyone that will listen because it, at least back. in the day was not popular knowledge that, hey, yes, this might be something you're struggling

with, but you do have the power to change. And no one had ever told me that. And if someone would have told me that earlier, maybe I wouldn't have struggled for so long. But everything that I talk about, everything that I talk about online here on social media is, is everything that I've personally done to change my life. So you're sharing before that like your belief systems have changed also around your perception of faith, God. You said you grew up in the church, then you became an atheist, and now you're spiritual. So how are these beliefs around God changed and evolved? And which belief system supports you in becoming the best version of yourself? The belief system that supports me in becoming the best version of myself, I think is a combination

of belief in myself and belief in my capabilities and the power of my mind, which I've built over time through practice and those small reps of just showing myself, hey, you can do this and writing things down and then going and doing it and proving myself right. And I think also my spirituality has been huge. I don't know if I would have been able to, you know, manifest the life that I want without this belief that there is this, you know, higher power or energy that exists that connects all things that flows through me, that I can channel, that I can call upon. For me, that developed probably late undergrad. So started studying neuroscience and then, you know, the power of the mind, the brain, all that. And sort of started meditating and opening

myself up to that. I remember when I actually went into my PhD, when I first moved, moved to Arizona didn't know a single person where I had moved to. And I had sticky notes that said trust and surrender all over, like on my door handles, on the mirrors, like everywhere, because I just had no idea, like, what was going to happen. And it was just such an uncertain and unknown thing that I was stepping into. But it was that belief in the higher power that I believe in, which, I don't know, I think my personal opinion on that is just like, you can use whatever word that you want to describe it. think that really matters. What matters is that you do believe in something. And for me, that's, I know, just honestly, the word doesn't even matter. It's like God, the universe,

the collective consciousness, energy, the divine. I like divine personally. But, but yeah, I think that that belief system has really been a huge player in getting where I am today. I'm assuming you grew up believing in God, but then you said you were an atheist. How long were you an atheist for? I don't know if I ever really believed in God growing up. Like I was a little kid, I went to Catholic school. When I think back on those times, it really was just doing what I was told. So I don't know if I ever really had that belief. It was kind of just practicing the tradition.

When did you say, you know what, I don't believe in God or I'm an atheist and I'm not sure? It was a thing probably when I was in high school. Yeah, I probably just didn't think about it at all in middle school. I moved across the country with my family, stopped going to Catholic school. So that was, you know, the first thing that happened. And then I was in high school when I was diagnosed with depression. Like, I truly, like, didn't want to live. And at one point, like, attempted to not live.

And so I think at that point, like, it was just a combination of depression that actually had me being an atheist, like, oh, life sucks. Like, there is no, you know. I mean, and everything, I was struggling in so many different areas of my life that I had mentioned this previously that my mindset was, if God is real, then God. God must be evil because how could God do this? And so that was my mindset. And now I don't have that mindset at all.

I have a completely different mindset. But that's the mindset that I started out with. Why did the mindset shift to not thinking, you know, if something bad is happening to me or someone I love, then God doesn't exist or God is bad or whatever? What shifted for you to think a different thought? I think it's exactly what you had mentioned earlier. I shifted out of this victim mindset. And I realized maybe things don't happen to you and maybe they happen for you. And I fully am so grateful for everything that I went through because I wouldn't be able

to help people in the way that I'm helping them now. You know, so many, like everything, like my program that I have is like I help people rewire their habits. I help people with their identity, with their beliefs, with, with focus, learning, memory, stress, anxiety. And the reason why I have so much of this kind of targeted knowledge is because these are all things that I personally struggled with, and I used my neuroscience degrees and my understanding of the way the brain works and my spirituality to change my own life in all these different areas.

And so now I can take all of this and give it to other people. And I wouldn't be able to do that if I hadn't gone through all of these things. And so I think it really was that mindset shift out of like a victim and realizing, I mean, also developing into my, you know, I would say once I kind of became aware, spirituality, I don't even think I knew it was a thing until later in life and realizing, oh, hey, maybe my soul signed up for this and maybe I signed up for this before I came and maybe this was maybe the curriculum. And I absolutely believe that it was the curriculum for me. What if it was God saying this is everything you need to overcome to become the greatest version of yourself to impact

other people? Absolutely. And I think that I couldn't have that mindset back then. Otherwise, I wouldn't have been able to overcome that mindset to get to where I am to now be helping people other people through it. So I had to have that mindset of, you know, God is evil and life sucks and you just can't control what happens to you at all. Like, life, you're just leaf in the wind, whatever happens, happens, you know. I had to have that mindset at one point in order to get to this point. Interesting. Isn't that fascinating? Yeah. When did you come to that realization that maybe that was the curriculum for you to become who you are now? Late undergrad when I was, you, you know, maybe my senior year, I had birthed this dream of, you know, going, I took a class on the

neurobiology of drug addiction, and we read a paper about why the current treatments don't work. And immediately, light bulb goes off in my head because the current treatments, at least at this point, didn't work because they were- To ending drug addiction or to- Preventing relapse to drug addiction. The reason why they didn't work was because they were only putting band-aids on symptoms rather than actually targeting the real problem. And healing the root. Right. And so that immediately resonated with me because all of the illnesses that I had had and everything that I was dealing with, it was things that we don't know the root. We can only treat your symptoms. And so immediately this dream was born within me of, oh, I'm going to go to my PhD and I'm going to study drug addiction and I'm going to cure drug addiction and I'm going to win a Nobel Prize. And I don't know. I mean, I've always been a little crazy. So that was that was the dream. And then after that, realizing that, okay, I'm going to win a Nobel Prize.

