We're Here to Help - 165: Wayne Brady's Family Rules & Another Tuesday in Amsterdam (with Wayne Brady)

Episode Date: April 23, 2025

The guys are joined by the one and only Wayne Brady and he immediately gets to work. First, they give tough love to a mom whose daughter loves the F-Bomb. Later, they help a Dutch caller brainstorm ways to keep a bro trip just the guys.Want to call in? Email your question to [e-mail]: https://patreon.com/heretohelppodMERCH: heretohelppod.comINSTAGRAM: @HereToHelpPodIf you’re enjoying the show, make sure to rate We’re Here to Help 5-Stars on Apple Podcasts.Advertise on We’re Here to Help via Gumball.fm See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Right now, we're doing, let's make a deal. I'm doing deal today. Oh, nice. How, can we just start right now really fast and then we'll take the call in a second Are you comfortable talking about let's make a deal on the show? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Let's talk about everything We are here with the great Wayne Brady. We're doing this really fast just cuz I what's it like hosting Let's make a deal that looks so fun But it it is fun. I've made it fun. And the team has made it fun because it's not like if anybody's watched it to the chagrin

of some people who are hardcore game show fans. And I know people that are purists because they let me know what they think online. But for everyone else, that too, my friend. Oh yeah. But for everyone else, it's, it's, it's a blast because it is an improv comedy, sometimes sketch show that is a game show. And that's why it's become the biggest blast. I just couldn't host a show and have a big-ass mic and go well well Where you're from and what do you do? Because that's not me so yeah

Let us make Monty Hall's baby into this vehicle It's it's the best of all worlds I get to improvise I get to do characters I get to do songs and I get to give money away to people and change their their lives It's a big ass win. What a blast, man. It's great. It's also the best place to drive by in LA when people are waiting in line to get in because it is a wild looking line with the costumes. Oh, surely.

Surely. When we used to shoot in Hollywood, we used to, well, we've shot at a bunch of places now. We're here in Glendale. But when we were in Hollywood, just like you're saying, there was a line around the corner of people dressed up. You know, we got people dressed up like Conan the Barbarian or Reese's peanut butter cups or Sexy Nurse or Sexy Conan or or sexy Conan's nurse.

And it's absolutely crazy. And in the beginning, not judgment, but I used to do this thing of where I would look at people like, this is just crazy. And I questioned myself for like six minutes. I'm like, what the hell am I doing, man? I'm like, I like, it would be crazy that I'd go when I do some, some something really artsy like Hamilton. Yeah. And do that. And then I'd come back. And the next thing I know,

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But you've really created, because I know you and Gareth knows you from the improv world. Right. Because your improv is, I mean, you're one of the fastest. Oh, thanks, man. Well, coming from you, I'll take that, thank you.

Well, you are, man. And like, you also can do everything. You're also like a song and dance man, and you can hit that. And then, I remember, we were talking about it when we first met about then you did the Chappelle show bits and that's when I was like oh there's a whole nother Wayne Brady that I didn't even know yet. What would what was that one like for you? Well well it's interesting that when you say it like

that just because you didn't know it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I realize that that that and you probably feel this. I think any actor does, right? Because for sure. Because when people know, know you like in this lane, you know that there's all this other stuff in their other gears. But you can't be mad at someone. This is a rule that I that I've told myself over years.

Now it's a mantra. You can't be mad at people. This is a rule that I've told myself over years now. It's a mantra. You can't be mad at people for what they don't know. You can't be mad. So because I know that as an actor, I can do X, Y, and Z. I've played bad guys. I've played super villains, and then I get to do who's line. And then I'm on stage doing serious fun shit that I but there but

There is someone that goes. Oh, hey, you're the dude that's on the improv show or you're the game show guy And that's what you do. Yes. So when you do something like the Chappelle show To me, I looked at it as you want to be educated. I'm gonna educate you on one of the dopest You want to be educated? I'm going to educate you on one of the dopest sketch venues possible. And besides it being funny, show you that other gear of, oh no, if this were a movie, this shit would be real. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I really dig that.

Only in this profession do you have a chance to educate people all the time as to who you are. And now it's fun. I used to get pissed off about it and have a big chip on my shoulder, but now it's fun. Now I'm like, okay, well, if you don't know, now you know. But I also feel, Wayne, it's similar in that is, so Gareth and I will talk about it, because in this podcast,

this is just this side of our personality and this base knows us for this. And then you go do something else and it's a whole different side. What I like about this game is, like right now my buddy Joe Swamberg and I are putting a movie together. When you were asking if I'm gonna do something

after Self-Reliance, what I've really leaned into is my friends who are directors being like, you wanna do all that work and I'll do this. Like I did the dink with my buddy Josh Greenbaum. Now I'm back to Joe. Joe and I made drinking buddies together, I did the dink with my buddy, Josh Greenbaum. Now I'm back to Joe. Joe and I made drinking buddies together, went at all a bunch of movies.

And with him and I, as we're putting that together, I'm like, oh yeah, this is this side of my personality that this world knows. And you go like, well, that's the fun of it. Like at home, you're your real self. And then on each kind of thing you're doing, you're like, oh, I get to do this side of it, which I fucking love.

But it's like hanging out with friends. You hang out with a certain friend who you're gonna, I'll cut the certain type of shit. You go, oh, great, we'll just lean into this all night. And then as you're driving home, a different friend calls and you're like, oh, this is the more serious one. Now we're into this tone. Absolutely.

You're like, great, I love them all. Show people all of those levels. And that's the fun part of being a being an actor or Created in general. Yeah, just like dude do what you're gonna do. It's very gig specific. That is exactly Specific well, so for this what we do is we're taking calls We Gareth and I do not know what they are. There are no rules to the call you sir have no rules This is a different side of your personality to Yes. This is what kind of advice you give so we are gonna hear the call live Okay, whatever you feel like jumping in jump in

It's if you have a question ask a question if you want to give advice give advice if it's good or bad It's me and Gareth's job to get to the end of it It's your job just to enjoy the call and do whatever the fuck you want. Let's go. But we have now done around 350 of these calls. So Gareth and I, I now do it at this point because I truly love it.

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quince.com slash here to help Hello, hi. Hi, can we get your name, please? My name is Becca Becca and where are you calling from Becca? I am calling from Lafayette Louisiana. Louisiana cool and uh Becca you got me and Gareth and you also got the great a man who I love who was in my movie and crushed it Mr. Wayne Brady is joining so you got three shooters Becca. Hey Becca. Oh wow. That's awesome. Hi.

Hey. So let's just jump into this one without any of the weird questions and get to know you as you go. Becca what is, what's the issue today? What can we try to help you with? So my issue is with my youngest kid. I have two girls. My oldest is like your typical people pleaser,

rule follower. The youngest has that twinkle in her eye, the, you know, like unpredictability, a little frightening. She started dropping the F word about two years ago. So she's four now, this started when she was two. Got any audio of it, Becca? I wish, because it's fucking funny. It is funny. We know where she gets it from. Can you do me a... You're 100% right, Gareth. As soon as we brought it up, you dropped your first F bump. So you got your oldest. What are we calling her? Her name is Reese. Reese? And what do we call him?

