We're Here to Help - 84: Kevin's Fresh Lobotomy Smile

Episode Date: June 3, 2024

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This is a HeadGum Podcast. And we're back. Oh, we sure are, Jake. And you're in Australia. I am in Sydney, Australia, finally over my jet lag and loving every minute of it, Jake. You just love it down there, huh? I do like it here once you adjust the flight. Not great, but no, it is great to be here

It's it is I love Australia. So we got a really fun show. We're excited for you guys to check it out There's something I want to show the group that Kevin and Gareth haven't seen that there was a photo that was posted online that I Just want an explanation and so I'm gonna send this to you Kevin and I'd like a reaction of Who who do you see an explanation from? Well, I would like your take and I guess I'd like an explanation from Kevin Okay, so this is your take this was posted by his new wife Okay, we're looking at a photo of me smiling no,, I've never seen that smile. It is.

This is wild. Angelic, this doesn't look like Kevin. I wish I could say this was the first attempt. And I hate to say, I feel like a lot of people can relate, this was the best option. I think you suffer from what I suffer from, but this is amazing, is that you can't look normal when you smile.

I don't know how to smile. What would you call this smile in your repertoire of smiles? I would call this- Because I have a pitch. I have a pitch too. I call it 3% teeth. Yes. Okay.

I have two. What do you have Garf? I've got, um, leaving the cult or fresh lobotomy. Yeah. I'm going to go with the second one. I've got robot boy who is told by his new wife. And by the way, she looked great in the photo. Yeah. She said, yes, she's whispering to me how to smile.

Yeah, she said... She's being very supportive through this tough moment. This is when you smile, Kevin. Little more normal. Little more normal. So was this posted on... But like, look at you right now talking, Kevin. You look so normal in real life.

Like, the reason I love this photo is, whoever this guy in the photo is, I've never met him. No. Yeah. I work with you a lot. I don't know this person. If I met him on a subway, I'd be afraid of him. You, I know. I like you.

You're a nice looking guy. You got a great smile right now. Who is this guy in the photo, man? This is like an accountant in Joliet that's like, I can give you a ride home. It's like, I don't really know you. It's just truly good stuff. It's like I don't really know you. It's just Truly good stuff. It's really great. We have a great show. Thank you for sticking with us. Yeah without keep you smiling we've been talking into the mic for three minutes and you know, I just heard it.

All right. Collars. Fuck. It sounded so good. I'm listening to Greg Brown. Oh, my God. Oh, so good. Collar, can you hear us? Yeah, I can hear you. Hi. Welcome to We're Here to Help America's number one podcast.

You're on with Jake and Gareth. Before we learn who you are, Jake, can you do the audio test you just did on yourself, please? It is. Hey, baby, hey, baby, hey. Greg Brown, everybody. It was. It sounded so good in the ear.

It was great in my ear, too. Hey, babe, what's your name, age, where you calling from? Did you say hey, babe? No. You're here, you're ever since your hey, baby, you're just hearing other people. That's you. You're the baby, sir If I call you babe today, please don't take offense. Yeah, I won't I won't thank you. What's your name babe? And what's your age babe? John 31 from Tulsa Johnny 31 Tulsa, babe

All right, babe. So what's what's going on with you? What can we help you with that? So about two weeks ago, I got into work on a Wednesday morning and just felt like I didn't want to be there. I tell me about it. Relatable so far. I told my boss there's a family emergency and that I had to go home. And I proceeded to take the next three days off for said family emergency. This is bold, Johnny. This was just on a whim too? You just felt you hated work, especially this day? Yeah, yeah.

Nothing in particular happened. Johnny, let me just ask, as a man who battles it myself, is depression a thing? You know, it probably, it could have been a little bit of that. Sure. Just a random Wednesday going, I gotta get outta out of here for three days is mostly not. Yeah, I didn't feel like what a feeling, though.

Yeah, I believe what a feeling to walk out those. Hey, babe, I got it every day of my life. Oh, boy. OK. All right, John, I got to get out of here. I know it's so true. I think 80 percent of humans just be a forest. Yeah, because it's just, it is. 20% of people are healthy and fine, and the rest of us are going like this.

See, there is somebody doing better. I gotta get, yes. I gotta get out of here. All right, babe, so you leave work, you take three days off, where are we at? So next week I'm in a meeting with my boss, just a regular one-on-one and she kind of asked How everything was going with the family matter? Hey, hold on. Hey, babe What did you say what the emergency was or just that you had an emergency? I did not I did not at that time

Okay Well, it was smart until She asks He just asked if everything is okay. And for whatever reason, I felt like I needed to justify the three days off. So I told her that my grandmother died. Wow, okay.

Quick, let's give, hey babe, let's give your boss a name. Jim? Jim? You said she and her name is Jim? I'm trying to come up with a fake name on this spot. I got you. Sarah. Hey, hey man. All right babe, that's fine. Hey, Johnny fake name on this spot. I got you. Sarah. Hey, hey man.

All right, babe. That's fine. Hey, Johnny, take three days off. Yeah, John. You need a break. You're over-exerted. So we're gonna say Sarah, yeah? Sarah, the female boss.

All right. Meeting one-on-one, you say, she was how is the emergency? You go, ah, it's very sad my grandmother died. Yeah. Did you give specifics of the story? If so, can we hear them? Yeah, I just said that my grandma had passed and then she told me like the company's bereavement

policy to take off for the funeral, everything like that. Okay. So you got a little bit more time. Yeah. Was this, yeah, were you getting more time? No. So this is where I did give a little bit of detail because I felt a little bad. Okay.

So I just said that she was cremated and we were just kind of doing a get together over the weekend. It wasn't going to be like an actual funeral because she wanted to, they wanted to send flowers and stuff. So I kind of needed to make an excuse. So I just said, we're doing a get together. We're not doing a funeral. By the way, babe, quick thinking. Yeah. Also interesting though. It's okay. All right. Keep going. So you're not, you're not a guy who pushes it. Yeah. He interesting, though. It's OK. All right. Keep going. So you're not a guy who pushes it. Yeah, he's playing it.