And I don't know. I mean, I've always been a little crazy. So that was that was the dream. And then after that, realizing that, okay, I need to go on this journey and do the work on myself to be able to get into that position because obviously that's a huge dream. And if I'm going to make that happen, I'm going to need to be the best version of myself. And so I started, you know, I would say I started meditating and doing those things more with the mindset of training my brain for focus. And developing this mindfulness practice so that I become aware and just be the best version of myself. And then kind of on that journey opened this other door that I maybe didn't realize was there. And I also met people. So I met these two people that I became really close friends with when I was

an undergrad. And they were huge in my journey of introducing me to spirituality. And I remember one of them telling me to read The Untethered Soul. And I read that book. And it very much resonated with what I was learning in my neuroscience classes. of, oh, hey, like, yeah, it's like when you're going to a movie and you plug in and you're watching it. It's like, that's exactly how your brain constructs reality. That's how your visual system works, actually. Like you don't even see. There's a movie in your brain and you're like... Well, you don't even see the world with your eyes at all, right? Your eyes just take in light signals. And then those light signals travel through your brain where your thoughts, emotions, beliefs,

memories, programming are all incorporated before the image is even constructed that you see. And so... We could see the same image, but have a different perspective of what we're seeing. Yeah. And I remember learning even... in one of my neuroscience classes about how they've actually found differences in brain activity along this pathway in people that have body dysmorphia, for example. So their brain is literally constructing the image differently. And so it's not just like all in their head and they just need to, you know, it's like their brain is actually constructing the image that they see differently. And so when I, it kind of all connected. And I was like, okay, yeah, this is a different world.

And then these people that I was meeting and that were very spiritual. And I remember they actually were manifesting moving to Hawaii and they had images of like Hawaii all over their apartment and that was sort of when I was first introduced to it and in the beginning I definitely didn't you know think anything of it I remember my one friend was would write affirmations and I just thought that was I don't know I didn't think anything of it I was just like oh affirmations that's interesting like I didn't think they worked I didn't understand them but then once I understood sort of the neuroscience behind these things like oh hey maybe this and then I actually remember you know as I started to study these different spiritual things, like sulfeggio frequencies came up. And that's a very popular thing in

the spiritual spaces, which are just different frequencies of music, like 528 hertz, 432. And I started listening to 432 to sleep because they've shown in studies that it actually can help with sleep. And I remember lying in bed one night and I was like, maybe these frequencies actually do change the state of your brain. And that's why they work. And literally, I sat up in bed, went over my phone, went on to like Google to look for research papers, found them that they already existed. I was like, oh, hey, maybe, you know, the spirituality thing isn't so crazy. Maybe there's actually something to this. And so I think in the beginning for me, it was very much seeing how neuroscience very much

explained a lot of the things that my friends and people in books and on YouTube videos were talking about and in your podcast were talking about. And I was like, oh, hey, like, and I, you know, neuroscience to me was something I was already studying. And so it kind of helped me make spirituality make sense. And that was really the bridge for me. And that's why I love doing what I do in bridging neuroscience and spirituality. Because for me in the beginning, that was the bridge that allowed me to walk over that and go into this fully woo-woo state where if you would have told me you talked to an alien on the phone yesterday, I believe you. Because now I've had so many experiences.

And actually, with that being said, I also had. personal experiences kind of at the same time. I remember I was meditating and literally like the crown of my head started burning, like burning. I had no idea like what the chakras were any of that. And my friend was like, oh, that was your crown chakra opening up. I was like, what? And I looked into it. I said, huh, maybe that was that. And kind of little experiences like that and then being in meditation and just seeing visuals and things coming to me and, you know, different signs to the point where it was like, okay, yeah, I fully believe in all of the woo-woo stuff now. Interesting.

It's funny. I had Nirayal on the show recently. He's a researcher, and he just wrote a New York Times bestseller around the power of belief. And he did not believe in God before or prayer, but then he started to research prayer. And now he prays because the research proves that you are healthier and happier when you pray. So he's like, I'm still not 100% of why we're. but I know it works, and so I just do it because it helps my brain. And I think it sounds like you were learning different techniques and strategies that made you feel

better, and you're linking them to spirituality and other things that were happening in your life, and you just continued on that path. And you mentioned affirmations for a second. What is the neuroscience behind affirmations? And do they actually work? I think they can absolutely work. So the neuroscience behind them is, I mean, it's sort of the power of neuroplasticity, right? So anything that you repeat in your brain, those pathways become stronger. Like

neurons that fire together, wire together, that's Hebs Law. Like we learn that in our very first neuroscience classes, like Hebs Law. And what that means is, you know, neurons that fire together, meaning that you have neurons that are wired into pathways all throughout your brain. And when these pathways light up or activate together, every time they do that, and when they do that frequently, they become stronger. And then that can become your more dominant way of thinking and feeling. And so affirmations actually work to kind of strengthen the pathways that represent maybe that thought or feeling. And so over time, it could become your dominant way of thinking. And they also have been shown to activate the reward centers in the brain and boost dopamine as well. So they can make us feel good.