The little swearer. Quinn. Quinn. Cool names. Okay, so all right. So you got so Quinn swearing. What else we got? So she it's become a problem at school.

So it has a little backstory. It came from school. I know it doesn't sound like it. I promised it came from school. Okay, came from school. I know it doesn't sound like it. I promise it came from school. Okay came from you It came from fucking school, I promise you came from fucking school. I learned it from my fucking mom. Oh My gosh, you remember those commercials out of the 80s fucking school. I learned it from my fucking mom. Oh my gosh. By the way, you guys remember those commercials out of the 80s? I learned it from watching you, dad.

I learned it from watching you. She's the best. What was the drug in that spot? I think it was coke. Yeah, it was drugs. Yeah, I remember it was drugs, but like I remember the thing where he walked in the room. It might have been weed. Yeah, it might have been weed. Yeah, he remember with drugs, but like I remember the thing where he walked in the room the dead But it might have been weed. Yeah, it might be the kid. Yeah, okay Yeah, because back then weed was the devil's real bad horned substance. Yeah, weed weed was the f-bomb of the drug world

Yes, we were very intense in the end getting it was like high state You had to like page a guy meet outside of a 7-eleven to to get a dime bag. Hang out for like a day and a half. Nearly get killed. Yeah. All right, so Becca Quinn swearing like crazy. You're claiming she learned it from school. Keep going. Okay, so she started bringing it home, which is why we figured it was from school.

We had other issues with the school, but the first time she said it was to my sweet, sweet mother were like they were playing with some blocks And she looked at my mom and said what the fuck is this? Great awesome, so my mom comes to tell me and I'm like, okay What do you think in there? Hold on? Well, I'm thinking, you know, even just from that. There's a difference Quinn is for right? She's for now. Quinn is four, right? She's four now. She was two at the time.

She was two, okay. Context is in place. As a person, as a father, I have a 22 year old daughter now, so I've watched one human grow up, and currently I have a two year old. So I know the sweet spot that you're talking about. Now what you're talking about when,

at first when you said that the kid is dropping the F-bomb, there's a difference between, oh, it's so cute, when Lil goes, ah ha ha, fuck, hey daddy, daddy, fuck. But Quinn put together a sensibly what is, a very point is, what the fuck is that? With a level of aggression that outages? She I I think your child is possessed. I think that We're not starting with we're not starting with she

Okay, so first pitch from Wayne is your child possessed by something. Did she have the stigmata? Yeah. My sister, like, we were trying to figure out words to describe her for you guys. Yeah. And my sister said, just go with witch. Okay. So, who knows?

Maybe this was right. I did not think this was right, but maybe it's right. So you're, all right, Becca, so. New Orleans. Yeah Yeah, very true. I mean like she's like in the coolest way like I want to be a little more like her. She's cool She's a cool kid. Okay, okay So alright, so Becca keep going so Quinn came home at 2 she said to grandma What the fuck is this you think there might be a little bit of witch in her

in a cool way, keep going. So the next time she was just recounting her day to us and she started talking about this fucking girl at school and I'm like, she's saying it like that. I played with this fucking girl at school and I'm like, oh my word. So we tried talking to the school, they said it was another kid.

But like the way she's saying it in context, I just, you know, and again, we had we had issues with the school. So we pulled her out of that program, put her in a new program. It kind of fizzles out until recently. And she couldn't it was she we were trying to go swimming. She can't get her her dress off of her head It gets stuck in her fucking dress off her head. Yeah She says I can't see with this fucking dress and I'm like, I Mean at this point it catches us off guard. My husband and I are like dying laughing. What else do you do? I mean like she's using this perfectly

So at this point we're still like, okay, you know, maybe maybe that wasn't the best, you know, maybe it wasn't the school. Maybe if it wasn't the school as you're in a program and it's still going on. Fair question for you. Question. If it isn't demonic possession from the other world, have you lost any relatives within the past five years? Any older relatives? Has anyone fucking died is what Wayne's asking.

I can't believe Steve Berg isn't on this call. Because if so, I believe I've solved your problem. With the level of sophistication and the syntax used with the fuck word it sounds like your daughter is actually the reincarnation of someone that you've lost who drops the F bomb. I don't know if my grandma ever used the F word not to me at least. When you were around right she didn't like you enough to use it in front of you or she loved you too much to use it in front of you

Payback time right now payback. Okay, so Becca This is a route we could go. I don't know what we could pitch on that But we could maybe find a way to get in touch, but holy water. Yeah, we're done. We're not fully finished with our setup though, so Queen is shooting F bombs She's now out of the school program still doing it. She can't see past his fucking dress Now he also wants to she also wants to be fucking spider-man so not sure about that one But it now the the new school is like hey by, by the way, you can have a swearing.

Yeah. Yeah. She's using the F word at school. And make another kid swear. Yeah. She's the bad. Right. She's patient zero. Yeah. She likes to bring her friends to the bathroom because that's where we say potty work. So she's recruiting kids now and taking them to the bathroom to say bad words. She's really cool. I swear. She's really cool. I swear she's super cool. If I'm being totally honest. Yeah.

She's also she smokes Parliament Lights. Sounds awesome. She drinks delicious cocktails. Yeah. She smokes cool. Yeah. Cool. Yeah.

She drives with her knee. If she smokes cool cigarettes, this is the coolest kid I've ever seen. Cool cigarettes in the 80s were incredible My mind my mind immediately goes to like delinquent. Are we gonna have like yeah juvenile, you know, like oh dear lord But Becca wait, you said something. I just wanted you said She takes the kids to the bathroom to use that language because that's where you use potty words. Do you like take her to the bathroom to swear now? Is that what you're sort of saying? Or do you go in the bathroom and swear?

Yeah, where you're like, my fucking dog. So, you know, like you tell a kid not to do something, they're just going to do it. Right. So we had listened to a podcast and she was like, hey, you know, if you just give them a place to say it then it's at least contained. This is insane. No, no, no. This is insane.

This is as 2025 podcast bullshit as I've ever heard in my life. That is true. That's horrible. That is crazy. I'm not above like soap in the mouth, but I was like, well, let's try something else before we wake up like her. Still does. Well, well,'s try something else before my mom did something like her still does well something else in the mouth easy does it over there john no what I'm hearing I don't understand updating his mother well oh yeah I wish you to the happiness wait no all right so Becca, what is the specific question?