I know what Garf would have done. Oh, yeah. The funeral's in Thailand. She she wanted she always identified with Thailand. And so we just are all going to go out there. But it's such a beast of a trip. It's and I don't I don't think I should go. We have all these meetings coming up. But she wanted me to go on a boat with no cell phone reception for a month.

She always feared flying, so we're doing it the old fashioned way. I knew she would have wanted it. Okay sir, you're fired. You're 100% fired. You can't do that. Grandma, no, no. So Johnny, back to you. So you're pretty smooth. You go cremation, no big deal. What does Sarah say?

Yeah. She says, she says, okay, just let me know if there's anything else that you need. Respect. Like her as a boss. Nothing else. Like her as a boss. She's taking a lot well. Yep. And then, so the next day I'm at home and I get a giant flower delivery to my front door. Sorry for your loss, like from the company. Great.

Getting to work the next day, card on my desk signed by everybody in the office. Oy, oy, oy. This is getting bad. Yeah. This is getting bad, babe. Yep. It's a lot. Yeah. They're too nice. Yeah.

It's backfiring. I guess that's where my questions come in is because they were so nice and accommodating about it, I do feel bad for the lie. In my specific role, it's a lot of one-on-one time with just my boss. I'm the only person underneath her going to events. So there's a lot of small talk and things like that. And I'm worried about now slipping up in this life in the future. What if my, when my grandmother actually dies, what do I say? Well, first of all, you're not going to the funeral.

You're going to find out at noon at one o'clock. You're in a meeting. Yeah. And you're going to be sitting there going to be like, why are you crying? You'll be like, it's the means. Saw a sad movie. Yeah. I'm not a grandma dying today who I really like thinking about my grandma from four years ago. Yeah. So I get it.

So the specific question is, what do you do now? Yeah, I guess the question would be, do I tell them and if so, how, or do I just try and live in this life? No, you've baked this cake already, so that part's over. I agree. Let me ask you a question. Everyone gets two.

Now, are both of your grandmas alive? In reality, yes. Okay, that's tough. And then how long have you been working at this company and do you feel like you're gonna work there for a while? Is this kind of where you wanna be? Yeah, I've been here about three years and I feel like I'm gonna stick around for a while.

Okay. Or I hope to. All right, babe. So the Garf said something right on this one. You've already baked this cake. So you gotta think of your old life as the ingredients to a cake. You got flour, you got eggs, you got milk, you got sugar.

They're gone now. You now have a full blown cake in your house. The old you who has two living grandmas does not exist at work, period. There's no going back. If you go back, you're your dead grandma because that's over. The company will not go.

Oh yeah. I totally get it. Now that you said it the way you said it, you just decided on a Wednesday to bail and we sent you flowers, you are a dead man. You certainly cannot come clean about this. I mean, the truth is that if you were to have drawn this up ahead of time,

you probably would have wanted to go with something less severe. Although, if you're going to draw it up, and I'm not saying it's morally sound, you did play it well. Well, you did for On the Fly. And by the way, you got your three days off. Okay. But I got a pitch. Okay, I got a pitch too. Go ahead. You want to go first?

No, no, you go. It's not a great second half. It's a pitch. Okay. I got a pitch to go ahead. You want to go for it? No, no, you go. It's not a great second half. It's a start. Okay. I call it the give back. Cause I think the reason you're calling in here, honey, is this is getting is yes, this is happening, but you're feeling guilty. Am I wrong or am I right?

Yeah, no, that's definitely, I think that's definitely what it is. Cause I'll tell you what's not going to come up in conversation in eight months, you're dead grandma. Probably not. I got to tell you, I don't think I've ever casually talked about my grandparents. Truth. I've never been at work and talked about it. Now, if you say, yeah, we're going to go visit my grandma, the person's going to assume it's

the one that's alive. And in three months, they're not going to think about it. So what I'm thinking, and if I'm off track here, then pull me back in, but you seem like a nice guy, babe. You feel like you didn't want them to feel bad. You just wanted to get out of work. You didn't want the flowers, you didn't want the card, you didn't want the human empathy.

So what we gotta do now is pay it back. Yeah, there's a karmic sense in here. There's a karmic sense in here, and that is I would maybe have like a food truck for everybody and say like, thanks for everybody here for being so cool. Love being here. Love this community. Happy Friday. I think something like that is pretty good.

If you order pizzas for lunch one day talk to your boss say the Outpouring was so nice that you want to buy pizzas for everybody on Friday as well as I don't want to heighten it anymore I don't need to talk about it anymore. Yeah, I just want to even do something anonymous Yeah, that's true, too They're gonna go that's true man. This must have really I actually like that better I like that if you say to her, everyone was so sweet, but you don't want to keep talking about this.

But Friday, would it be cool if you let everyone know Friday there's going to be pizza in the break room and you got them a bunch of pizza? Hey, babe, what do you think about an anonymous give back? When we say that to you, how does that make you feel? You need three days off from this call? No, I think it would definitely have to be anonymous My concern is just bringing more attention to it in general with my boss with trying to plan Okay, so I have an idea go

Anonymous anonymous. Yeah, that's the boss doesn't even know just show them. There's just a day that There's a box of donuts in the break room There's the next week that there's a box of donuts in the break room. There's the next week, there's a whole catered bagel thing. Well, I think that we're, let me tell you a story from the show as to why I think that will work. It'd be really funny if all of a sudden in the episode it just cut to the next piece of advice.

If you hear, let me tell you a story and then you hear, I got other advice and the audience went. It's back to you like, or another option. And then on video you see like, we're both way more tired. It's different. There's like three empty cans. There's like smoke in the room. Smoke's clearing still.