And dopamine actually drives neuroplasticity as well. Dopamine drives learning. So you kind of get this double whammy of, you know, boosted dopamine in the moment feeling good, but then also, you know, driving neuroplasticity to remember it better. But I think with that being said, it makes it even more important that the affirmations are done the right way. I get asked all the time, like, oh, I do affirmations and I have these limiting beliefs come up. And, you know, my other thoughts pop in. And they're like, but that's not true. That's wrong. And if that's happening, then it might actually be working against you. And I've actually had people that I coach. Remember, I had this one person, And he had that happen to him where he would practice affirmations.

They just didn't work for him. They just didn't make him feel good. He just didn't really believe them. But, you know, he actually unlocked something where he started to, he fixed up this old jet ski. And he started to go out on the little like pond or something or like next to his house every morning. And he listened to my affirmations on a speaker on his jet ski. And he found that they became all of a sudden so much more believable. And we'd really do, I mean, resistance lowers in our minds.

of the logical mind when we're moving forward, like forward movement. That's why walking is so helpful for processing information. So that's actually how I started was I would go out in the morning every single morning on a walk and listen to affirmations in my headphones while I walked every morning. And so that can actually lower resistance to sort of absorbing these affirmations. But then also I think he unlocked another component, which was that he was already boosting dopamine from being on his jet ski. He was having fun. But also, right, it's so much easier to believe in the good when you're having fun. Play. Right. Exactly. And play is so good for your brain. That's why I always say activating your wimsy is a pro-level brain hack and just doing everything with fun. And that's

something that I do all the time, like, especially when I was writing my book, where I would be like, how can I make this more fun? Because it makes it so much easier to start. So yeah, I think also, So, you know, that's where dancing and doing the affirmations or listening to, there's this one YouTube track that I really like. And it's like a song with this funky beat, but it's like funny. It's hilarious. I think it's Bob Baker. And it's a funky beat. It's like, dun-da-da-da-d-da-da.

It's just hilarious. And it's hard to take seriously, but that's the point. And the affirmations that all of a sudden becomes fun and it becomes way easier to absorb. What are the greatest affirmations someone could say to themselves every morning? I think that depends on who you. you're trying to become. I think the greatest affirmations are the ones that you write for yourself depending on exactly what it is that you're working on. What was the affirmations you would listen to when you were- I am creator affirmations. They were tracks on basically, it's funny, this is all

coming full circle now, but these were affirmations that I didn't realize it at the time that shipped you out of victim mindset. So they were affirmations like, I am the creator of my life. Like I, I have the power to change and choose and create the life that I want. And so that, yeah, I was shifting out of victim mindset. There were more ownership affirmations. Yeah. I am capable of doing this. I am.

I am. Right. Like I am creator of my life. And yeah, those were the affirmations that really, really changed. And I actually have all, I have a playlist of affirmations on my YouTube. And I literally made it public for like all my, for anyone. because these are all the videos that I listened to when I first started out. And all these I am creator videos are on there.

Yeah. And it's, it never was meant for anybody else, right? When I made it. It was for me. And now I just made it public. So, hey, this worked for me. That's great. But yeah, so they were I am creator affirmations and really just allowing me to believe that I could create the life that I want.

And then after that, it became, okay, I have limiting beliefs around money. I think that it's scarce and that it's hard. because I grew up hearing money doesn't grow on trees, you know? And that's a limiting belief if you believe that. And I had to start a like, money does grow on trees. Money can come to me in an unexpected way. So, you know, that was a goal that I had. So I started to kind of rewrite my beliefs around that.

How much of our current struggle in life is actually a physical truth or fact versus how much of it is just poorly wired perception in our brains? I don't know if I could put a number on it, but they've actually shown in studies. I can't remember the exact number of seconds, but it's seconds that when we have an emotional response to something, whether positive or negative, that kind of chemical representation of that emotion only exists in our brain for seconds, like less than a minute. Or maybe it's 90 seconds or something like that. And anything after that is us reinforcing that feeling with our thoughts. It's really quite interesting when you think about it that way.

And again, we all get caught up in the emotions for longer. But I think, you know, I remember I heard the saying that life is 10% what happens to you, 90% what you do about it. And after learning now, I was like, okay, yeah, like things are going to happen. Things happen to everyone, everyone, even the super successful people that we see. And like the people that we assumed, oh, they just had it easy. Like, life is hard for everyone. Like life is not easy for anyone. But I think what makes it, quote unquote, easier is having that mindset and that belief in yourself and also that faith in. whatever you believe in, belief in yourself and belief in the divine, the creator, because when you have that belief, it, I mean, that lower stress and cortisol, right? And you have that self-trust that, okay, like, I can overcome this. So even when things do suck and the things do happen, it's like, it's okay. And I remember when I was studying the difference between, like, optimistic and pessimistic mindsets, it's like bad things, like, quote unquote, bad things happen to everyone, but an optimist doesn't make that, like, doesn't take a bad situation and apply it to

their whole life and mean, apply it to their whole world, whereas a pessimist might, you know, trip over a wire and be like, oh, I'm so clumsy. Like, there's this, this, this always happens to me. Like, you know, different little things like that, you take one situation and you apply it to everything, whereas an optimist might just be like, okay, like that happened, but that doesn't mean that it's going to happen again. Mm-hmm. And from your experience of studying neuroscience, science, can you explain then the law of attraction neurologically? Yeah.