Right, so I'm not, I know that it sounds bad. I'm not totally convinced that she knows what worked because I picked her up from school and I tried to like get it out of her. I'm like, hey, your teacher said you used a bad word today. Like we need to nip this in the bud. Like let's stop using it. She's like, oh yeah, I said butthole. And I'm like, well, you know,

Hustler. And I said, you know, like, that's not the word. Maybe like, like, oh, yeah, I said, shut up to him. Like, also, you're just, you know, just battling on yourself here. Delinquent. I'm like, okay, it's like, she's like, Mom, which word is it? And I'm like, Oh, my God, I'm not gonna say, it's like she's like mom which word is it and I'm like, oh my god I'm not gonna say this to her face. I Back up back up back up. I don't need to hear how your kid hustled you. We all understand your kids hustling Yeah, there's not a listener right now going the kid doesn't know they think it was butthole while the kids go and come in this fucking Bathroom, I'm gonna teach you some fucking things and give me a scene

Oh, you little bitch and your kids hustling robbing kids down in Louisiana and tricking you do that is not what this call is about What is the specific question that these three gentlemen can help you with today? And if the thing is my daughter is not hustling people. I'm hanging up the phone because she's hustling everybody Also, there's no phone to hang up really. This is a zoom. So that's an empty threat. Just so you know back up Also, there's no phone to hang up really this is a zoom so that's an empty threat just so you know back up I'll press the leave button. That's right, but I will make the noise You know what we'll make the noise and that is really painful for you to hear yeah Give her the goddamn noise

Come on, Becca. Specific question. Yes. How do I get my four-year-old to stop saying the best and funniest curse word without saying it to her face? Okay, I got you. So you don't want to bring up the word for some reason. So really quickly, and then Wayne's got something and I want to hear what he's got, so save

it for a second, Wayne, because I do wanna hear it. What is this fucking theory about a four-year-old swears you say go in the bathroom and let him rip? What is that? It's weird. It's more like a containment thing. Like you tell a kid you can't say this word

and they're gonna take it upon themselves to say it as much as they can. You know, you give them a place to say it. What is the podcast you heard? What podcast recommended that? Hey Jake. It was probably us. Hey Jake, my preschool also does this.

This is a very common preschool thing. What? Yes, for my three year old, yes. So Nat Attack, explain what they do, I don't get this. If they say potty words, they have to say them in the potty. Well, my kid's not saying fuck, but he is saying like, poop and pee and butts. And so you say that's...

That is the whitest thing I've ever heard in my life. Agree. And also it gets worse. So just FYI. Oh, sorry. That felt like you were actually making more of a point. So just FYI. Oh, sorry. That felt like you were actually making more of a point. We were all waiting. No, no. I'm telling that poor girl that the potty work gets worse.

Nat attack. Okay, so hold on. Just cause I'm now, and I know I'm still going to the setup a lot, but this one is truly confusing me. So Nat, you're telling me when your three year old, your three year old is assigned to go to the bathroom to swear with just all kids? Yeah. I mean, I don't do it at home. He just says

whatever he wants at home, but that's the policy at the school. I don't know. That's also not right. Wayne, take over for a second. What do you guys are lucky all? Becca I Just my opinion Hearing this you love your kids so much and as a parent I hear that warmth I feel that warmth it touches something within me but as a child who was raised in the south and I was raised in a generation of if I would have ever I raised in a generation of if I would have ever I didn't curse in front of my mother until she even saw me do a live show when I was like 30 when she came to one of my comic gigs. We just don't curse. There's a you love your child so much that I'm hearing almost

a pride because you even say she's so cool and this thing. If the energy that you give your child is you're so cool because you're curse, I'm going to let you go in the potty and do this weird ass new age bullshit curse in the ether candy man, candy man three times. And then I curse and it's OK. Your child is getting a mixed message of I guarantee you, if your child knows even at the age of four that they There are words they cannot say in your vicinity Or another adult they won't

But they can feel the fact that it's amusing to you and maybe your partner your fam the family So you're shaking your your your fist and you're giggling at the same time That's a mixed message to a child if I was a child I'd say fuck fuck fuckity fuck too because I know that it would get a reaction so I don't So you're asking for help, but I don't know if you can really get help. Yeah, we're gonna win We're gonna help her but can you put the genie back in the bottle with that one? Is that or is that goose cut like if the kid already knows that it's fucking funny. Yes, but here, I think you can, Garrett,

but here's the beginning of it. And I did not say Garrett, I said Gareth, but the H was silent. I didn't say Garrett. It's a super weird way to say my name with a silent H. But it came off weird, and I didn't want you to get your feelings hurt. No, it's worse now, you've made it worse.

Sorry. You're cleaning a spot, now it's worse now. You've made it worse. Sorry. You're cleaning a spot, now it's a spill. Nat Attack, delete this. It came out weird because of my brain, not because of a lack of mouth. Okay, look, Jake, move it on. When I was doing an intro and you said, did you look to the back to get the names and I'm still embarrassed by that.

Well, that was weird. That was weird one time, Wayne, when we were doing an intro. Jake looked at our poster to see what my name was and then admitted that he did that. It was weird. 20 years friends one time, Wayne, when we were doing an intro, Jake looked at our poster to see what my name was, and then admitted that he did that. It was weird. 20 years friends. 20 years friends. So here's what I think the real problem is, Becca.

I think it's some new age bullshit that you can go in a bathroom, because I'll tell you what, I'm not positive of Wayne, but I know Gareth and I would spend every second of our lives in a bathroom. Oh yeah. If there was a place I was allowed to go,

I would put a tent in there. I would literally walk in school, I'd go, how you doing Miss Williams? How you doing Miss whatever? And then I'd walk in the bathroom and I'd go like, fuck this shit, motherfucker, fuck, fuck. And I'd go to every kid, come with me. Why? I got somebody to tell you what's that. My fucking weekend, fucking suck shit, piss, fuck, fuck. You part of team asshole now. Yeah. And then there would be a bunch of kids. We would just be the bathroom kids. I would spend my entire school. I would view school as where I hang out in the bathroom,

and then there's a seat in the classroom I never go to. This might be how greasers started. The bathroom kids. They all just went in the bathroom. The bathroom kids. It would be a generation of that. That would be the best gang to be a part of. I would do the same thing,

and then just get all your friends to come and beatbox and freestyle and get a gospel chorus and everybody would all be, and get like a Kanye. So, Wayne, before you said that's the whitest thing, your pitch was the blackest thing I ever heard. Because what I would not do in my bathroom gang is go like, let's get a gospel going. No, that's the blackest pitch to the bathroom gang. The bathroom gang would just be a bunch of kids going like, fuck you, motherfucker. Hey, I got a fucking turtle this weekend. It fucking rules.

And somebody would go, those fucking things can live to be a hundred. Nobody would be singing any sort of gospel shit. You didn't go to my school. Agreed. We went to different schools. But so Becca, I think we gotta create a thing at home that, and Nat Attack, you're fucking part of this too. Yeah, you called the show on this one too, Natalie. That there is no peaceful area called the bathroom.

My mother put a bar of soap in my mouth and she's a hypocrite because she would be swearing. So the childhood, the era I grew up in was more confusing where it's, you gotta watch your fucking mouth, you swear again. And then I'm like, you gotta fucking power my mouth and soap while you're swearing. I'm like, I'm learning nothing.

It just tastes terrible. So I think what we need to do, Becca, is first of all, you're four years old. You're a little winner, Quinn. We love you. We like you. You got a great personality. Yeah. Yeah. The F bombs ain't cute. So let me ask you a question, Becca. What is little Quinn like the most? Is it her iPad or is it her sweets? Wow. Oh, we're bribing. Becca, we ain't bribing, babe. It's not a negotiation. We taking. Oh, punishing.