Whatever it was, Garrett told a lot of them. My mic is pushed far away. The guy, Johnny, at the end of it goes, all right guys, that wasn't helpful and I do have to go. Yeah, he's gotta go. I do have to go. Yeah, he's got to go. I do have to go, though. All right. The story. So we have a sponsor and how doer and Jake is going to Jake basically picked out the outfit for me. Yeah. And and so these clothes showed up at my house. Yes.

And I didn't as I took the clothes, I started wearing them. I didn't realize I wasn't sure if it was a spot. I just didn't ask any questions. Clothes just showed up to his house and he wore them. And I was happy that they were there. So I didn't source it. I didn't trace it. I didn't ask any questions. I was like, it could be the wrong person. I'm just happy to have the clothes. I didn't bring it up again. So I think the point there is that if pizza show up. Hold on. Then he wears it to work one day and I compliment his clothes and I go, this is your look. You look great. He doesn't say these random clothes show up. He goes, thank you man. Thank you. Yeah. No, I'm finding myself. I'm finding my footing over here. Then a couple of weeks later when it's time for the commercial. We don't need to keep getting. And I say to Kevin, hey Kevin,

the clothes that were sent to Gareth, I thought they were sent here to the studio, and I go, we need them for today's ad, and he goes, I don't know. Gareth is silent the entire time. Well, there's palpable tension, so I thought it's not a good time for me to jump in with my part of, uh-oh.

Then later, after Kevin and I are smoothing it out, and we go, all right, I guess we'll just ask them to send some clothes, Gareth goes, I will say about a month ago, some random clothes were sent to me that you complimented and said looked really good. The point is, Johnny, the point is not that- What a great story. I'm a grown man.

The point is, if anonymous bagels or donuts or pizza show up, nobody's gonna be like, where did these come from? But he will be like, oh, it's great. That's right, Gar. But you energetically will feel you righted or wrong. Are we anywhere near a solution you like, babe? I definitely, I definitely think so. I think the, the more we've been talking, I've realized it is more of a conscience guilt issue and that there's probably not a tangible solution to it. So I think, I think I like this. Just to talk this out with you because you're with us, right?

Yeah. Tangible solution. And this is not a road I'm necessarily pitching that I think is right, but just to talk it out would be this Garf you're Sarah Johnny I'm gonna be you okay Okay, a meeting word. We're in a meeting, okay Yeah, so I feel like if we can get that done by next Thursday. We'll be in good shape shape sheep What's going on with me? I think that's absolutely correct. I went out last night

Yeah, and I'm gonna be very doable by Thursday. Okay great. Okay, so let's correct. I went out last night. Yeah, and I'd be very doable by Thursday Okay, great. Okay, so let's just one last thing. Oh, yeah. Yeah, we go ahead the outpouring That I received from this company and you specifically was very kind Well, we are just so sad and my grandma didn't die. Yeah, so what do you mean? She's she's totally alive Then why did you take the wanted theed the days off, hustled you, lied to you. Sorry, your grandma is alive and fine and you completely made all of that up? I did and I feel bad and I don't wanna lose my job.

So Thursday I'll have to- No, hold on because everybody, let me just be very clear. You put everyone through your emotions. And I appreciate the kindness. You shouldn't appreciate anything. There's nothing to appreciate because they're definitely revoked now.

Right. But on Thursday. The fact that you were able to play this off for the amount of time that you did. Scary. No part of you thought you should come clean when you got the card and the flowers. That's what I'm doing right now.

Yeah, but it's way beyond time for something like that. But Thursday I'll have the deadline. So Thursday's not a matter of your concern at this point. Honestly, what is a matter of your concern? You know what, here's the good news. You're getting another day off. I don't think you should be here today and we kinda need to figure out

where we wanna go with this, cause this is just sort of- My grandma died. You see what we're saying here, baby? Yeah. You just kinda see the death trap you're entering. Yeah, I hated that. Yeah, but that's what you would be looking down the barrel of.

Now, I got a couple little things to leave you with just in case. The truth is, you do have two grandmas. They are not immortal. And if you're saying you want to be at this company for a long stretch of time, you know, life is life. At some point, you might have to take time off for the passing of both of your grandmas if you're for another 15 years, right? Sarah might be your boss still yeah, she's gonna be like wait a minute. I'm doing some grandma math Yeah, and then a lot of so you might you might

Want to in the next year? Pepper a little foundation for the future where you talk about how your grandpa Remarry, you got a step-grandma fucking wrote it. Yes Yes, right. Yes, but no, you're right. So if you want a way out Whenever somebody says something but here's the problem with that Gareth And I say this to you too Johnny if somebody goes like hey have you been okay since your grandma died you go step-grandma Oh, I don't think we say this one's a step-grandma Oh the next one I think we lay the foundation that this family is a little more complicated than maybe everybody knows

Oh, yeah, there's a step-grandma. So when the real one goes We can get the day off. We have to worry about this when the second one. Yes So the next one that dies is grandma. grandma yep the next one after that that dies You're equally sad you need time off you need two days step grandma. Yeah step grandma So what do you think of right now the anonymous give back and the future or good this one who just passed yeah? your grandpa remarries Next year you can't be sad about you met somebody when they were 80 years old and they died at 82 Just options options, but

Couldn't this solution just be I've always had a step-grandma. Yes. Yes. That's exactly right Yep, Gareth had it and then he blew it and now we're back. Hey blow anything Then he blew it and now we're back and blow anything Reds here to get you to the best place babe Yes, it is you've always had a step grandmother and you've viewed them all as your grandma's Yes You didn't meet her it when she was 79 and loser at 80 and now you need three days off of work because then all right Yeah, okay, all right, babe, I'm good Simon, you're out of here. Yeah, okay.