So to me, the law of attraction really is that you don't get what you want. You get what your brain is wired for. You get what you are, right? You get what you are from a nervous system perspective and a programming perspective. I mean, just I remember learning about, you know, just the way that neurons work, right? And neurons fire and communicate with each other using electrical impulses. I remember I had to take calculus physics actually in college to understand this. It was so annoying.

But when current flows through a wire, a magnetic electromagnetic force is created perpendicular to that wire. And our nervous system is a bunch of wires. And so current is flowing through us all the time. And absolutely, there is a magnetic field created perpendicular to that flow of energy, right? And so there's that. And that energy is felt. I think we have that, like, we know that scientifically now that nervous systems co-regulate.

Like, that's why if you're next to somebody who's all of a sudden getting super anxious, you feel that. And so if we can feel other people's nervous systems, you don't think that the universe can feel your nervous system? Like, I think that we can. I mean, obviously, we can't show that. Like, oh, yeah, the universe felt our nervous system. But, I mean, I can extrapolate that and believe that for myself. But then there's also the other component, which is just that your brain can only construct your reality based on the programming we have, like the kittens. And I've seen it so many times.

I remember I had someone come to my master class where I talked about identity shifting and reprogramming. And he said he had been trying to get a job for two years. And after two weeks after that class, he got his dream job. And it's like, do we think the dream job just magically appeared after two years of searching? Or was it that his brain and nervous system shifted into a state to where he could actually perceive it and get that job, right? And so when I think of the law of attraction, it's really about changing our internal state and rewiring our brain. so that we are actually able to perceive the things that we want and go after them as well, because a lot of us subconsciously block ourselves from our goals or the success that we desire

because we have, whether it be limiting beliefs or subconscious fears even around success. And I think a lot of our procrastination stems from that as well. I mean, I remember back when I was trying to start a podcast, before I started, I wanted to start one for so long. And I was just like, why am I procrastinating on this? And then I realized that I had a subconscious fear of being seen in a more vulnerable way because long-form content is just so much more vulnerable. Like, I'm over here. Everyone could just judge me right now listening to this.

It's not a one-minute curated clip. Exactly. So you're just so much more vulnerable. And I hadn't become aware of that, right? And so I wasn't aware of that fear. And it was keeping me from the success that I desired. It was keeping me from the thing that I wanted to manifest, which was having a podcast. Like, I want to have a successful long-form content.

And it was keeping me from doing that because of this subconscious fear, right? And as soon as I identified that, I was just like, okay, now I can, you know, just give myself a little hug, like, it's going to be all right. Like, it's okay. And then I was able to go and do it right after that. And just as easy as identifying it, right? And so I think when I think of the law of attraction, it really is just about like we don't get what we want in life. We get what our brain is wired for. You mentioned this idea of being delusional.

is being delusional a legitimate neuroscience brain hack for success, or is it hurting us? I personally think that, and I'll talk about the science as well, but I personally think that it's a requirement. If you want to achieve the unimaginable, you have to believe in the unimaginable, right? And the unimaginable does feel delusional. And I remember when I first started out, right, like, I am creator didn't feel true in the beginning. It's like, what? No, like, and so it, the things that feel delusional a lot of the time, maybe they're not delusional to someone like you, you know, me five years ago would have thought the things that you're doing were delusional, right? But it just depends on the person. But it's only quote unquote delusional until it works.

And I always say I have this kind of mindset of, you know, being delusional really is just living outside of the illusion, which is the reality of the norm. And I personally knew that I wanted to live a reality of the unimaginable, a reality that no one around me that I had ever seen around me was doing. And in order to believe in that, it did feel delusional. It absolutely felt like, like, what are you doing? That's crazy. And I had people around me tell me that's illogical, that's crazy. Like, how are you going to do that?

I'm in my PhD having, you know, neuroscientists be like, you're making the wrong decision. What are you doing? And people in my personal life as well being like, who told you you could do that? And all of those were honestly motivators for me to prove them wrong. But, but yeah, I think, you know, being delusional was kind of a wrong. requirement for me because everything that I wanted was something that I had never seen done before. And then from just kind of like the neuroscience standpoint, right? Like doubt is a dopamine destroyer. Doubt is a dopamine destroyer. And so if you have doubt in your dreams, I mean,

you're not going to have the dopamine to go and motivate you to do the thing that you know you need to do. When I graduated early for my PhD with my master's and moved across the country, I had 30,000 Instagram followers. I had no reason to believe I was going to have almost two million now. I just did it. And I was like, I was delusional. I was like, I'm just going to do this. But, but it was that delusional level of belief that motivated me to do it. And I actually remember when I was first starting out, I had, I had met someone and this person told me, I know that you're going to make it because of the belief that you have. I know now that all of the successful people, when you hear them speak, what are they all have in common? It's the belief that they have in themselves

and in their dreams. And so I think that sometimes it is delusional because your reality, your current reality isn't reflecting to you what it is that you're going after. And some kind of mindset that I've been, you know, living in recently is like ignore reality, move like it's already yours. And that can seem delusional to a lot of people. But I think it's necessary because if you allow, you know, present setbacks or your present circumstances to deter you or discourage you, then you'll never make it. And so in those moments where things aren't going your way and maybe you're not getting the results that you want, maybe your videos aren't going viral, like I had all these videos not doing whatever. And I still believed. Like, it was crazy. Like,