Oh, okay. You're not negotiating with a four-year-old terrorist. You said that like that was a new concept. She said, oh, punishment. Punishing. I think I've read about that. Yeah. Yeah. Whatever books these parenting books are teaching everybody,

they're teaching everybody this so that the kids are wild. I felt this way with poker. Anybody here play poker? Yeah, a little bit. So all these poker pros started writing books of how to play good poker. And this whole generation of poker players started reading the books and thinking they were good.

Well, they're learning how to play poker from their competition. So they're like, you know, a guy who's currently playing wrote a book of how to be a good player. You gotta be tight aggressive. This is what you do on jacks. And you go, listen, motherfucker, if he's teaching you how to play while gambling against you,

he's beating you. These parent books are to raise a generation of kids who are wild as fuck, don't respect their parents, they have no rules, they're little animals. The answer is no way! So what do you think of that, Becca? Are you open to old school punishment? We're not talking about beating the kid up. Well, not yet.

Like I said, I'm not above soap in the mouth. Okay, we're not talking about beating the kid up. Well, not yet. I, like I said, I'm not above soap in the mouth. We're not going soap in the mouth. That was wildly ineffective. Becca, what are two, what is, what does Quinn love the most? Um, she, she likes a good iPad. She does. Yeah. Okay. And what, how, how many hours a day is little Quinn staring at that screen? And I'm not judging my kids love screens too and guess what so do I? I mean she really we don't use iPad That much unless you know we need we need our own time I'd say like between a TV and iPad maybe like an hour

And what's what's Quinn's favorite show? What is she like? Is she watching YouTube short? She watching shimmer and shine? What's that? What's that little girl? What a combination of bluey and Spidey Boo in spite. So how about this? Oh you say the f-bomb you can't watch Spidey or bluey for the rest of the day You say it twice you can't watch it tomorrow. You say it twice, you can't watch it tomorrow. You say it thrice, you lose your iPad for a week. These ain't my rules. These are Wayne Brady's rules. Who's Wayne Brady?

Wayne Brady's a bad man. Wayne Brady's family rules. Wayne Brady's family rules. And so, you know, we did a thing at my preschool. There was this teacher there that was smart called Mr. Todd. And I would go home and I would be doing Mr. Todd techniques to my kid that they didn't like.

And my one daughter finally goes, I wish you never talked to Mr. Todd. And I'm like, I hear you, but he's good at it. Becca, what do you think about if we create Wayne Brady's family rules? And if the kid breaks it, you gotta go, So I got a problem. If you say the F-bomb, you lose one hour of Bluey and Spider,

and your kid goes, fucking why, Mommy? But you and I are just friends and I rule this roost. And you go, I know you do, but you don't rule the Wayne Brady family. Rules, rules. Wayne Brady's the boss. And I'll take a series, you know what I could do, is I could shoot a series of videos on my phone that you can pull out at any time. And one is like, hey.

Listen to Wayne. Did you say the F-bomb again? No TV. And another one is like, did you say that shit again? Wayne Brady is very disappointed in you. And then they're like, yay, Wayne Brady's so happy because I also don't want her in this exchange. I don't want her to grow up angry at every black man. That's true.

Because of the rules. So I want her to get some of the sweet with the sour. By the way, Becca, this is a big win. This is. And we already got two clips right there. We could do, Wayne, anything else you do on your phone, we will send also to any caller or somebody wanting to email the show that has this issue just like we did Gareth on hot takes. Yeah So hot takes was a thing we did

There's a teacher who called in and we gave some advice and now a bunch of teachers across America have emailed in that they're doing Hot takes yeah as a blanket statement if your kid is swearing too much And thank you. I loved it. Mr. Hot takes is the best That was great. Thanks, Becca. You're welcome. Look at us, we're having a weird little guy right here. All right, you're welcome.

Come on, lock in, lock in, Jay. I did, and Becca was really sweet. Now I wanna swear around her because I know she's not gonna punish me. Shut the fuck up, mom, you're fucking nuts. I'm going in the bathroom, you love me. So what we could create is anybody whose kid is swearing. Before you call in, we will post the Wayne Brady stuff

on our website and our Instagram. Try the Wayne Brady family rules first. If that doesn't work, then email in. So Becca, what are you gonna do and how are you gonna apply the Wayne Brady family rules? Well, I like the rules. I love the video idea. I still don't know if I'm super comfortable saying like,

hey, by the way, you can't say fuck. Cause I feel like- But here's the thing, but Becca, I think you're living in a fantasy land. I think you think that your kid doesn't know that fuck is a bad word. And I think she does. Oh, how about this?

How about this? If mom's not comfortable, Wayne, will you really fast make a clip where you're talking to kids about the f word? And if they say the f word, they lose an hour of screens. Yes. OK, I can do do do that right now. Let's do it right now, please. OK. Amazing. Hey, kids. It's me, Wayne Brady. Look, I've been talking to your parents and there's a word that you shouldn't use. There are so many words and you're learning words right now. Your mind is so open and facile. learn all the words you can. Except for the word that starts with F.

That is a really bad word. Uh, kuh. That's a bad word when you put everything together. We call it the F-bomb. Under no circumstance should you say the F-bomb. Can mommy say the F-bomb? Absolutely. Can daddy say the F-bomb?

Yes. Can Mr. Wayne say the F-bomb? Absolutely. Can Daddy say the F-bomb? Yes. Can Mr. Wayne say the F-bomb? Every chance he gets. In fact, saying the F-bomb is a sign of intelligence. But you're too young to say the F-bomb. So if you say the F-bomb, Mommy or Daddy, hopefully working in tandem together, will take away your favorite program, or your favorite food, or your favorite candy, or we won't let you play with your cousins You know the really nice ones that come over We got it

It's a sign of intelligence which I agree is a slight case for using it I agree So Wayne we gotta take two with this whole thing. I agree. So, Wayne, we gotta take two. With this whole thing, I think we got it. has to be 30 seconds, I think we got it. no intelligence, no fictional cousins,

He's not true. and action. Hey kids, it's me, Wayne Brady. I'm here to tell you, don't say the F word. Here's a little song that you need to remember. God!

The F word is good for a mama remember the f-word good for a mama the f-word is good for dad but if you say the f-word Wayne Brady is gonna get real mad don't say the f-word thank you really good really good but Wayne you know what we forgot what the Wayne Brady family rules if you say the f-bomb you cannot watch your screens for one hour. That's the Wayne Brady family rule. That's it. Okay. Okay. Take three. Action. Hey kids, this is Wayne Brady with the Wayne Brady family rules. If you say the F-bomb, we will take away your screen for one hour. If you say the F-bomb twice, we'll take away your screen for the whole day.

If you say the F-bomb three times, we'll take away your screens for the week. And Wayne, I've got a question for you. Are you allowed to say the F-bomb in the potty room? Oh, you can't say the F-bomb in the potty room. You can't say the F-bomb in the kitchen. You can't say the F-bomb at school. You can't say the F-bomb in the kitchen. You can't say the F-bomb at school. You can't say the F-bomb anywhere. But Mr. Wayne, what if the school allows it in the bathroom? What do you think of that? Then, if the school allows you to say the F-bomb, then maybe mommy and daddy should reconsider your educational options.