All right, babe. I'm very nice, but you brought out the Mo. You're Moing. You are Moing. It's you. Mo always thinks it's the other person. Babe, what do you think of this idea that we go in with the anonymous give back

and if you do the anonymous give back, what do you think you're gonna do? I think I'm gonna do that. I think I'm gonna just order in some pizzas for lunch one day. I like it. I'm just on my own. Yep. And then you could write a note that says like thanks for being such great

Co-workers. Yeah, good. Maybe you want to wait a couple weeks until you're further away from this But yeah, I think something but also even if somebody goes like hey man, did you send that pizza? You could say yeah I did and I'll tell you why they go that's sweet. You go like, you know, it's just a great group of people here Yeah, I think I mean look we're just looking for a karmic Etch-a-Sketch I'll tell you why. And they go, Oh, that's sweet. And you go like, you know, it's just a great group of people here. Yeah. I think I mean, look, we're just looking for a karmic etch a sketch. So I think that gets you that. And I'll tell you what, babe, you'll know when to stop sending those pizzas. You'll feel it. What do you mean? Are you saying he's sending pizzas every couple of weeks for a while?

Until you feel no, we can't be that is clear. No, because I would worry that then people like a guy who did. Right. I'm different now. Yeah. Oh, God, I didn't be dead is clear. No, cuz I I would worry that then people like I who did right? I'm different now. Yeah. Oh god. I didn't know he did that. We'll probably sell that at some point Oh my god, so I'm now a guy and are you changed listen to me. I was only moe once We just started shut up. Oh my god. Oh god. It doesn't work But here's what I mean by it you can do it once but if you're not done, then don't be done Okay, you can keep finding ways to to purge yourself of the guilt if you like, but you know, look it's over you did it I mean in life there are times where you make decisions that are fine. Well, it's not it cuts to

I'm not here anymore. Three drinks. I'm not here. Hannah. Simone is I'm not here anymore. Three drinks. I'm not here. Hannah Simone is here. You're like frazzled. It comes back. I'm a little rattled. So wait, okay, let's talk of Sometimes this happens and you just you know, let it go What matters is that you will learn that hey, you know what you didn't fucking make the best decision in the moment You needed three days off shit happens. You did it. Don't beat yourself up. Don't reiki yourself over the calls. We'll be right back. But, uh, title. So, Johnny, uh, not title.

Maybe. Uh, Johnny, question to you, babe. What are you gonna do? Walk us through the whole thing. The floor is yours. We're gonna try not to interrupt. Yeah, I think probably at some point next week, I like the idea of just ordering some pizza into the office for lunch, maybe leaving, leaving a little note next to it saying thank

you, but keeping it vague enough that it can't relate directly back to me. Respect. Yeah, do a parenthetical, not about a grandma. Yeah. And then just keep doing good deeds, I suppose, until like Jake said I just feel better. Yeah, I like this, okay. And then what's gonna happen when real grandma dies? Well, the next one, like we said, we're still good there.

Okay, and then what happens when grandma dose passes? What if it's fast? What if it's like dominoes, one knocks over the other? Oh man, if they go at once. That's what I'm saying. Let's just talk it out. No, no. Well, if if they go at once. That's what I'm saying. Let's just talk it out. No, no. Well, if they both go at once, that's still...

That's actually great. Then it's just grandma. That's great. Yeah. So I guess you need to figure out a way... Oh, go ahead. Oh, I was going to say, that's just the ideal situation. No, it isn't.

What? Wow, we really got you to a dark spot. It is it. Johnny, you're going to be sending yourself pizzas for that so So I think we have a good solution. It's a wild one, but I think the anonymous give-back has got to help you I think when Unfortunately, your grandma passes you deal with the second one and then when the third one does you deal with the pain? But you understand you're not gonna get the full break and you might have to lean into step.

Are we on agreement here as a team on that one? Yes. All right. Babe, thank you for the call. Thanks, babe. Thank you. This episode is brought to you by the wonder a podcast, the big flop. I love this podcast.

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Question saying that the kid of a video rather the kids next door have gotten a trampoline and can she still get naked? In her backyard. Oh my god. I didn't expect this is insane I feel like you just see through a pool of words search on YouTube. Yeah, so say that again They get better so her polled gives four four options, right? So A, it's like, yes girl, it's your yard, get naked. B, can't get naked. B, can't get naked because hashtag kids. B, talk to the parents, which is us. Or D, build a higher fence.

So you got a trampoline in your backyard. So the kids are not jumping. Higher than, they're higher than before. There used to be a fence there You saw how did you see your neighbors post? I? She's an influencer of some sort of like low Okay, so you follow her on social media. I don't follow her I lurk Respect. Okay, good work. Yeah, okay, so So you know of her on it. She went like,

Hey y'all, I don't know what to do. My neighbor's got a trampoline. Can I still be nude? And then there was like some song on there in the background. And then she said like, pole time. Mm-hmm. Uh, A, do I keep getting naked? Screw it. I'm cray. Two, stop getting naked.

Three, higher fence. Four, talk to the family. Exactly. Now, let me do a little background on her because she's in this influencing of like magic mushrooms, praying to crystals, like menstrual blood facials. It's like very- What was the third one? The third one is where I got lost for sure.

So menstrual what? Facials. Is that a real thing? Apparently. I didn't know either. I don't know. I'm real thing? Apparently. I didn't know either. I don't know. I'm from California originally, but I didn't know I was out here.

But she has giant paintings that you can see from our yard or into their front room of giant open vats. I'll tell you, we've all really taken menstrual facials real easy and moved on from it. Because I'm still hanging, I mean I've, well I'm not gonna say it, but we've all had the incident and it's not something you're like, keep that on the face for as long as possible.