thinking back, I really was delusional. But it's really so important because I think a lot of us have this experience where in the beginning we face just so many challenges. Like, most people don't just immediately pop off into immediate success. So many of us face all of these challenges along the way and have to believe through all of this. And so I think that being delusional absolutely is a pro-level brain hack. I mean, it helps you unlock the power of belief. And belief is a biological advantage. I mean, they've shown in studies that it improves performance, boosts confidence, makes you more likely to succeed and get the thing that you want. And then it also boost dopamine, right? And dopamine motivates you to actually go and do it, right? If I didn't, if I'm sitting here and I don't believe that I'm going to be able to grow my, for example, social media platform or I don't believe I'm going to be able to write a good book, why would my brain motivate me to go and write this book? Why would my brain motivate me to go and do that? It wouldn't. It wants to conserve energy. And if there's no reward, perceived reward or perceived outcome there, my brain is not going to motivate me to go and do it. So, I mean, having that delusional belief of just like, yeah, it's going to work out. It's going to be great. And, you know, really believing in that, delusional. right without not needing evidence because I think at first we don't have evidence and I think that's kind of what I mean when I'm talking about being delusional is believing without evidence and and I think a lot of times in the beginning you might not have that evidence and so it's kind

of required I write about a lot of my work that self-doubt is the biggest killer of dreams and you're kind of backing this I'm curious it sounds like belief is required in order to become the greatest version and accomplish your dreams. What does neuroscience say when you doubt yourself? When you say negative things, when you say, I'm not sure if this is going to work out or you doubt it's possible. What is neuroscience saying is happening in your brain and your body when you doubt? I think there are multiple levels here. I mean, just the first part of doubting yourself. I mean, I just said doubt is a dopamine destroyer. So you're not going to have the dopamine to go and do the things. so you're not going to have the motivation to go and do the things that you need to do.

But also, I like to give this analogy of imagine you are walking around just day-to-day life with somebody next to you, 24-7, constantly telling you you can't, constantly telling you, oh, you're not going to do that well. You're going to do a bad job. What would that? You'd be constantly braced. You would always be braced because this person is just constantly tearing you down and doubting you. You would always be braced. you would never be able to relax.

And so that's kind of what happens in your nervous system as well. You're always kind of braced. That dysregulates you when you're always, really it's just negative thoughts in general. If you're always beating yourself up, tearing yourself down, doubting yourself, then you're always going to be in that brace state, that boosts cortisol, which boosts stress. And if you're dysregulated, we haven't touched on this yet, but if you are dysregulated, if you are very stressed,

then you're going to see increased activity in the amygdala. And the amygdala is often a, with fear and really being kind of the fear and stress centers in the brain. And when the amygdala is highly active, it hijacks your perception as well, which I've experienced in my life so many times in my past where maybe I'm really nervous, maybe I'm really stressed. And I walk away from a conversation. I'm like, I said all these things wrong. I didn't do well enough. You know, what did I do wrong? Like people around me like, oh, no, like you did great. You did amazing. What are you talking about. And my perception of the situation was literally inaccurate because I was stressed

and my amygdala was scanning my reality for potential threats to keep me safe. So if we are constantly doubting ourselves and having this negative mindset or we just are stressed in general, then our amygdala is going to hijack our perception and we're not even going to be able to notice the opportunities or the things that we want or the blessings or the manifestations. We literally, the thing that you want could walk in the door, but your brain is filtering for potential things that could go wrong to keep you safe because that's the state that your nervous system is in. And if you're always doubting yourself and you're saying, oh, I'm not sure this is going to work out, well, your brain is going to filter for reasons why that is true.

It's going to filter your reality to confirm that belief. That's confirmation bias. Your brain is always filtering your reality to confirm the beliefs you already have. And I remember learning that you actually get dopamine. too when your brain confirms a belief you hold. Even if it's negative. Even if it's negative. And so your brain reinforces itself for being negative and believing in the wrong thing.

And that's where, you know, when you're like, oh, I knew that was going to happen. Like when something goes wrong and you're like, oh, I just feel like, you know, it's not going to work out. And then it doesn't. You actually get a mini dopamine hit from being right even when it's not really the thing that you want. And so, yeah, I mean, doubt impacts us in so many different ways. I mean, I think we all at times have little moments of self-doubt creep in, but I like to do something called a resiliency plan for those moments. And like having that developed before it happens. And this is so many different areas of my life now I have a resiliency plan for, lots of different things. But, you know, for example, I like to do my morning pages every morning. I learn that from the artist's way.

It's very helpful. I'm a huge fan of them. There was one time where it brought up something and it kind of made me. feel anxious. And I kind of stopped doing them for a while because I didn't want to ruin a bad day. I didn't want to ruin a bad day. I don't want to feel anxious. I don't want to start my day off like that. But then what I kind of realized and even worked through with my coach was, no, you need to just have a resiliency plan for when those moments do happen. Like, what are you going to do? And I decide, I'm just going to move my body. I'm going to move my body. I'm going to go exercise because that always gets, helps me reset. And so having that plan as well for what are, what am I going to do in moments of doubt? And I actually have a resiliency plan for that. I have. I have.