Pretty good, Becca. Definitely got it. I think we... Becca, what do you think of that? And I want the truth because I would love to see video of you playing this to your son for the show Or your daughter. I'm sorry when she For you if it's not I know Wayne personally we can do another take But I want this to actually play for your kids and I would like this to be a real rule And I think this could work. Do you think that would work with Quinn? If not, what direction can we try?

No, I love it. This is perfect. Okay Great, and I mean, you know, we got it. We got to get rid of the potty the the bathroom thing Yeah, we got to get rid of it.. But it's only going to work, Becca. The thing is, I still hear in your voice, you think it's cute, which is okay, because that's your daughter and it's your life and live your life in parent, but it sounds like you think that it's cute,

so it can never really be worked out. But it can, Wayne, because- How about this? Yeah. How about this? How about you're allowed to think it's cute, but Becca, when you want to enjoy the fact that your kid just said the F word,

you have to go to the bathroom to celebrate that for yourself. That's your zone of enjoying what just happened nowhere near Quinn. Yes, that's perfect. I mean, it's hilarious. I mean, she's pretty fucking smart at her. I get it.

The contest. Rebecca, remember, you're calling in with a problem. Yeah. You're at your mirror, Becca. Is it hilarious? We agree. Yeah, it's funny. The problem is you want it to stop.

So do you think the next time Quinn goes, I can't get this fucking bathing suit off you go Hey, honey I need to explain to you the Wayne Brady family rules and if she gets confused, which she will you go Let me show you this video And if you're gonna laugh you have to bite the fuck out of your tongue Go in the bathroom and laugh in there with the fan on yes And then walk out so Quinn doesn't see it if If you do this, and you gotta stick to that hour,

and I want your kid to go like, in her head, fucking Wayne Brady's keeping me from Bluey. Yes. But it's not you or your husband, it's the Wayne Brady family rules. Is this something you're actually going to do? Because if you do it, Becca, I'm gonna tell you what's gonna happen.

Quinn's gonna stop squaring. Yes. That's just what's gonna happen Quinn's gonna stop squaring yes that's just what's gonna happen if you take away her shows it's gonna happen are you gonna do it yes absolutely so here's what I you don't believe her when I don't know I don't know I I really I really hope so I really hope so because it's kind of indicative of, it's cute. We all love to hear kids curse and we laugh when our kids do funny things. But it's also a gateway that when your kid feels

that they can get away with certain things, it's a hop, skip and a jump to the bigger things. And they're like, ah, you're gonna let me stay out past, curfew, come on, you love me. Becca, your rebuttal. I mean, I do, I feel like we just didn't have a plan in place for it, but usually when we give out like consequences, we stick to it. We, we, we're, we're not as passive as we found. Becca, your four year old is saying fuck casually around the house. Okay? We're, this is intervention time.

Are you going to stick to it and are you going to do it? And will you bring back results the next time you call in? Good or bad? Yes. Blame Wayne. Yes, good or bad. Honest. So here's what we need from you, Becca.

We need some audio of the kids swearing. And so if Quinn swears, you gotta grab your phone and then go, hey honey, hit voice on it, what'd you say? And the kid will say it again. Then you gotta go, I need you to show you this video. And ideally we have your husband's phone too, so we can film, you could film the kid watching it. And I think what you should do is really like take a minute,

sit the kid down and make it a serious, be like, look, you have to watch the video again, okay? Remember. And then maybe try to get the kids' thoughts and point of views on Wayne where I would love to hear, here's my hope, Quinn goes, in a little kid voice, I'm not gonna swear again because Mr. Wayne said it's not okay.

That, if we hit that, that's our grand slam. Yes. My teachers say it's okay in the bathroom. You will think it's funny, but Mr. Wayne who doesn't find it funny, so I'm not allowed to swear on Mr. Wayne because if I do, he's gonna take away Bluey from me because it's just not appropriate.

Becca, follow up with us please. There's a huge win here. and a huge future for Wayne I think Wayne is finding yet another angle on entertainment this motherfucker is finding another path to make money I know Wayne! It's the 18th! Motherfucker how are you getting every job you son of a bitch? Guts the hustle baby The others work some of us gotta eat too late

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Wayne, thank you. That was awesome. That was perfect. Awesome. She was so funny. The problem that isn't a problem is hilarious. But that's a classic call. If we can get that follow up, I can't wait to see it. I can't wait. It's hilarious. But that's a classic call. Yes. If we can get that follow up, I can't wait to see it.

I can't wait. It's classic. But honestly, Wayne, find a way to leave any way you want comedically, and then just go. OK. OK. Yeah, I'll start it, Gareth. OK.

Hi, can we get your name, please? Hello. Hey there. Let's go for Rob today. Rob. Where are you calling from, Rob? I'm calling from Amsterdam. Amsterdam.

Cool. Yeah. Are you from Amsterdam or are you there? Just to visit. I am originally from this area, yeah. Cool. How has Amsterdam changed over the years? Well, I am. Well, it's a perception based but it's become more touristy, of course.

Yeah. But it's still a good place to go. I mean, I'd recommend it to anyone, especially if you're in Europe anyway. I was there in 2003 with Billy Bungeroth and Oliver Raleigh. We got stoned all night in cafes. We couldn't believe we could buy it there. And we saw Willie Nelson at five in the morning walking across the bridge He was as high as us and we didn't even know what to say. We just said hey, Willie

He said hey guys and we walked past him and he was with one other friend and we're like, I don't know if this is real Life, I think we just crossed well Rob tell him the truth Yeah, that sounds like a Tuesday. Rob, you're here with Gareth and I and the great Wayne Brady. Hey Rob. Hey Rob.

Question for you Rob. You said something when you introduced yourself that caught me. You said for today it's Rob. Do you go by another name? Well, he wants to be anonymous on the call. Hell yeah. For today It's a juicy problem. Oh, okay. I am not. Yeah. So Rob, what do you got for us today? So here's the deal. Um, I started my master's degree a few years ago and I've met a group of five guy friends that I kind of grew into a tight-knit

friendship with. And these are good friends, like go on vacation together friends. But now we've been on some scrappy camping trips. And it's every time like one of the highlights of my year. But now we are planning our third vacation. So it's a yearly thing. And this meeting is coming up Wednesday to discuss what we're gonna do and Through the great science or some conversations. I've heard there is now some consensus forming about making it and Invite all the girlfriends trip And I notice how everyone is seemingly agreeing as if it's not a total rebrand of our group plan group plan And I'm not sure I'm not sure what to do.

So really my question is, is this a vibe shift I can question and how do I handle this? This is a question from a guy getting his master's degree. Yes. Our previous call was a mom who was dealing with a four-year-old swearing. This is, there is a vibe shift when you bring the significant others.

It is a fundamental, now it's not bad, but it is a fundamentally different trip. Because the group is not the group, it's individual pods. It's everybody's really connecting with their significant other. And then you do things like dinner and hang as a group. And then everyone goes back to their tent and is seeing

Boyfriend version of your friend versus friend version of your friend. It is there's a there's a difference. Yeah. Yeah, those are different people Is there a slight? issue Has there been any sexual tension between any of the existing group? No. No, that's not what's going on. Yeah. Okay.