Boy, my skin. We've all had the incident? You know, you've gone down there at the wrong time. You need to call in this show, because you're disgusting, you're an animal. We all are. You assume we all, our 45 year old guys in Duke sweatshirts hanging around us. I'm on 6th street. We're like we've all run around. Hey ladies let me tell you. With men still all over our face. I don't

mind if the road's shut down I'll drive along it. You are a wild animal. Listen I've been a comedian on the road for a long time. I'm sure this happened before you started your Instagram. Absolutely. Now, Lorelai, so this is wild what's going on next door. It's also wild. Well, I'm right here. Everything is wild. Lauren, you and I are together. Gareth and your neighbor should get married. Well, the mushrooms I love. Yeah. I love the mushroom part. So, let's get back to this thing. So, that's a lot. Inside her house, she's got big poster, big paintings of vaginas. Open vag. Open vag. Don't do this, Gary. I'm explaining to those of us who are

listening on YouTube. What is it, an elephant's vagina? In your example, how big is this woman? Are you that big and she's a giant? I like to do the Moses. You know what it is when you go down already You know how it is. It's like opening an elevator door and speed so Laura Laura Lee Let's get back to you. Yes. Thank you got a trampoline The kids are jumping the neighbor lady said do I keep getting naked the neighbor lady is a wild woman Yes, yes influence. Keep going Okay, so our my husband I were like do we? Wait till the kids my daughters are nine and five do we wait till they see?

Naked lady or do we are we knocking on her door and saying? Something you can't say anything. Oh, she's allowed to do what she wants in her property. And you go out yourself as a lurker. Also, if somebody said to me, if someone came to me and said like, hi, I was climbing up in a tree and I looked in your window and I don't like your artwork. I'm going like, so what? Get out of here. Do you think she is she just straight up?

What is she just straight up being like kind of hippie in the yard naked? Or are we thinking there's like weirder shit than that happy you got the synopsis of her influencing that's what her public life i mean i think i don't know there's mushrooms involved so mushrooms here's the first thought can you move the trampoline someplace else in your yard no the trampoline is moved as far away from their side as we could put it. Can you spend a little bit of money, not a lot about a money, a little bit of money and get some hedges? I think that's where we're leaning. Now here's what you can do in the meantime. So if you plant hedges you can go three feet, if you want to spend less you go six feet, you want to spend a little

more, you go 12 feet, you want to spend a lot., I get you a bundle deal. I can take let let her do it on her in the meantime what I think you should do is there's a Sports type net I was we have one, you know, you just put it if my kids are playing ball in the backyard I went on Amazon for a couple hundred bucks got a a huge net. But they make those for trampoline. Yes. No, but I wouldn't, so I would also put a net over the fence blocking vagina pictures. If she asks about it,

you just don't want things flying into their yard. Like menstrual blood. But I would consider putting something up to start blocking, and eventually those privates are going to, they're going to solve the problem for you, but you got to wait till it grows in. So two poles, cheap netting, nice and dark and black, throw it up. If she brings it up, you say like, just my kids are getting wild with the trampoline.

They're playing catch in there. We just want to keep everything in this yard in this yard. No bad feelings. No bad blood. Yeah. Lots of bad blood, to be fair. What do you think of that? I like it. I like it. All right. It's clear that a bushel solve this. I like that. I like that a lot, too.

I'm with you, Kevin. I like that, too. Screw you, Kevin. Fuck you, Jake. I like that, too. What. I'm with you, Kevin. I like that, too. Screw you, Kevin. Fuck you, Jake. I like that, too. What I would do, you could also do you have a net up on your trampoline now? Yes. Yeah, we got the net. I think I think post our childhood, they all do. Yeah, it's crazy that we did it.

Illegal. America's home. I think it is illegal. It used to not be, but now everybody broken arm on a trampoline. We were growing up. Yeah, no, it was right. It was the same above ground pool, too. We had the above ground pool, no, it was right. It was above ground pool too. We had the above ground pool with no deck and it was just like one out of 10 jumps.

Someone almost dies. I would say if you can maybe find, maybe you wanna double mesh that net, that kind of gives you a little bit of the pixelation vibe. But I think Jake's right. I think like why not just go with something like that, hedge it out a little bit. It's really weird

But my guess is also Because she's an influencer. She's up She's making more of a meal out of it than she it's not like she's roaming the garden naked as My I think she's trying right, you know, she's just doing it for that shit So but I think just to hedge your bets we'll be right back uh get get some hedges what do you think Laura what are you gonna do what do you want to do here I mean I don't want to talk to her you don't so I don't want to talk about this yeah I don't want you should

wouldn't recommend the yeah no okay okay And I mean, I don't, my five year old's just gonna yell like, naked woman, naked lady, it's gonna be, you know, it's gonna be kind of disastrous if they see her. Have you ever seen this woman naked? Basically, because at the community pool, she wore a string-thong bikini. Jesus Christ. Interesting. With like hundreds of kids in the pool. Oh, so she's wild.

We do house calls too. Maybe I can head over there and we can take some mushrooms. I can talk to her a little. You know what I mean? This is where we lose Gareth to a ponytail. He's going to literally come back with a ponytail and overalls and be like, I did three shows at the Comedy Mothership and now I'm in love with this influencer. Sixth Street is magic again, brother.

Dude, it is a lot. I'm back. Eric Edelstein will go, the music's incredible. Eric at the phone. Man, it really is weird. So this is the kind of, and what is this woman? We'll block it out, but what's her Instagram handle? Yeah, just so we can be clear.

No. We're going to block it out, but this is just for us. Oh, you are going to block out? Yeah, yeah. Kevin, will you put it up on the screen so we can get a look. Yeah, she sent it. OK, we just before we know, we'll get blocked. What we're dealing with. They get a little a little taste of what you're dealing with.

Yeah. So this is the kind of woman who wore a string bikini to a kid's public pool, which again, I don't think necessarily. I don't think necessarily says that, you know, it's weird. It's weird. But I also think I think for like those influencer people, they do that shit to just like, you know, bring people to be like, oh, definitely be naked. Don't let it stop you. The body's beautiful. Yeah. But I mean, oh, it's a lot of. Yeah, it's a lot of so many followers.