My friend, actually, she's still in her PhD. It's where we met. And she has been just my biggest believer, biggest supporter since day one. Like, she was telling me that I would be where I am when I didn't believe that I would be where I am. And she is just, she's incredible. She's my sister to me. And in those moments, you know, a lot sometimes that I doubt, like, she's the one that

I call because she's the one to smack me in the face and be like, what are you doing, questioning yourself. And so, you know, knowing what to do and having that plan for what are you going to do when you doubt yourself. Maybe it's affirmations. Maybe it's exercise and doing things that make you feel more confident. I have a kind of a collection of things that I do now. Yeah. You mentioned about your ADHD journey that I read that you didn't take any medication when you had ADHD and you like just learned how to rewire your brain. So I took it in the beginning. And then I went to my PhD and I studied drug addiction. So I actually did, you know, have this dream of studying drug addiction,

preventing relapse. And I actually went and did that. So I was working in a research lab. studying drug addiction, working on identifying new ways to treat and prevent relapse. So I was doing exactly what I said I wanted to do, which, yeah, people were like, I don't know, I went and did just that, like, within, you know, anyway. And so, but with that being said, when I was studying drug addiction, my minor was medical pharmacology because I had to study drugs and how they work in the brain and the nervous system. And I just remember learning about, you know, how they actually work and... Drugs?

Or... Simulence, ADHD medication, Adderall Vivance in particular. And when I learned about how they actually work and about, you know, side effects are really actually just off-target effects and their real effects are not side effects. They're effects. They're effects. They happen. Yeah. And so.

They're going to happen. Right. Right. And so the goal of any drug, right, is to mitigate off-target effects while still providing, you know, the therapy that they're meant to provide. How do these ADHD drugs affect the brain? There are different types, but Adderall in particular, it is a nervous system stimulant. And so it essentially puts you into fight or flight. Really?

And you're just constantly into fight or flight. And it may- It can't be good, can't be, right. And so, I mean, it's just like a chronic elevated cortisol and neuropinephrine. And I mean, and they've come out now, and I saw recently a study where they're saying, oh, we've figured out that, you know, this medication, it actually doesn't really boost focus. It boost alertness, wakefulness. And so that's really how they work is like they make you super alert.

And that's why, at least in my experience and the experience of many people that I work with, they don't necessarily help you focus on the thing you need to focus on. They just help you feel super motivated and alert. And whatever you do after that is your choice. And so medication would hit for me and I'm on an hour long, hours long rabbit hole, scrolling, like online shopping or whatever, because it's like whatever you're doing when they hit is whatever you get locked in doing. And so I realized, okay, I still need to develop agency and train my ability to direct my focus because without that, I mean, the medications weren't helping me necessarily directed.

Towards something productive, right? Empowering. So when I learned that, though, when I learned how they work and just how they impact the nervous system and I just made the personal decision to stop. They're not good for the nervous system. I stopped taking them. Or the brain. It's saying not good, I think depends.

I don't want to be like, oh, they're bad. Because they helped me and they were sort of a crutch that I'm. allowed me to transition. The crutch is not a long-term strategy. No, it's not a long-term strategy. And if you get addicted to a crutch long-term, that's not good. Like when you get off the crutch. It's like how long should they be allowed to be used for until they say, all right, we got to get to the root, not just be the band-aids. Similar to depression and anxiety, right? You don't want to be on depression and medication your entire life, right? You take it, you take it for it to be kind of that bridge to allow you to do the inner work. But how many people do you think actually

make the leap off the bridge into deeper healing work from either ADHD or depression medication, how many people actually go deeper and get off of it? I don't think many people do, but I also don't think it's their fault because it's not something that doctors tell you to do. Well, it's not profitable to be off of drugs. Right. So when I was diagnosed with ADHD, it was just like, okay, you have ADHD, here's the medication. Forever.

ever told me, you should also train your executive function. Now, it takes a simple Google search, now that I know the term, if you search executive function training in ADHD, it's like, yes, people, everyone should be doing, especially now with social media and like cheap dopamine everywhere, but especially people with ADHD, it's something that should be done. And so, and then, yeah, I also, you know, learning, studying drug addiction. And I, on days I wouldn't take the Adderall, I was depressed because my brain became dependent on the dopamine from the medication. That can't be good. Right.

Exactly. And it wasn't good. So then you have to stay on it because now you're depressed and then you have to take depression medication to go off of it. So I didn't want to be dependent on this for the rest of my life. So how did you learn how to not use medication while having ADHD and depressive thoughts? I actually used my knowledge of just how stimulants work. And I was like, all right, well, if I'm going to stop taking this, I am going to supplement

with caffeine for a little bit. So I actually kind of transitioned using caffeine. And at first it was like, yeah. And I really discovered also that green tea just unlocked a whole new level for me that coffee never did. Like coffee never really made me feel any sort of way. And I know a lot of people that have ADHD that feel similarly, like coffee just doesn't do it.

I would drink like so many shots of espresso, take stimulants, take out of all together. Like, yeah, I know. No wonder why I was like, no wonder why I was like so stressed, so anxious, so easily triggered. Wow. Yeah. And, you know, I had like skin issues. I had rashes. I had so many different things going on because of all of that.