Just wondering. So that's out the window. So it's more just... and I got a question, Rob. Are you the only single guy in the group? I am not single. You got a girlfriend too? I do have a girlfriend. So it would be even, right? That's even heavier. So they're all there. You're all in relationships. So it would be even right. That's even

heavier. So it would work out. I'm I just I'm not entirely feeling this shift into whisper fighting over dinner seating plans. Yes. Wow. Wow. First of all, break up with your girlfriend. Things sound good. First of all, Rob, I think you're in the wrong relationship. Go to the bathroom to swear. Good. First of all, Rob, I think you're in the wrong relationship. Go to the bathroom to swear with me. Good.

I think it's transparency. I think that you and the friends, it sounds like it's something that definitely bothers you. I think now is a good time to see if you are in the minority with this, to see if you are the only person that it definitely bothers. So just open that conversation up when you guys hang out.

Wayne, Wayne, Wayne, can I say something about what this show is? The cleanest path to the answer is not why people call in. This is not a man who wants transparency. If he's gone down that road in his head and then he thought, I'm gonna call this podcast, we're here to help because what I don't wanna do is go, hey guys, I would love to not maybe bring the girlfriends,

what do we all feel? He wants a sneaky way in that the group understands what's happening without Rob offending his girlfriend, knowing now all these guys are also gonna tell their girlfriends and now it's a whole discussion about why doesn't Rob and then these guys are gonna sell him out and go, Debra I would love you to go but Rob's weird with Karen. You should plant fake evidence that the five of you have been having guy hijinks for the past couple

years on the trip so that the girlfriends break up with you and and then it's not an issue. Wait, go on with that Wayne, go on with this is why you get all the jobs. Yeah, because you went reasonable to insane so fast. Will you pitch that one again just because I didn't fully get it? Oh, yeah. I would create a Facebook page that is the secret, the best. Cripped Facebook page with AI taken pictures of the past trips,

which show you guys in a frenzied, hormonal, master's degree, guy orgy, and with texts to each other, and then anonymously send it to the girlfriends, they all get angry, they break up with everybody, so that everybody becomes single, and they're also distraught, so when you go on the guy trip, not only are you having fun and camping but it's but it's

comforting each other and trying to get back to some sort of a homeostasis as men Just Wayne this is for you before we go to Rob your two pitches One just be upfront and honest when that didn't work. You said create a fake Facebook page quickly to Orgies so everybody gets dumbed That didn't work. You said create a fake Facebook page. Quickly too. The switch was like. Orgies, so that everybody gets dumped. So that the guy trip is just, guys, I don't know. We created these orgy pictures.

We went from G to porn in 10 seconds. And from zero to a hundred. There's a gray area, Mr. Brady. I give you both options.. I give you both options. I just give you both options. For a problem like this, I don't think you can beat around the bush in the gray area.

I think you can, I think you can. You either blow it up or you blow it out. Merch. Yep. So Rob, and we're gonna pitch more obviously, but when you hear those- Nope, nope, that's it. Yeah, I think we got it, Jay. I don't know what more, obviously, but when you hear those. No, no, that's it. Yeah, I gotta, Jay.

I don't know what the pushback is, to be quite honest. But Rob, when you hear those two, what are your first thoughts either? Because I answered for you, but I shouldn't have. So what do you think about just being upfront and honest, or two, creating a Facebook orgy page and having all the girlfriends break up with you? Rob, let's hear what you're thinking, Bill.

Well, for sure, I thought the first pitch was not it, but your second pitch surely made the first one look very shiny. So leaning towards being honest. Is that what you're, is that how you close Wayne? And that's how I parent good day. Yeah. Good day gentlemen. Thank you Wade. I gave you the worst option to make the first option good. Wade you're the best. I can't wait to talk to you again. I can't wait to talk to Becca.

Rob, if that's not your real name, I hope this works out for you. And it's so good talking to you guys. Garrett, the pleasure. Thank you, Wade. Jay, my man, I'll talk to you guys. Gareth, a pleasure. Jay, my man. I'll talk to you too soon. Bye, thanks, bud. Appreciate it. Okay, Rob, we had to lose Wayne

because he had to get back to work. He was so upset at your response to his work. We borrowed him for a little bit. He was on set. Busy guy. We appreciate it. But Rob, so now we're back in it with you, sir. And I gotta say, I don't think we do the orgy page

and I don't think we'd be honest. Gareth. I totally agree. I think what you said, I loved what Wayne did, but I think what you said is right. Rob's calling here for some shenanigans. Yes. And shenanigans Rob shall have.

Yeah. And so Rob, basically where you're at is you would prefer just the guys hanging out and then a different trip with the ladies trip. Possibly, yes. He didn't even think he suggested that. I think he wants to just keep the waters pure on the dudes trip.

But that and what you just said Jake is another pitch. Yes. But Rob, here's my question. Why don't you want to just come out and bring it up face value? Now let's get real honest. Well, I feel like we're all kind of in that age range where you're starting to think about moving in together, starting to think about how the rest of your lives together

are going to look. Yep. And there is this very strong sense of including everyone at every possible time. And I feel like the last moment that was still just us guys was this vacation. And keep in mind, it's like it's a very short vacation. It's like four or five days. So it's not like you're missing out on a bunch.

It's just like the last trip. The last thing we had. It's a week. It's a long trip last thing we had. It's a week. It's a week off. Five days with a bunch of guys is a long time. Yeah, it's a long time. Is a possible move here to create confusion in the group of who's pitching this so that it almost just feels like

the way news media does it, the way the Baldini, or whatever that kid's name, Justin Baldini, Blake Lively stuff is. You're confusing the narrative. So nobody even knows what to believe. Meaning, is there something you could say to one guy and go, I hear the ladies don't even wanna come. And then you say to somebody else and they go,

you know what I heard? Mike doesn't want significant others. What do you think about that? I don't care, but Mike's not in, but he doesn't want anyone to know. So you think about that? I don't care, but Mike's not in, but he doesn't want anyone to know. So you're creating so much confusion that the group goes, you know what, this is getting so hectic. Why don't we just do it with the guys for this one?

Cause it's too crazy and no one can figure out. And the women go, at this point, we don't want to go anyway, because I don't even know which way is up. That honestly sounds quite interesting. Okay, that's just one pitch. That's one. Here's here's what I think. Oh, I have a couple thoughts. Go for it. You just got to get one girlfriend to not come. If you can get it so one of them

won't come. That makes it weird for the one guy to the point where I think that is a poison pill enough. So my first thought, my first thought would be Rob, how I would put it on your girlfriend. The question is, how well does your girlfriend know your buddy's significant others? Here's the problem with that Gareth. Let me just say, whenever we go to a third party it never works Well it Maybe I answer my question Robin. Let's see. Okay

So me and my buddies know each other very well, of course, right? Yeah, but these significant others have only like slowly been introduced So they are not necessarily friends with each other in that way Jake why couldn't he say either one, my girlfriend wants to just keep it to dudes for this one, she thinks next time we can open it up or two, her parents are coming to town, she's not going to be able to make it and that would kind of make it weird for me. I don't like including another. Okay. And I'll tell you why. And Rob, whatever route you want to go, we go down, but these are just three

people talking in the bar right now. If you're going to tell a big lie, what always happens is once others get involved and it gets ugly, we all seen mafia movies, everybody's then got to get killed and we don't want to all seen mafia movies. Everybody's then gotta get killed. And we don't wanna have to take your beautiful girlfriend in a Lincoln and sit behind her. And she goes to the basement, she goes, I'm about to be made.