Let's see if it's a real influencer. OK, so I hear what this is now more. Keep going. Let's see. Let's see. This is OK. Yeah. Oh, we're seeing the backyard, the fence. So that's a low fence. Yeah, there's some elevation. So where, you know, you can see.

OK. And then she's got stuff to like to lift your mood. I think my anxiety. I'm going to say the good news is I don't think she's in the yard naked No as much as although she might be saying and I'm gonna say I will say she's different than I expected She has more of like a mother earth. Yeah rather than like a in-your-face annoying influencer. Okay, well rather than like a in your face, annoying influencer. Okay. Well, we're still team war, like though, I mean, right? Like it is a prime one on the other side a little bit.

I'm going on the other side, but I'm not going to lie and seeing it. Okay. Okay. And here's where I'm at. So what she's saying is she is a woman who is into the feet, her, her things about like feminine power, her body is, her body, her choice. She loves nature. She's down in Texas, the New California.

So all those people who talk shit about California and move there just so you guys know, you guys are the New California. You're talking shit about yourselves. You're looking in the mirror. You guys are the New California. You guys are a joke. So be really proud, but literally all the worst

of LA's live there. Half the reality stars are now down there. Every kid actor from some show that was terrible is now down there and having like a little fort and being like, dude, I love it. They're all taking mushrooms. They think they're getting deep. They're all like, dude, I used to pay taxes and now I literally have a gun. You're like, you're such a loser.

And in three years, you're going to turn back. You guys know it. You're just chasing some other idea. Okay, and then you... I'm lost. Okay. But so here's my point. She seems like the kind...

She's different than I thought. I thought it was gonna be one of these really annoying, in-your-face, young influencers who's just about attention, attention, attention. This woman feels like she's taking a more holistic approach to everything meaning She does not want to offend especially little kids She does not want your kids so her question is more like fuck I used to love eating mushrooms and letting the Sun Vitamin D go on my vagina

Right, can we highlight that clip? on my vagina. Right? Can we highlight that clip? And now I can't. Just use that present. Now I can't be laying there, tripping my ass off with my legs spread to mother-son because I don't want a little five-year-old going like, mommy, watch me do, oh my God. So you're kind of the bad guy in her like wonderful trip.

So I would say going back to that netting, you might be doing both of you a favor that she could say, like, thank you for the privacy screen. Yeah. This goes back to when we had the guy who stretches naked in front of his wife. Who's the good guy? Who's the bad guy?

You never know. But what I will say is a privacy screen goes a long way. I agree. I think that's the easiest solution. And I also I just don't think it's I think she's more hemming and hawing just because people are going to be like, oh, you do you. But you don't want to find out. So I would just go that route.

Play it safe. Privacy screen anyway you can. Yeah, got the finances and you can do a bigger fence. Do it. You can also build it yourself. Yeah. If you can't build a wall, you've got the finances and you can do a bigger fence, do it. You can also build it yourself. If you can't. Build a wall, you're in Texas. Build a wall, you're in Texas.

But really more than anything, privacy screen. Yep. I like it, I appreciate the help. I needed some direction. Well I'll tell you why, I'll tell you why. Because of course we're on your side, you're the caller until she calls in. If she calls in, I'm 100% with you. I'm 100% against Laura

Rip the screen down. Here's what I will say. Let's see this from her point of view She just ate mushrooms. She's tripping balls. She's got 6,000 people who follow her Internationally, she just made a wonderful cup of mushroom coffee She goes outside. She just wants the sun to cook her body and she wants that vitamin D going into her pores. She is just tripping out and now she's got to hear, that's the sounds of kids jumping on a trampoline. Then she sees the little heads popping up and she's thinking, block it out. Just listen to your headphones. Then she hears, hey, hey, hey.

Then she thinks. The naked lady. Yes, and then they laugh. She's spreading her whole. Yes. She's opening the curtains of the elephant door and now you're just kind of. No.

No. You're just kind of. I've ruined her life. You're ruining her life. You're ruining her life You're the cop Let me guess what Laura. Where did you live before Texas? I know You went she was a wonderful keep Austin weird She's the real deal and you went down there because taxis did

crazy and now your kids are jumping over the fence and staring at her beautiful body. You're rude Texas. Jake's, no, please don't, please don't. I'm just the Moe of three stooges. We just discovered. But he's right. I mean, I really, just do that. Privacy screen. That's gonna solve your problem real easy. Yes, and if you ever have like a back and forth with her, I would lead out with an apology.

Interesting. Okay. Even if you don't believe it, here's why. You go like, sorry, I got these crazy kids. Their kids are loud and now they're, I literally gave them a spring to bounce over your fence. So they're now springing up into your privacy. God, I'm telling you, as far as like a mushroom taker goes, you really have made quite an environment now.

Just like, man, I was just trying to eat an apple in my yard naked. It's like, ma! And then up, and then you hear the, because we have a trampoline in our backyard, you hear the rubber go down, all the springs, springs go up, and kids, they can't help but scream on a trampoline. Yes, right. Right. Yeah, it's impossible.

Okay. So I think this is a 50 50 deal. She's not saying on her post, how do I get these annoying kids to stop jumping? She's just saying, do I have to wear underpants now? And the answer to you, your influencer is no, you don't. Quick, quick question, Lord. Did she post that on her stories? She did. Yeah.

If if you learn again, if you look again and see something like that, you might want to go nuclear and just follow her and see what happens Yeah, by the way danger news she can see that you look at the story. It's true, too I know. Yeah, I don't want to I don't want to give up my working, you know Well, I might want to create a listen. We're open. We're opening a new elephant curtain. Yeah Laura let us keep us posted on how this goes Okay, and we appreciate the yeah Yeah, uh, uh, Laura, let us, uh, keep us posted on how this goes. Okay. And we appreciate the, yeah, we appreciate you.

For the rest of you Californians going down to Texas, keep ruining Texas. Oh yeah. It's got better here. Laura, come back. We miss you. Hey, California, everything is bigger. Jump, jump back over here. Everything is like your problem.