And so anyway, also I was addicted to nicotine, which I don't think I had mentioned to you, but it was a big reason why I also wanted to study drug addiction. But what I also realized was that the adderol and the stimulants, they can kind of increase stereotypic behavior. And that's just like a science term for like compulsive, like repeated behaviors, like stereotyped behaviors. I found that that was leading me to hit the babe a lot. And so when I found that when I stopped taking the Adderall, I stopped craving nicotine as much. And so it allowed me to just stop all of it.

But what I did was, yeah, I replaced with supplements and green tea and over time now. I mean, I haven't even really had caffeine today. So I now am at this point where I don't even take supplements for focus. But in the beginning, I did. So I took a lot of different supplements for focus. I would do like the Lionsman, Rodeola Rosea, cordyceps, you know, ginseng, Bacopa Monieri, like all, ginko, all the different things. Like I was on at all.

And it helped and it really did. And it allowed me to continue to train my brain. And I really do think that meditation was huge. You know, you can rely on all the external stuff. But I remember the first time I noticed meditation changing me was I started, I think, the fall of my senior year of undergrad. And then that winter, like three months later, I had my first PhD interview. And I was sitting in that interview, and I remember the person asking me a question.

And I was able to sit and really think about the question that she had asked me and then respond mindfully. And that might just sound normal to a lot of people. But to me, it wasn't because the old version of me was super reactive, super like, as soon as you say something, I got to immediately blurt out a response to get it out of my head. I would be super like interrupt you and all the different things. And I was like, whoa, I just was comfortable in the silence there for a second. And I was actually able to develop a response and really truly respond rather than react to situations. And it's that skill that allows you to create the life that you want. You have to be able to respond. Because if you're reacting, it's always going to be based on your programming. It's always going to be based on the old version of you. You're never reacting as a new version of you. Because reactions are that kind of immediate impulsive behavior. And so it really is developing that ability to respond that allows you to act as a new version of you.

And so that was the first time I had noticed meditation changing my mind and my brain. And now I just see it in so many different areas of my life. Like, if I don't know where my keys are, I'm able to just pause and literally backtrack and, oh, this is where my keys are. I have two phones because one of them I used to create content. And yesterday I couldn't find the phone. So where's the phone? And I paused.

And I remember it was in a bag that. I threw it into when I was in my car earlier that day because I didn't want it to be on a seat, people to see in the window, that's where it is, in that random bag that's in the hallway over there. And just little things like that, I notice now, I'm like, oh, wow, like, I'm just able to unlock this different level of my mind. What do you think is the root cause of bad addictions in life? Like, alcohol, drugs, you know, I don't know, porn, vaping.

Like, what do you think is the root cause? What does neuroscience say is the root cause of a bad addiction? I don't want to say that I know what the root cause is for everyone because for me, when I started vaping nicotine, there wasn't really a cause. It was just all my friends are doing it. And so I'm going to do it. Everyone around me was doing it. So I'm going to do it. I wasn't necessarily trying to fill any void or like, yeah.

It's just, oh, hey, like I was just a silly little teenager, you know. You said you had ADHD. You had depressive thoughts. You thought about taking you on your life. So there was something underneath. Right. Trauma. I'm a happy person.

Right. And I'm going to do this addiction. So it's sort of seeking out, something out. side of you to give you dopamine to make you feel better. Exactly. Right. So yes, you were pressured. Right.

Why did I continue to do it? Because I'm like, oh, I liked it. But also I had all these other, you know, maladaptive behaviors of partying and drinking and doing all those things. Your environment, sure, that was the drug of choice because your friends were vaping. But maybe it would have been alcohol if it was you were older or whatever. I don't know. But underneath, what is the neuroscience underneath an addiction?

Is it trauma? Right. It's kind of seeking out something outside of you to make you feel better because that's what addiction, that's what drug, all drugs of abuse boost dopamine in the reward centers of the brain, all of them. They make you feel better. Yeah. When you don't feel good, something inside of you feels off.

But what's so interesting about drugs, especially addictive drugs, is that it's only in the beginning that they make you feel good. And then over time, your dopamine system actually shifts to where you don't even necessarily get that pleasure from doing it anymore. you're actually just doing it to avoid discomfort. And that's when, you know, addiction really sets in is, you know, over time it's not, I'm hitting the vape because it feels good and I'm getting dopamine. It's I'm hitting it because I'm anxious if I don't. And that sort of starts to happen right when our brain becomes dependent and our neurochemistry actually adapts to using this drug because that's what it does.

It adapts like over time your receptors sort of learn this new behavior. It's like, okay, if we're always getting dopamine from this, like let me downregulate dopamine receptor. and that way we're less sensitive to it. And now it's like you literally need the drug to get to get that a pleasurable experience. And then you start to, yeah, so your brain literally becomes dependent on that thing in order to maintain a baseline homeostatic state. And then that's where withdrawal happens when you don't have it. So it only really feels good in the beginning.

And like something is simple that maybe most people can relate to is social media. In the beginning, I remember when I first went on like Facebook when I was younger. In the beginning, you went on because it was cool and fun. You get to see your friends and talk. And then it gets to this point where you're on your phone and you're on social media and you don't even know how you got there. It's like it's like an automatic behavior. And it becomes a stimulus response behavior where initially when we do things like drugs or, you know, social media or any sort of gambling, whatever it is, you do it because it's it's a goal directed behavior. Like you're doing it for a reason, whether it be to feel better, get dopamine, you know, maybe it. You know, maybe it's, it's a goal directed behavior. Like you're doing it for a reason, whether it be to feel better, get dopamine, you know, maybe it. could even be as simple as, you know, I want to stay close with people in this friend group, whatever it is. And then over time, it develops into a stimulus response relationship where you see it, you do it. And it's become saved into like the habit centers of your brain.