And then you go, no, this is a trap. You're getting murdered. Because anybody who knows anything has to go down. I want sneaky, sneaky, sneaky. It's only Rob. Can't be, we can't attach this to Rob is what we want to go on right now. Exactly, you attach it to no one.

Let me ask you this. Jake, what do you think about this? How long you and your girlfriend been together, Rob? Six years. Six years, okay. So we've got a pretty good relationship here. Yeah. I feel like we could maybe if we wanted

go to the girlfriend and just Rob could say, hey, look, the guys wanna invite the girls, I wanna keep it a guys trip. I'm gonna say that you maybe have something to do around that time. Well, let me ask you a question before we go this road. Rob, does your girlfriend wanna go on this trip? Well, she, I talked to her about this and she is kind of on my side. Also because, I mean, limited vacation days, are you going to do this with a group of people you don't really know?

Okay. Got a window. So, he's not too keen to go. Gareth, you were right. I was wrong. Let's go down this road. So, let's crack the window a little bit and you go to her and how about this? You say, look, I'm going to lightly put it on the fact that you have something to do and you probably can't make it. And I'm also going to pivot it into and also I kind of do like it just being us, but she also probably isn't even going to make it. Now I'll be honest, I don't

want to go on a trip with four buddies and their significant others. That does not appeal to me. I think what you guys can do, Here's what I would recommend saying to the group as a text really easy Fellas in terms of the plan My girlfriend is pretty slammed these days and not positive. She wants to use her vacation for this but Doesn't want to be a downer. Or like a text that says, just to the fellas to discuss, please no girlfriends involved in this.

I don't want hurt feelings. I don't want people to feel uncomfortable. I also think we could say, my girlfriend has plans for her vacation days. So she's can't use them for this trip, something like that, but keep cooking, Jake. But in this zone of, can we just have a discussion about these trips?

Because I'll tell you what, like, I went to Landers with Steve Berg, Eric Edelstein, Clay Allen, and Brian Farrell. I'll tell you who wouldn't wanna go on that is my wife. Because she's like, I need to sit around and watch you guys like do your jokes all the time and nobody stop talking and go to a sound bath. That's not how I want to spend a weekend.

But I was like, I want to, it was fun. I was like, I would spend a weekend that way. You were missed, Gareth, actually. I wasn't invited, so that's why I was missed. Anyway, keep going, Rob or Jake, someone else talk, fill it, someone else fill the moment. Fill the moment. You're in Virginia.

I can make it, I'm at an office in Norfolk, I can figure it out. Things are normal. So I think there's a world that you say, I don't want to put my, I don't want to, is that a brown water bottle? It's a- Maroonie.

It's the coolest thing I've ever seen in my life. There we go. Yeah. I've never seen a cool brown water bottle. Yeah, buddy, you gotta hang out with me. I'm telling you, invite me to these sound baths. You're gonna love it. You're invited.

You wanna come? Can't, I'm in Virginia. So, here's the play I would do. I would go with Garris Rout on this and I would send a text right now to the fellas and the text would go, I don't want to throw my girlfriend under the bus on this. She's not looking to ruin this plan, but she has other ideas for her vacation days. Are we going to start doing all of our buddy trips with significant others or should we keep our buddy trips our buddy trips and then we could try to do something else with girlfriends but it might not be five days.

It might be like an overnight. Is this going to be like an all in one message or is it more of a first drop the my girlfriend isn't available and then in a few weeks introduce the, what are we trying to do? If I may, Jake, I would maybe split it. I would get ahead of the planning of the trip with the girls coming along with the first half of what Jake's saying.

And then I think when you're with the boys, you have a couple beers. I think then you can say, look, she couldn't come come but to be quite honest Do we want to set that precedent? I mean this is like where we go to be, you know weirdos Well, I've got a question for you Rob What if Gareth and I did a clip from a fictional podcast about this and You sent it to the group and go this clip got me thinking, what do you guys think?

I mean, it could be a soft way to introduce like- An idea and say, I just, I saw this clip on Instagram or whatever. I don't even know what the podcast is or whatever, whatever way you heard it. It made me start thinking about our trip. What do you guys think? Pigly and Moe.

Should we Pigly and Moe it? Here's what we could do. We could Pigly and Moe it. You have Pigly and Moe. And then if you feel like you want to go the route of the other way, you have that option too. But you can have a Pigly and Moe. And why don't we do, Jake, why don't we make it Pigly and Moe? Moe or Pigly? It just came back from a trip.

Okay, so I just came back from a trip. With all, and you, it was a dude's trip for 10 years. This time you invited your wives. It was a little different and you don't feel as recharged as you used to. I love it. Okay. Rob, if this works are you gonna send it to the group? For sure. Okay, so let's start as if we're on a different subject and then get to it. Maybe you initiate, ask me about the trip. Maybe you are asking for another coffee and I'll say that's your third one today, Mo. I love it. Okay here we go. And the whole thing under two minutes Garf. All right here we go. But that was the entirety of the weekend it was pretty good. Give me a quick second I think I gotta

get another cup of coffee. For those listening that is Moe's third cup of coffee today. Moe is dragging his B. As you know, I just came back from a weekend trip to Idaho with the fellas. Right. And the... And the significant others. I thought so, right. I remember you telling me about that. How was it? Well, you know on this show we always get honest, don't we? A big part.

And this has nothing to do with Susan, nothing to do... And I know they're listeners. Of course. So nothing to do with the wonderful women who joined us. But it was a different type of trip, Bigly. Because you used to do this trip just the guys. Now this is something I know you know a lot about too. Absolutely.

But for me, there are two types of trips. There's the trips with the guys, and then the significant others. And I think the zones need to be separate, your thoughts. Well, there's a lot of research to things like this that the primal man needs to be around other primal men to be the primal man. So if you were inviting- In order to have that type of trip.

In order to have that type of, but I mean, honestly, to some extent, it is an emotional and an energy purge. So if you're coming back today and you're saying, I'm tired because you're more tired, it is probably because you've is a different trip, but you still had a good time or you feel like it was- Pigly, I had a wonderful, so look,

so I wanna make something crystal clear. This is not an offense to the women at all. I had a wonderful time, but it is a fundamentally different trip. Let me ask you this, if you could go back in time, would you do it just the fellas or would you do the trip you just had? Here's what I would do, I would have done two type of trips

and I would have talked to the fellas about guys, let's create two trips, trips that are just the fellas and other trips that are with the significant others. And what I would do is they would be different lengths because you gotta think about these women's schedules, which we did not We did a six-day trip. That's too much Now what we should have done with the significant others is an overnight and then the fellas go do the four to five to six days But we are putting them in a tough situation too you because they're saying I have to say yes

Because I don't want to be the one who says no, but also I have other plans Yes, because I don't want to be the one who says no, but also I have other plans And now you might if you want to go back to just the fellas that might be more difficult than it was before mo That's exactly right. So another thing that I want to bring up about rocket ahead. Yeah Rob Shaking his head much more messy. Yeah This is season two, amigo. Okay? We clean up the scratches in season two, my man.