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Hi there. Welcome back. Hi. Welcome back to We're Here to Help. America's obviously we all know, no more podcast. Don't look it up. Um, we don't know who you are, but we know we're a, you're a follow-up call. So do you want to tell us who you are and what's going on? Of course. It's Lorelai from Austin with the naked neighbor.

Yes. Oh, the one with the trampoline. Yes. You guys have a trampoline, the kids jump over. She has an Instagram. She likes to get sun on her vagina. Is that correct? We all do. I mean, in a nutshell, that's exactly what's happening. Right.

The floor is yours. Well, the update's not great. Um, before you start, what was our advice to you? Just so I remember clearly, what did we tell you to do? Well, okay, well, what you, at the end of it, the crux of it was that Harris was going to like shack up with her and they were going to live a long, happy life and I should tell my kids to shut up. What was the advice before that?

That feels like last second bad advice. There must have been something about like privates or putting a fence up. I think we said put up some privacy barriers. Yeah, like a screen. Yeah, I think at the end, Garrett said he was going to marry her. Yeah, and that happens. Yeah. 80% of the call is done with that. Agreed. Yes, it was like a mess or something. So to put some privacy, of course, growing trees takes a long time.

So, yeah, I think that's a good point. Yes, it was like a mess or something So to put some privacy, of course growing trees takes a long time so not a lot happened we moved the trampoline about 10 feet closer to the house and We've not had any naked sightings. Great. We have been playing. Yeah. So that's good. But summer's around the corner. So I feel like it's coming. We do play, my husband's a big fan of the national. So we play the national really loud because I feel like that keeps the vibe where we want it, maybe the keeps it kind of quiet.

Um, but then she also kind of, I don't know if it was in response to but she was singing Alanis Morris that uninvited Like a pointed it's a very solid song It's very it's very pointed, right? So So I don't know where I think we're gonna run into into them. And I just don't know what to, how it's going to go. Ooh. So it's a little sideways at the moment. It's a little, it feels like some things.

Yeah. It feels like some things on the horizon. Cause we have a pool, there's a neighborhood pool and they like to go there. I think I told you that she wears not a lot of clothes to the pool. Yes. Yeah. That's my wife. So let's all relax a little bit. Um, it might not be a bad idea to like

This might be a stupid thing. It sounds like there's tension or maybe not tension. We're not sure there's not much There's either going on paranoia or tension. Yeah So what if you just did something where you just like brought something over to her? I'm just like a weird kind of like whatever just nothing like major But just be like hey, I made a bunch of this here Do you want some and you know what I would do I would give it to all your neighbors? I would go like you know make a hundred cookies and give each neighbor ten yeah okay, so you're not just doing it to her, but just like as a

Happy summer Yeah Yeah, something like that. Yeah, Yeah, something like that. Yeah, yeah. I like that. I like that. We have a neighbor that actually So that would be... There you go. Perfect. Just to squash it a little bit and then

you know, cause then we gotta see what's gonna happen with the nudity. Yeah. And if I'm over there, there's gonna be a lot of it. And mail too. A lot of mail. to a lot of mail. Not a lot of mail. I've seen you naked. Well, not recently. Things are worse. So things don't grow besides stomachs.

Stomachs, the only thing. Stomachs, the only thing that can get big now. Did I get so hard these days? All right. Well, listen, we appreciate the follow up on this one, but I think let's just try to passive aggressive song seems a little worrisome. So let's do potentially maybe do 10 cookies each. Welcome the new neighbor, say something sweet. And if she's getting naked and getting weird, then maybe we can pitch again. But I do think it's gonna be the privacy screen

Yeah, I agree. Okay guys. Thank you for the follow-up. We appreciate you. All right, Laura. Good luck. I'll see you this summer Hey everyone producer Kevin here this next follow-up is from episode 15. It's called Dougie McBuckets. It's from October 5th, 2023, and it is the second call in the episode. So if you'd like to listen as a quick refresher, that's where you can do it. Enjoy. Hello. Hey, Kevin, you want to intro this one? Yeah, go for it, Kev.

Let's see what you can do. Why don't you try to host for a minute, Kev? Okay, here I go. That's terrible. Hey, caller, this is a follow-up. We don't know who you are or why you're calling, but can you remind the guys? Nice. Yeah, yeah, I'll try to make this one really fun and light. I'm Corinne. I am the 27 now 28 year old who had emphasis on had

rectal cancer. Oh, yes. We're trying to... Yeah. Corinne, it's in the past. It is in this past. And I don't want to say you guys cured it, but I. You guys have a positive testimony. We're here to help cure cancer. You said it. We didn't say it. You said it. Well, first of all, walk us through where you're at. So when you say it's in the past, you're out of the woods.

I am. I am. I had a tumor resection in November wait and Thank you. So now I will just be scanned on that three to six months basis and just Return return to normal life. So now that we are out of the woods with cancer Which we are very happy about you're part of our group. So we are glad. Now let's get to the important stuff. How's the sex life?

Yeah. Cause you didn't call in saying, no, help me cure. Care. Her. Yeah. We, we, you said, how do I get back into the sexual swing of this with this? And we said, I don't think guys care. Yep.

We were pretty clear. Yeah. And I was like, we also said, I don't think guys care. Yep, we were pretty clear. Yeah. And I was like, we also said, I don't think you need to tell anybody, just I don't think a guy's gonna be like, wait a second, we had a wild 69 and I found out after you're battling cancer.

You lied to me. Yeah, no, they were like, I take back that 13 minutes. So what is, what's going on now, Corinne? Well, unfortunately, I still haven't gotten laid. It's all right. I'm working on it. I'm working on it. So nothing happened with the men. What's going on there? This doesn't make sense. No. Okay. But I but I did put myself out there, which I was proud of, because I feel like when when your own morality comes in to play,

nothing really matters anymore. So I think that has helped a lot with dating because there's no stakes. It's like, who cares? It's like if you put yourself out there and you get turned down, I was proud that I did that because that was normally not my vibe. But when you're like, I have to die, really, you really just don't do it anymore.