So don't get addicted to drugs. Yeah. Don't do, don't do, don't do. Don't do drugs. It's going to be hard to get off. You've accomplished a lot of your dreams that you envisioned years ago for yourself. You know, you, you overcame the limiting beliefs that you, you had in a lot of areas, you overcame a victim mindset, a scarcity mindset. And to have what you

said, like all these amazing things in your life, this business, the relationship, the house, the car, all these things that you imagined having. If you could go three to five years in the future, what is the limiting belief you'll need to let go of in order to be the human you want to be at the highest version then? I think just the first belief that comes to mind maybe is, that I need to do more to get more. And it's definitely something that I have experienced in the past where it's not always about doing more. It is always about, though, getting your energy right

and having your energy in alignment and just really just being in your joy and just feeling your best. I have had so many times where I'm maybe having a stressful week and there are a couple of days where I'm taking life super, seriously and I'm you know grip got that grip on the wheel of life and then I make a plan to go see my best friend and I'm in the car I'm immediately just feel better I'm like wow like this is about be so fun I'm so excited and then all of a sudden I get an email about an opportunity and then the

thing comes and it's just like wow it really does come to you when you feel good yeah when you're living in joy right and so I think for me you know just getting to this like next level and this other thing it maybe isn't always about doing more but how can I feel my best and making that the number one priority. That's great. That's great. We've got a couple final questions for you. Before we get to the last couple ones, I want people to check out everything you're

up to. You've got great social media content. They can go to your website, MOn the Brain on social media, monthebrane.com. You've got a coaching program called Minecraft as well. A lot of other cool stuff. You've got a book coming out in the future. We'll have you come back on when that book is coming out. But people can sign up for your newsletter and subscribe everyone on social media.

the M on the brain if you guys want more great content. This is a question I ask everyone towards the end. It's called the three truths. You're what, 27? Is that all you are? So imagine you get to live, you know, past 100. And imagine the next, you know, 70 plus years that you get to design and live exactly where you want it to be.

Every dream happens. Every thing you want comes true. But at the end of the day, the last day on earth for you, You have to take all of your work with you. Everything you've ever created, written, spoken, videos, they all have to go to the next place. They're not here in this world anymore. But you get to leave behind three truths to the world. Three things you feel like you know to be true as lessons that you would leave behind.

What would those truths be? First is to live in your joy. Live in your joy. As long as you're living in your joy, then you're enjoying life. And life is about the journey. if it were about the destination, it'd be called death. So I think if you're living in your joy, then it doesn't really matter what you achieve. It's you're happy.

And I think living in your joy as often as you possibly can is so important. And also, like joy is a performance enhancer. So, I mean, you'll do better. You'll be better and you'll have more fun doing it. So live in your joy to be number one. Number two is that you are the creator of your life. You are the creator of your life. and I think, you know, anyone could take that and extrapolate it and, you know, apply it to themselves

and it's not meant to be, you know, you need to do this, but more of just like, you are the creator of your life and you can do anything. I guess that's number three is you can do anything you set your mind to. Like, you really can. Like, never forget how powerful you are. Maybe that's four, but I think that, you know, we, it's so easy to forget how powerful we are. And it comes down to just something as simple as literally driving in the car and remembering, oh, wait, I'm extremely powerful. I can just be like, an unexpected blessing or opportunity is going to come to me today. And all of a sudden, my brain shifts. And now all of a sudden, my energy shifts. And then all of a sudden, I'm laying in bed that night. And I'm like, whoa, that thing happened today. Or maybe I notice it during the day. I'm like,

whoa. But, you know, it's little moments like that that just remind you, yeah, I'm so powerful. It's like, why? And it's so easy to forget because I think it's just not common and everybody out there isn't talking about it. You don't walk around. And then it's actually one of the reasons why I love Arizona is just because it's super common there. Like everybody is very spiritual. But it's just not common when we walk around. People aren't like, you're so powerful. Like you could do anything. And just like, oh yeah, the power of the mind. And it's just so easy to forget that. And every time I remember it, it just immediately relieves so much stress as well. And just allows me to relax into life. So those would be my thing. Living the dream, Emily, I want to acknowledge

you for everything you've created. You're making. a big impact on the world, you're constantly showing up in your joy. And there's a lot of people that aren't as consistent as you. And I think taking what you've learned from neuroscience and school and starting to apply it by sharing it while in the practice, a lot of people wait and say, let me wait till I get my degree. Let me wait till I have all these credentials to start sharing. And you just said, I'm going to share what I'm learning personally and when I'm learning in school and put it out there. So I want to acknowledge you for being on that journey and being of service and not waiting to share your gifts with the world. It's really cool what you're up to.

So congrats on everything. Thank you. Congratulations on the engagement, from the business. Everything you're up to is really cool. Final question, what's your definition of greatness? Living as your favorite version of yourself. There you go. Emily McDonnell. Thank you. Appreciate it. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links. And if you want weekly exclusive bonus episodes with me personally, as well as ad-free listening, then make sure to subscribe to our greatness plus channel exclusively on Apple Podcasts. Share this with a friend on social media and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts as well.

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