You think Pigly and Mo are a joke? They're helpful. I mean, it's called Pigly and Mo for God's sake. We know what we're doing. Yeah, you think we're clowns? What do you think we're crazy? You think we're jokes? You think we're a joke, Rob?

We're Pigly and Mo! So, Rob, you have... By the way, it's insane that Pigly ande is now actually a move that is trying to help and that we're just Smoothly moving into it and by the way that rocket money sponsors them. I really I want to talk to the rock It's honestly look it saved me a lot Unwanted subscriptions come here Mo Mo Mo So Rob you have the option. I mean that certainly feels like send that to the group of the

test clip. You say this is just audio only the audio only. Absolutely. You say that because we're both very recognizable. You say that send it to him that gets the conversation going. I feel like that's probably going to be your best way in and here's the other thing Jake. Yeah, let's say in some world, someone goes, I never heard of this show. They look it up, they don't, whatever. You can very

easily say, look, this is my attempt at telling you boys I love you and I like keeping it separate. That's interesting. So Rob, what you gonna do, big dog? I honestly feel like there's one way to go. It's a very clean pitch. Like start out with asking them or telling them that my girlfriend is not available. Kind of seeing where it goes. Showing or maybe letting them listen to this podcast snippet when we're drinking a few beers and kind of introduce it that way. Oh, doing it as the group. I like it.

What do you think about sending the clip as a text message? I could do that too, but I feel like... You want it in person. Letting them hear it after a few beers and immediately being able to talk about it could be a... I think you're totally right. It's worse for the show, but it's better for you. I agree.

I agree. Yeah, it is worse for the show, but... But it is better for you. We're marginally here for the caller at this point, and still are so I think I think if that's the right move That's what I'm dying to hear what happens because then I can casually be bringing it up and go. Oh, I got something I fucking and then Rob walk us through the three of us are in a bar right now I want to see how you can smoothly get into this so that the clip sounds real So we're all hanging out in Amsterdam. We just got another

round of pints of beer. Here's another round of beers for the boys. Yeah, I was just at the Red Light District. I saw Willie Nelson. Oh, I showed my Willie Nelson at the Red Light District once. You're still addicted to hookers, are you, Andrew? I've got a problem, an insatiable appetite. All right, guys. All right, guys. I got something to tell you Go ahead Rob. I Was thinking about the vacation. We were all supposed to go on yes, and I look at this podcast Or I came across on Instagram. I don't really remember Feels like it might be a cap feels false Rob show me the source material start over you gotta know how you found it My first question is gonna go. What are you talking about, big dog?

Alright, back to the start of the bar. Andrew! Yes! Yes, go ahead. I saw you in the red light district. I'm Billy. That's right, Bill. I was down there. I was just trying to help some of the girls and give them opportunities to get out of that area. We'll know you were spending your money for sex. Talking about the girls. Yes.

Oh yes, go ahead. Hurry up. Well, talking about the girls, I was listening to a podcast and they were talking about going on vacation with their significant others. And I feel like it could be relevant to us and maybe I could introduce it to you. Okay, what's it called? What's the podcast? called?

Piggly and Mo Vacation Stories. No, it's not. That's a crazy title. I think it is. I think it's just called Piggly and Mo. By the way, let me Google that because that can't find it. It's Very niche. Their whole podcast is vacation stories.

Strange. What do they have? Nine episodes? Strange. Let's start again, Rob. Very European. But Rob, the setup was great. Great.

But you don't even know the name of it. How good? I can't remember. Piglin' something. All right. So we are back to the bar. Andrew just brought drinks. Oh, yeah. Drink them up. They leans something. All right, so we are back to the bar. Andrew just brought drinks. Oh, yeah.

Drink them up. They're so good. Thanks. Again, I'm not going to pay you back because I think you're a sex addict and I have issues with your behavior. I like to support local industries. There's nothing wrong with that. Well, the thing that is wrong with it is a lot of those ladies are not here to be chooies.

Don't you know that? Because I'm a lawyer. Oh, here we go. Someone wants to ruin the good time. Piss in the pool. No, I don't. Hey, fellas. Hey, how you Hey, how you doing? Right. Let's keep it light. Let's keep it light. Uh, I came across this audiogram on Instagram, which is like a snippet of a podcast.

I was kind of scrolling through things and they were talking about something that is kind of relevant to us. And I thought maybe we could listen to it together and I'll kind of talk about it. I liked the way that Andrew said yes. So I'm gonna start saying that too, yes. Yes, okay. That was great, very strong call. Oh, thanks Bill.

Okay, let's hear the goddamn vodka. What's it called by the way? Who cares, let it cook. Oh, pick it up, whatever. I've heard of it. By the way, Rob, great. Real good. You plow through, I would listen to it, and then afterwards, you can just let the conversation

go where it goes, my man. Yeah, I mean, after a couple beers, I don't think I'm getting the question, which podcast and where did you get this? I agree. Well, we're giving you a worst case scenario, babe. But I also think, Rob, the idea of sending some sort of text to get it so that they're not going to be talking about this too much is good. You know?

Explain what that means. Well, if we already have rumblings that this is going to be a guys and girls trip, it's not a bad idea to get it out there now. Like, hey, you know, yeah, just a little something so they don't Let's get the beers just the guys and discuss the trip No plan has make no plans on the trip until we meet up something like that thoughts on that Robbie. I Mean, that's kind of our plan tomorrow anyway, okay tomorrow. Okay, you're good. Let's go So we got a follow-up with the ASAP. Yeah, maybe I mean the next session maybe yeah

Good or bad we got to get you on again to hear what happens on this night. Yep For sure and you know also I think is interesting rom this call started with Wayne Brady and that feels like a year and a Half ago and Wayne Brady said Wayne Brady said maybe do a fake AI orgy Very reasonable. Yeah. You came in with, you came in hard. Hot fast. I mean, that was a comment.

Okay. We got to go. Rob, please let us know how it goes. Good luck. And you've got this. Yeah, for sure. Thank you so much. Enjoy the beer.

Bye bye. Bye now. Thank you. See you later. By the way, Sean Connery, I'm allowed to hit a lady once in a while. Jesus, that's not Sean Connery. Yes it is. No.

Barbara Walters interview. I know the interview. I'm talking about the goddamn accent. Every once in a while if she talks back, I don't think there's anything wrong with giving her a slap. It feels like someone's hitting me with a Sean Connery. It's not good in a bad way. I'll give you a slap.

It's terrible. Have you ever heard him talk? Yes. Close your eyes. You're hearing him talk right now. No, I'm not. It's awful. I you ever heard him talk? Yes. Close your eyes, you're hearing him talk right now. No, I'm not. It's awful. I'm gonna slap ya. Oh, sounds like a sick Irishman.

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