That's awesome. How have you been trying to meet people? What were the ways you... Because we were talking about setting up dating profiles and all that stuff. Have you tried anything outside of that? Yes, yes. And I have dating profile set up, but then the person I tried to pursue is actually a friend. So I I went I just went rogue I just went complete you said how about keep it keep it normal and then I decided to go after someone who knew

everything about my Situation so I just said YOLO situation. So I just said YOLO. That person isn't interested in dating right now, which is fine. And I didn't take it personally. But you just got to risk it sometimes. It's quite a time when you figured out how to beat rectal cancer, but dating still eludes us. It really is, it says a lot about the state of the world. Yes, that just goes to show modern dating. The rectal cancer was the easy part. And now we're to the actual challenging bit.

And so where we're ending on this is that you at 28 years old have beat rectal cancer, you are cancer free, and you are ready to mingle and you're now going to see what happens. Cause you went, look, you went through, what was it about 18 months? This whole ordeal probably like a year, a year. So that was a wild year. So like COVID you get to erase that year.

That was the year that doesn't count on your record. So now you're starting over. And so now that you're cancer free, you've got a new attitude. And that new attitude is, as you say, YOLO, let's go for it. So I think from 28 to 30, let's just go fucking nuts. Well, I'm thinking, yeah, I think you should. I think you should. No. Let me jump in once and choose.

No, I what I was was gonna say also is that, do that and even though it seems, you will find at some point someone who finds this story and this ordeal like so compelling and will value it and until then, yeah, just enjoy yourself. Don't worry about it but it, you know, I think at some point you'll find value in the fact that And someone else will as well, you know, okay, and while I have you guys I do have we got to go

Because of this whole ordeal like it took up a year of my life and I wasn't dating previously, I'm now like 28 and I haven't had sex in two years. And I feel like that's something people don't really talk about or it just feels kind of weird. And I just don't know if I'm putting that on myself, if anyone actually does give a fuck, you know? Nobody gives a fuck. What's your worry that you forgot how to fuck? You didn't. Trust me.

Believe me, you haven't. It'll be fine. No man will notice. It's like being ridden by it's like you're the bicycle. Yes. The person on top of you still will remember how to ride the bike. Yes. And it'll be.

I just along for the ride. At least for the first three minutes of the first one. And then you get to go like, now you're the bike. Yes. And it'll be along for the ride. At least at least for the first three minutes of the first one. And then you get to go like, now you're the bike. Yeah, you will really have you guys. It'll be yeah. And I'm going to tell you, I'm going to tell you another thing here. There's something really appealing to the majority of guys of going, it's been two years and nothing's happened.

And you go, because I'm so goddamn sexy and cool that I am the guy. And you go, it's all been waiting for you. And the guy goes like, of course. So this is, if anything, it's like, I would say a positive. What the, it's what we hold on, Garrett. It's way better saying I haven't been with somebody in two years. Then I've been with 4,200 people in the last year and a half. This is a better one.

Neither would dissuade, neither would dissuade. But it's great because it's basically like, you get to try to get a layup against someone who just had MCL surgery and got the green light to start again. That's way better. You know what I'm saying? They're gonna relish it and it'll work out.

This is a big win. You're in such a good zone. Here's what I gotta suggest as the premise of this, as we're in a bar, just pitching to you. Don't create obstacles. Even that to you, this, this is a non-obstacle. And I will say having rectal cancer while going on a dates to me is also, these are non-obstacles. You are a hundred percent in the clear. There's no, I haven't done this in two years. Who cares? Even if you said I'm 28 years old and I've never kissed a guy,

fine. These are non-obstacles. That's really good to hear. But I also wouldn't be, I think if you're on a date, I also think it's a hot thing to say to go like I gotta be honest with you I haven't had sex in two years great yeah I don't think I again for that there are you know there are many many flaws within the male psyche among them is there will be no judgment on that sex will be sex I wonder if Garfin this is a question to both you guys, if in reverse it is different, like if you were on a date, Karen, and a guy said to you, I haven't had sex in two years, is that a bit of a turnoff? I have been with someone in the past who wasn't very sexually experienced, and it was definitely

different because I feel like at least in my sexual experiences as a woman, sometimes I find the driving force comes from the man. So I just feel like there was a little bit of a dynamic shift, but it wasn't a bad thing. I kind of felt like a badass. Now we're talking. The men that listen, the upside of the downside to being the guy in the straight fucking is that you are in charge of the time. And unfortunately, that is on you. So if the time is great.

Hey, listen, you're with a pro. As they say, time is short. Whoopsies. As they say, the heavyweight fight was scheduled for 10 rounds, but it rarely goes to. And then a boxer knocked himself out before he got in the ring. Not great. Because the other boxer did like a really sexy, cute dance that was unexpected at the beginning.

And the fights canceled. The fights, there's no fight. Well, as I was walking out, I didn't know the other boxer was going to have that song on and do that cool thing with their robe. And you just, you walk out, you get to the ring, you turn around, you walk back. I have a concussion

Couldn't be a more gareth line in the history of gareth line Hey corinne, thank you for the call. We appreciate you and uh all bits aside. Congratulations. I'm cancer free congratulations Thanks guys. Thanks so much. It was lovely chatting Congratulations. Thanks guys. Thanks so much. It was lovely. Will you follow up again? And this is now just gonna be creep It's gonna sound creeper than I intended but will you follow up after you have broken the seal? Yes So now we are pushing you we are invested in your story, let us know so we want you on so Get out there. I want we want you on soon, so get out there. I want, we want to hear the story.

Good, bad or indifferent, but we want to know what happens when that two year curse is lifted. Yes. Okay. I will get, I'll get to work. We appreciate you. Thanks for calling in. Wow. Thanks guys.

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